Post # 1
What things do you like to whine or complain about when you really shouldn’t? Things, for example, that are in your power to change or are unreasonable to complain about.
- My body and how overweight and unfit I am. All it takes is cutting out the junk and exercising, but I complain anyway. Especially about the addiction I have.
- How long our engagement is and how so many people are getting engaged after us and married before us – completely our decision on when we got engaged, we knew we would have a very long engagement. And we could be closer to getting married if I just had a job.
- My lack of employment – yes the job market sucks, yes I may be considered ‘overqualified’ (friends with degrees faced similar issues, and I have seen it mentioned on the bee) for some jobs particularly retail and fast food, but ultimately I am not applying as much as I should, or chasing up as much as I should be.
So feel free to share things you complain about that you logically shouldn’t, and feel free to complain here!
Post # 2
I tend to complain about work, even though I won’t leave due to the good pay, hours and flexibility.
Other than that, I don’t whine about the stuff I can change. I just change it 🙂
Post # 3
Jacqui90: I don’t really “like” complaining about anything. It creates too much negativity and becomes discouraging. An occasional vent is one thing. But I personally cannot stand to be around people who complain about stuff they are capable of changing. I just don’t have the patience for it.
I will occasionally complain about things beyond my control (like the time of an evening work event I have to attend or how a student behaved) but I keep that between my husband and I or a few people who are close to me.
I do complain to my dog about how bad her breath is though…despite multiple effort to remedy it!
Post # 4
About my husband buying us boxed wine instead of wine in a bottle. I am literally complaining about it to him as I am drinking it right now. Mosty to annoy him though, because it’s actually not that bad lol!
Post # 5
Jacqui90: nada. I’m of the school of thought that anything within my own control that makes me unhappy, let alone stands in the way of me doing things that are majorly integral to achieving my life goals (such as getting married, having a fulfilling career, etc) is action worthy. Complaining is a royal waste of time. I don’t have years of my life to waste that way. Maybe I can’t instantly change it, but I can start taking tangible steps and I sure as hell don’t “like” complaining. Seems to me if you “like” complaining you must be trying to seek out justification for your problems instead of addressing them. Why else would you actally like complaining? It’s not a fun thing to do.
There are plenty of things in life that actually ARE beyond control….and therefore may warrant some complaints…for example, abuse, actual financial hardship, disabilities, discrimination, disease, death, etc. Life is full of challenging shit, but the things that are even remotely within my control? Well, those things are gonna get addressed. At some point. Long before I regale the participants of an online forum with said “complaints” for YEARS on end.
My friends and I have a rule, if you can fix it, then you don’t get to complain about it. You get to talk about it once, but then you freaking fix it. Even if it’s hard….because most things in life are hard. If you CHOOSE not to fix it, fine, your choice. But you don’t get to indulge yourself like an oblivious brat by complaining about it. We won’t listen to it at that point.
Life is too short to be set back by things within our own control. Even if you do manage to solicit the admission from others that they sometimes indulge in complaints rather than summoning the self discipline required to make real changes in their lives, whatever momentary justification you get wont really help anything for you. You’ll still be in the exact same place, unemployed, living at home, unhealthy, and indefinitely “engaged” with no progress in sight. So why ask this question? Adk yourself what you can do today to make a step towards overcoming one of these things….and freakin DO it. Good luck.
Post # 6
Jacqui90: Fiance and I constantly complain about stupid stuff joking towards each other.
my favorite is that I can’t get anymore pets. We have 2 cats, 2 dogs, a lizard, a snake, geckos, and fish. We can’t afford more but the want is strong.
Post # 7
Basically everything in the pharmacy haha.
Post # 8
I always ask for a cappucino at dunkin, but they ring me up for a latte#firstworldproblems
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
Def my body and being overweight and addicted to food. Maybe if I weren’t such a lazy biatch, I wouldn’t have that problem! I know what I need to do…GEEZE GET IT TOGETHER !
I complain about work sometimes but, like a PP said earlier, pay is good and my schedule is flexible. So, I’m pretty lucky.
When im feeling particularly negative, I like to internally complain that I make more money than Darling Husband. I know it’s foolish. He’s responsible with the money he does have and is awesome in so many other ways. So, I quickly get over it.
Post # 10
Jacqui90: At the moment my job. 4 years ago I would’ve done anything but there’s so much to learn in my current job it’s overwhelming
Post # 11
I don’t like to complain, but I have been feeling overwhelmed lately with a very intense school program and a three-year long-distance relationship with my partner. I am at placement full-time AND in three courses at once, so I am starting to feel the heat. My long-distance is coming to an end by July, but not knowing when and were (partner and I need to find jobs after grad school) can be a little much too.
That being said, I know I am so fortunate to be in school in my competative program and I also know that though distance is difficult, I am SO LUCKY to have my amazing boyfriend. When the crazy is over, I will look back at this as a difficult time that made us stronger.
Post # 12
Jacqui90: LOL, my post was NOT fun!!! things I like to complain about for fun is probably wanting to always buy jewelry online (I LOVE bauble bar!) but having to pay duties into Canada. Talk about first world problems!!
Post # 13
That food has calories. And that the delicious food has more.
Half-joking, but I do wish I didn’t gain sooooo easily. . .
Post # 14
kat010710: Haha sorry I guess my post wasn’t worded correctly. I meant that the thread was for fun, not the complaining part, so I didn’t mean to imply or suggest that we all complain for fun. And also ‘like to complain’ I should have worded differently, what I meant was you often complain about, etc.
Post # 15
Jacqui90: haha, its not your fault at all, I guess I didn’t want to be a Debbie Downer! But thank you for making the space safe to complain about real things too! Much appreciated 🙂