(Closed) What do you want to do/wish you’d done pre-baby?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re not even married yet and I’m starting to want kids :(. Here are a few things we need to get out of the way first, though (other than the wedding, lol!)

  • Buy a home
  • He needs to finish school (he’s going back to become a medic :))
  • I’d like to go to Europe before we have to pay for munchkins to come with us.

Okay, my list is kind of short since we’ll really be waiting on him to finish school. I’ll be interested in hearing other people’s responses!

Post # 5
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I can’t imagine having kids any time soon and I’m 27, hehe.  I think what it boils down to is that I like being able to do what I want when I want to do it.  There are the big things like travel.  But I also like being able to read an entire book in one sitting without anyone bothering me, taking off for a long weekend or even a day trip, things like that.

Post # 6
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No babies here yet, but here are the things I make sure to appreciate and relish now (b/c I know that TTC will come sooner than I am ready for…):

  • travel (my husband and I are planning trips to China and India in 2011)
  • being able to drink, eat sushi and brie, etc.
  • sleep! (especially sleeping in on weekends)
  • the ability to come home from work, sip a glass of wine, and watch L&O:SVU without having to think of anyone but myself
  • the gym – and being able to go without scheduling childcare
  • long, lingering dinners in fancy restaurants
  • a quiet house

Post # 8
5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh good idea!!! We’re getting married in June and I have some serious baby fever now!! We’re not planning on TTC until late 2012 ๐Ÿ™

1. Europe trip (We also would like to be able to enjoy it without the extra cost/energy of kids. Fiance has never been.)

Ah I can’t think of anything else right now except for adorable babies lol. Hopefully other people post and inspire me!

Post # 9
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I didn’t necessarily do it right before baby, but I did a LOT of traveling right out of undergrad for work, and I’m so glad, because it would be hard with a baby and I think I’d be resentful if I’d never gotten to have that period where I could pick up and go anywhere.

I’ve done a couple adventure sport-like things, but I wish I’d gone skydiving one last time, or bungee jumping ever, etc. before getting pregnant. Now I feel like even once the baby is born, I’m not sure I’d want to take the risk.

I wish that my husband and I had gone out and socialized and gone on dates with each other more often. We have plenty of togetherness time, but I wish we’d done more crazy-nights-out-with-friends or romantic dinner dates- stuff that will be hard to do after baby.

We did buy a house, so that was nice- especially since now we have a fenced in yard that makes it a lot easier to have a dog and means I worry less about how to wrangle dog + baby.

One other thing I did, and I’m glad I did, is to work on getting into better shape. Getting really into working out several months before getting pregnant made me feel better about myself, and made it a lot easier to keep being at least somewhat active for much of the pregnancy. Plus, I swear workout out helped the nausea.

Post # 11
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

no brie when pregnant? so sad!

i also have extreme baby fever…but here’s our baby bucket list:

  • fi needs to graduate
  • fi needs a job after he graduates
  • europe trip…but even if we don’t make it there before a baby, i think we’ll leave the kids with one of our parents and go alone ๐Ÿ™‚
  • pay off credit card debt

things i like about being baby-free:

  • doing whatever i want! being lazy on weekends, relaxing after work, no scheduling chaos
  • plenty of time for furbaby, who would probably be super jealous of a baby
  • alone time with fi
  • no parenting stressors on my relationship with fi! i think that’s a big one…couples seem to fight a lot more once they have kids


Post # 13
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hilsy85, this is SUCH a great post!!! I have been thinking and feeling the exact same thing. I am 27 now (will be 28 when I get married) and plan on having children around the 30/31 mark. So that is about 2 years to get everything that’s left out of my system!

Before I have Children I would like to….

1 – Would love to live and experience living in a few other big cities with my Fiance. I already lived in NYC and Philly. Chicago & San Fran are on my list next!

2 – Travel, Travel, Travel! Going to Europe in the summer. Would love to visit Japan, Thailand, India and Africa.

3. – Finish School

4. – Save up a little more money

5. – Experiences! Such as Hang Gliding, Sky Diving, Snorkeling, Zip Lining. Anything thrilling and somewhat dangerous before I am a mother.


LAST but not least.. I hate to admit this but I’ll be honest haha. I’d like to fly to Amsterdam and experience Mushrooms or any other natural drug with my Fiance. To say we did it and tried it once, and it was a hoot! (lol)  And possibly a threesome with a very attractive woman who we will never see again. Haha.. hey I’m just being honest. I want to get everything out of my system before I become the sweet little housewife/mom I plan to be.  Tongue out


Post # 14
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We never got our honeymoon! We didn’t go right away because of DH’s school schedule, and then ended up finding a house and getting pregnant within 2 months of the wedding.

Lose 20 pounds and run a 10k. It’s been my goal for a while, but I was just getting back into running when I got pregnant. I was so exhausted in the first trimester that I gave it up rather quickly.

That’s really it though – we are both ready for kids and have a pretty child-friendly lifestyle already.

Post # 15
2820 posts
Sugar bee

Lots of brie is made with pasturized milk so I’ve still been eating the pasturized kind. 

Travel, I’ve traveled a lot but still wish I’d traveled more (though since my husbands side of the family lives out of the country we’ll still be traveling, it just seems like it will be very different)

Long date days with my husband.  We really enjoy each others company and have had a lot of these but I feel like I’m going to miss them so much.

Post # 16
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

– backpack through Europe

– live overseas

– boudoir photos (I want to remember what my body was like!)

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