Post # 1
So Darling Husband and I are not planning on TTC this year; we’re trying to wait until early 2012. However, I have MAJOR baby fever now. In order to hopefully make the year go by faster, and also to maybe come up with some fun ideas, I want to create a baby bucket list–aka, a list of things I want to do before becoming pregnant/having kids.
I would love to hear from moms, moms-to-be, and people in general about
– Things you wish you had done before getting pregnant/having kids
– Things you’re glad you did before getting pregnant/having kids
– Things that you do now that make you glad you don’t have a baby right now.
Any and all ideas are welcome 🙂
Post # 3
We’re not even married yet and I’m starting to want kids :(. Here are a few things we need to get out of the way first, though (other than the wedding, lol!)
- Buy a home
- He needs to finish school (he’s going back to become a medic :))
- I’d like to go to Europe before we have to pay for munchkins to come with us.
Okay, my list is kind of short since we’ll really be waiting on him to finish school. I’ll be interested in hearing other people’s responses!
Post # 4
@jo.lee: vacations are definitely a huge one for us as well! I wish we had more time off so we could just knock a bunch of places off our list :/ We are going to do California pre-baby though–no way I’m going to go to CA wine country without being able to drink! 🙂
Post # 5
I can’t imagine having kids any time soon and I’m 27, hehe. I think what it boils down to is that I like being able to do what I want when I want to do it. There are the big things like travel. But I also like being able to read an entire book in one sitting without anyone bothering me, taking off for a long weekend or even a day trip, things like that.
Post # 6
No babies here yet, but here are the things I make sure to appreciate and relish now (b/c I know that TTC will come sooner than I am ready for…):
- travel (my husband and I are planning trips to China and India in 2011)
- being able to drink, eat sushi and brie, etc.
- sleep! (especially sleeping in on weekends)
- the ability to come home from work, sip a glass of wine, and watch L&O:SVU without having to think of anyone but myself
- the gym – and being able to go without scheduling childcare
- long, lingering dinners in fancy restaurants
- a quiet house
Post # 7
@septcabride: OMG sushi and brie for sure! I’ll have to go on sushi and cheese eating extravaganzas this year. And I definitely a gree with going to the gym whenever–I’m hoping to start pilates this year, which I probably won’t have time for post-baby!
@EleanorRigby: I definitely agree with “doing what I want, when I want”. I’m trying to be more appreciative of my ability to make my own schedule right now (for the most part, anyway).
Post # 8
Oh good idea!!! We’re getting married in June and I have some serious baby fever now!! We’re not planning on TTC until late 2012 🙁
1. Europe trip (We also would like to be able to enjoy it without the extra cost/energy of kids. Fiance has never been.)
Ah I can’t think of anything else right now except for adorable babies lol. Hopefully other people post and inspire me!
Post # 9
I didn’t necessarily do it right before baby, but I did a LOT of traveling right out of undergrad for work, and I’m so glad, because it would be hard with a baby and I think I’d be resentful if I’d never gotten to have that period where I could pick up and go anywhere.
I’ve done a couple adventure sport-like things, but I wish I’d gone skydiving one last time, or bungee jumping ever, etc. before getting pregnant. Now I feel like even once the baby is born, I’m not sure I’d want to take the risk.
I wish that my husband and I had gone out and socialized and gone on dates with each other more often. We have plenty of togetherness time, but I wish we’d done more crazy-nights-out-with-friends or romantic dinner dates- stuff that will be hard to do after baby.
We did buy a house, so that was nice- especially since now we have a fenced in yard that makes it a lot easier to have a dog and means I worry less about how to wrangle dog + baby.
One other thing I did, and I’m glad I did, is to work on getting into better shape. Getting really into working out several months before getting pregnant made me feel better about myself, and made it a lot easier to keep being at least somewhat active for much of the pregnancy. Plus, I swear workout out helped the nausea.
Post # 10
@septcabride: THIS. Every single word lol!!!!
Post # 11
no brie when pregnant? so sad!
i also have extreme baby fever…but here’s our baby bucket list:
- fi needs to graduate
- fi needs a job after he graduates
- europe trip…but even if we don’t make it there before a baby, i think we’ll leave the kids with one of our parents and go alone 🙂
- pay off credit card debt
things i like about being baby-free:
- doing whatever i want! being lazy on weekends, relaxing after work, no scheduling chaos
- plenty of time for furbaby, who would probably be super jealous of a baby
- alone time with fi
- no parenting stressors on my relationship with fi! i think that’s a big one…couples seem to fight a lot more once they have kids
Post # 12
@Lozza: I was totally expecting people to say things like “sky diving” and “bungee jumping”. If I were ever going to do those things, I guess this year would be the time! But I might be too much of a chicken. I also do want to make sure I work out consistently this year–might as well get as close to a six pack as I can before I gain a ton of weight 🙂 But I’ve also heard that exercising pre-pregnancy/during pregnancy also makes for a leaner baby–aka, they come out more easily. Not sure if that’s actually true.
Post # 13
Hilsy85, this is SUCH a great post!!! I have been thinking and feeling the exact same thing. I am 27 now (will be 28 when I get married) and plan on having children around the 30/31 mark. So that is about 2 years to get everything that’s left out of my system!
Before I have Children I would like to….
1 – Would love to live and experience living in a few other big cities with my Fiance. I already lived in NYC and Philly. Chicago & San Fran are on my list next!
2 – Travel, Travel, Travel! Going to Europe in the summer. Would love to visit Japan, Thailand, India and Africa.
3. – Finish School
4. – Save up a little more money
5. – Experiences! Such as Hang Gliding, Sky Diving, Snorkeling, Zip Lining. Anything thrilling and somewhat dangerous before I am a mother.
LAST but not least.. I hate to admit this but I’ll be honest haha. I’d like to fly to Amsterdam and experience Mushrooms or any other natural drug with my Fiance. To say we did it and tried it once, and it was a hoot! (lol) And possibly a threesome with a very attractive woman who we will never see again. Haha.. hey I’m just being honest. I want to get everything out of my system before I become the sweet little housewife/mom I plan to be.
Post # 14
We never got our honeymoon! We didn’t go right away because of DH’s school schedule, and then ended up finding a house and getting pregnant within 2 months of the wedding.
Lose 20 pounds and run a 10k. It’s been my goal for a while, but I was just getting back into running when I got pregnant. I was so exhausted in the first trimester that I gave it up rather quickly.
That’s really it though – we are both ready for kids and have a pretty child-friendly lifestyle already.
Post # 15
Lots of brie is made with pasturized milk so I’ve still been eating the pasturized kind.
Travel, I’ve traveled a lot but still wish I’d traveled more (though since my husbands side of the family lives out of the country we’ll still be traveling, it just seems like it will be very different)
Long date days with my husband. We really enjoy each others company and have had a lot of these but I feel like I’m going to miss them so much.
Post # 16
– backpack through Europe
– live overseas
– boudoir photos (I want to remember what my body was like!)