(Closed) What do you wish you could\'ve told yourself right before you got engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
853 posts
Busy bee

I would tell myself “slow down and enjoy this”. There’s no rush! Just enjoy the process.

Post # 3
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would laugh in my face and say “WEDDING PLANNING IS HELL”.

Post # 4
3046 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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lightchaser:  Ditto 😀 

Post # 5
2758 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008


Post # 6
4 posts
  • Wedding: August 2016

I wish I would have told myself to not wish the engagement period away.  I’m getting married in less than 2 months but have been engaged since March 2015.  I, like you, knew my boyfriend was going to propose, I actually helped pick out the ring.  I couldn’t wait to be engaged and then when that big moment happened, I couldn’t wait to get married.  I immediately put a wedding countdown on my phone and when it said 300 and some days to go, I wished for it to be 100.  And then when it hit 100 I wished it to be 60 and now I am here.  My advice to you is to be excited and in the moment for every engagement moment including picking out your dream wedding gown, finding the perfect place to get married, heck even choosing invitation font styles.  I wish I had spent less time urging for time to pass because now that it has, I wish time would slow down!  

Post # 7
49 posts

Awwwww I love this! I’m in the same boat (though not as close as you are) and lately I’ve been letting my mind run a bit wild thinking “when is he going to propose, where will we be, how is it going to happen” and everything. I can’t help you out with what I would have done as I’m not engaged yet, but I sure think I need to slow down a bit and enjoy this ride. Thanks for the inspiration, Bee!

I would also love to hear what married/engaged bees wish they could go back in time and tell themselves before getting engaged!

Post # 8
9758 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Focus! I cant even remember what he said now! Haha

Post # 9
877 posts
Busy bee

Thats so exciting! Try and soak everything in when he proposes and try to enjoy every minute of being newly engaged. I think the first few weeks after we got engaged were so special and a really sweet time in our relationship so enjoy it! And don’t feel like you have to set a date and start planning the day after you get engaged. Just take a breath and enjoy this special exciting time! And wedding planning isn’t so bad as some people say (or at least it wasn’t for me). Sorry all my advice is basically for after he proposes but just enjoy the excitement of knowing a proposal is probably coming soon! 

Post # 10
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I wish we would’ve slowed down afterwards. We started planning almost immediately, we are LDR so it gave us something to do. But we have fought more over the past month than we normally ever do. It is okay to slow it down, which we have done now – if either of us feels it is moving to fast we ask the other to slow down and we do no questions asked. It keeps us sane.

That and the one thing I’m glad I did was have a photographer. It amazed me how fast the proposal went. Looking back on pictures I can relive it, but otherwise it is a huge blur except for pieces. Having pictures of that moment really make it so much better to see moments that I didn’t realize were happening. One of my favorites is the picture where I know I was fighting back tears of joy while doing it, and I really cherish that moment now but I would have put it in the back of my mind otherwise.


Post # 12
398 posts
Helper bee

i too wished away my engagement stage… i have 2 months til my wedding now and i wish i could go back to newly engaged and excited. 

Post # 13
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Don’t start planning too soon. I started planning and immediately got stressed. It’s only been two months since we got engaged and I feel like I haven’t been able to just breathe. I think I’m going to slow it down.

Also I don’t really understand what “enjoying the engagement period” means, and I don’t mean that in a rude way. Is there a magical feeling? For us, it feels mostly the same (but we have been together over a decade). Should I be having a magical feeling? I just feel relieved to be validated as a couple, I feel engagement has made us feel more satisfied as a couple.

Post # 14
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Outer Banks

I would tell myself – “Don’t laugh, he’s serious this time.” 😂

Post # 15
166 posts
Blushing bee

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is_a_belle:  this made me laugh so hard 😂

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