(Closed) What do you wish you had done differently in your early 20’s?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 32
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Gone to college instead of partying so much.

Post # 33
10713 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I regret nothing!!! My early 20’s were my best and favorite years!

I used to be sooo thin and pretty and fun… then I turned 25 and gained weight stopped going out as much and got pretty tied down with things and stopped seeing friends so much. Enjoy it…  I wish everyday I could have as much fun as I did 4 or 5 years ago. =) 

Post # 34
704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m only 23 but one thing I do wish already is that I had networked better in college. My professors liked me and gave me encouraging words on my grad date but I could have done so much more.

Take advantage of the opportunity if you’re going to/are in college. See your advisor. Get that extra tutoring. Join clubs that are sponsored by teachers in your field of study. Believe me, they have connections and will help you in your post-college career. You want these people on your side and remembering you.

Post # 35
3696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wish I had studied abroad, not stayed here for my asshole ex-boyfriend.

Also wish I had come to my senses about him earlier.

Live and learn.  🙂  That’s it, though – you are what you make of your life.

Post # 36
1842 posts
Buzzing bee

I am still in my mid 20s and I don’t think there is anything I would change particularly much. Things I am incredibly glad I did:

1. Studied abroad in Ireland/Scotland and traveled to Europe and Israel for a few summers

2. Worked my arse off through college (I never had less than three jobs, at least one full time and was a full time student in over load every semester) I graduated with NO student loans and I can’t even begin to say how free that made me after college.

3. Tried (and still do) to be nice and helpful to absolutely everyone I meet becuase I never know how they might be helpful to me in the future. Many of the people I met in my early 20s helped me land jobs a few years later, or have ended up being incredibly helpful to me later in life.

Post # 37
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Take any opportunity you can to travel – I did a good amount in my early 20s and still feel like it wasn’t enough. Be selfish with that time.

But don’t be selfish with relationships – being young, carefree (and, I hate to say it) dumb (at least for me) is an excuse that will come back to haunt you if you are constantly making impulsive/selfish decisions regarding others. I still have regrets over some old friendships/relationships when I used those excuses for my actions.

Post # 38
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Well I am 24 so still young but the one thing I wish I would have done was a better job in highschool. I did the bare minimum to get by which totally screwed me once I decided what I wanted to go to college for. I did go to college but not for what I wanted. I also wish I hadn’t been in such a rush to settle down and wish I had moved out on my own rather then in with my SO or gone away to school for a bit. I have been living with my SO for 4 years now and am really wishing I had my own space for awhile. I also wish I had stayed in better touch with my friends, as I basically have no one to spend time with besides SO. Honestly the biggest thing I wish I had done was just be a teen, do stupid stuff with friends, boys whatever, just have fun, I was so afraid of disappointing my parents (who were super over protective) that I never really got to be a teen or young adult for that matter. I am just now breaking away from their grasp but its too late to be carefree.  

Post # 39
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have too many regrets.  I will be 25 tomorrow, I am a homeowner, and have a great job due from graduating college with a degree I can use.  I wish I had done a semester abroad, but was to busy playing two sports, and working. I probably just wish I remembered a few more nights, and didn’t drink quite as much. 

Post # 40
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m almost 24 so I’m still in my early 20’s but a few years ago, I wish I hadn’t been so focused on finding a guy and had spent more time focusing on myself. I also wish I had moved out of my parents’ house and lived on my own for a year or two before getting married. (financially it just wasn’t possible though)

Post # 41
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t regret anything as such, but I wish I’d taken a few more “risks” as I was very stuck in my ways and not great at going out, making friends and having a good time.

Post # 42
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I was thinking about this thread and thought of one more thing I didn’t put in my initial response.  I really wish I had spent more time with my grandparents.  I wish I had expressed more interest and appreciation of my grandpa’s garden that he was so proud of and I really wish I had learned to cook from my grandma.  Now they are gone and I miss them very much. 

Post # 43
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not stayed in relationships that weren’t going anywhere… at the expense of ME not going anywhere! I wish i’d gotten a work visa for the UK or Australia or something and lived and worked abroad for a year.

I wish I would have had more confidence in my talent to pursue my passions with more conviction.


Post # 44
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

1. Dated around MUCH MORE

2. Eat horribly.

3. Spend many late nights out with friends.

4. Avoid any major that would make me under 30K.

5. Travel.

Post # 45
6511 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

There’s really only one thing I wish I hadn’t done – gotten credit cards in college!!!  They prey on freshmen on campus, offering cards to any and every one, and I thought I would be okay to have one.  That soon turned into 2 and 2 store cards – big mistake! 

I don’t regret my other choices though – they got me to where I am today 🙂

Post # 46
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@clairykoo:  Sounds like me.

I don’t regret much of anything.  I’m 24 and a homeowner with a wonderful husband and a loving lab mix.  We both have great jobs that provide us with plenty of money to live comfortably and still have fun.  We have no credit card debt or student loans.  Everything I did and choice I made helped lead us to here.

I got to live abroad in SE Asia for a summer by myself which was quite eye-opening.  I also made wonderful friends in college who are still our closest friends.  I worked hard and played hard but didn’t take myself too seriously.  I got heavily involved in extra-curriculars that I enjoyed.

I promise though, it flys by fast!

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