- 11 months ago
- Wedding: November 2016
To somewhat echo bees saying be prepared for it to take a while…. also be prepared for it to not take a while.
Trigger warning for those who struggled or it took a while:
I was like you were I said “Lets starting trying at the end of October or after XYZ life event. Then it would work perfect to be pregnant in XYZ month *ideally*” WELL… I’m now 5 weeks pregnant as of tomorrow because we also abided by the NTNP “method”. I had my mind set I wouldn’t get pregnant before October/November and it just goes to prove that TTC is a crazy journey and you can’t predict what will happen.
I had the mindset that it would take a while too, but it didn’t, so I just caution you to be prepared for that as well because it took my husband and I off guard honestly. I think initially the first week we were shocked and not excited because of our previous mindset, and we’re just now getting excited.
I also wish I did more research on using OPKs and tracking my cycle with a GOOD legit app, not just some easy to use freebie period app.
Be ready for it to happen right away, because it might and also be ready for it to take several months/years, because it might. I was fully gearing up for months of trying (I’m 36), bought like 100 OPKS and HPTs on Amazon and got pregnant on our first cycle trying. We were and are so thankful because we know how common it is for couples to struggle with conceiving. Also be prepared for the first trimester. I’m currently 11+1 and I am just so over this and all the symptoms that come with it. I’ve struggled hard and I can’t even remember what it’s like to feel like myself.
It is a crapshoot. The only thing you can control is when you have sex, so if you want to maximize your chances look into ovulation tests and/or temping so you can pinpoint when you’re fertile and have lots of sex during that window. However, Even with perfect timing and two healthy, fertile people there’s only like a 25% chance it will work.
Baby 1 took us around 6 months total including a miscarriage on the 2nd cycle, I was 32 at the time. I’m 35 now and got pregnant on our third cycle trying for baby 2 (we had perfect timing the first two cycles as well but no dice). It’s very early though, haven’t even missed my period, so I’m in the anxious stage of waiting to see if it sticks. Definitely lots of waiting with TTC.
But yeah the big thing to accept is the loss of control. With most things in life, if you work hard you will find some success, but TTC isn’t like that…you can do everything “right” and still have a long journey, or you can have unprotected sex one time and bam, pregnant on your first try.