(Closed) What do you wish you spent more or less on for your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much did you spend on your wedding?

    Less than $20,000

    $20,000 to $30,000

    $30,000 to $40,000

    $40,000 to $50,000

    More than $50,000

  • Post # 3
    302 posts
    Helper bee

    I wish we had spent more on the honeymoon, less on just about everything else. At the end of the day we had just thrown a huge party

    Post # 4
    1316 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We were in the under 20k category, and I wish we’d spent even less. My parents helped out a lot since they wanted the fancy white wedding for me, but it feels like so much of it was a waste of money for one day. DH and I would have been just as happy with a simpler wedding, especially because we’ve been married less than a year and I hardly ever think about our wedding. There was so much ridiculous family drama that spoiled so much of the planning process that I was just relieved it was all over. One thing I wouldn’t have changed though was splurging on our photographer. We have wonderful photos from the day!

    Post # 5
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - B.C. Canada

    We’re aiming for under $10,000.  It’ll be a big DIY wedding with about 150 guests, mostly family.  The decor includes soup can candle holders and flowers that will (fingers crossed) be grown from my and my family’s gardens.  Mom is making the cake, she’s happy to find ideas for cake decorating that are easy but still classy.  At first we were considering preparing a bunch of lasagnas and freezing them ahead of time for the reception, but people have been warning me against that so we’re looking in to cheaper caterers.

    It depends on how you visualize your big day and what can be compromised to save on money.  Oh and I agree with MKWeddingBee – the photographer is one of the things to splurge on!

    Post # 6
    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

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    cisforcaroline:  While we spent more than I would have imagined if you asked me years ago, I wouldn’t have done it any differently. We didn’t go overboard really on anything but we had 160 people and that gets expensive….but I couldn’t imagine not having everyone there!

    We definitely negotiated on lots things, so don’t be scared to try that. Saved at least $1K on flowers (it’s silly to me to spend so much on something that doesn’t last very long) by negotiating, saved another $1,500 on our photographer and got an even bigger package than we originally planned. 

    One thing I wouldn’t go without, a videographer. Worth every single penny. We have beautiful photos but nothing beats the video. It captures the emotion of the day in the most amazing way. I get all the feels every time I see it and I’ve watched it several dozen times while we helped make edits. It so great to hear our vows and other parts of the day that you may not have totally soaked up that day. Plus, we loved seeing each other getting ready, any little butterflies and excitement that we didn’t know the other was experiencing since we were separated until the first look. Not to mention, it’s a wonderful keepsake of loved ones…my grandmother passed in October and being able to look back seeing her dancing, laughing, and enjoying the day is a something I’ll forever cherish. 

    Post # 7
    6868 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    We spent somewhere around 7000, including cabin rental for some of our guests.  I wish I’d spent more on alterations for my dress.  It wasn’t an expensive gown, just a cute vintage dress and my mom changed my straps.  But it bunched up under the bust and no one told me to pull it down all day, so a lot of my pics look kinda silly to me.  

    I wish I’d spent more on my photographer too, but we opted for “this won’t be perfect but we’ll get a few really good ones, what more do we need?”  And that’s just what happened.  She didn’t do so well with indoors, low lighting and we had bad weather.  The outdoor shots are all nice though.  She also didn’t follow my requests list… we haven’t even got a picture of my husband alone with his parents, for heavens’s sake.  Hindsight’s 20/20 though.

    As for spending less… I regret nothing!  Our biggest splurge was ATVs to ride to the ceremony venue and that was a blast, plus the cabin rentals, which were convenient as well as gorgeous.

    Post # 8
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015 - City, State

    We spend about 35K after all was said and done, including the honeymoon! If there was one thing I wish I spent less on, was invitations -$800!! I don’t know what I was thinking at the time!! Don’t get me wrong, they were designer and very beautiful, but looking back, $800 was crazy!! I did frame one with a picture of us during our ceremony, but I try not to think of all the other ones that were trashed :X

    Post # 9
    36 posts

    Figure out what your priorities are, and spend the money there. For us, it was a great photographer and she didn’t disappoint- we’ve got 1,500 beautiful images from the weekend and another 3,000 outtakes! I also splurged on invitations and calligraphy because I’m a sucker for paper, and I’m so happy I did because they were probably one of my favorite details.

    We skipped a DJ and did Spotify premium playlists for the reception- it worked for us because we only had 65 people and it wasn’t a super high energy late night party crowd. People still had fun dancing, and we saved $1000+. We also skipped favors (we did welcome bags instead), and no one missed them.

    We did signature cocktails during cocktail hour, and we totally could’ve skipped those and just stuck with beer and wine. I really don’t think anyone would’ve missed that. We also could’ve done without things like the menus, which were nice but not necessary. 

    I think the key is to find the things that matter to you and the things that make guests comfortable. If it’s not important to you, and it won’t make your guests less comfortable (I would never recommend skimping on chairs for guests during the ceremony, for instance!) then you can probably skip it and not look back.


    Post # 11
    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

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    cisforcaroline:  One big thing for us was having a sit down face-to-face meetings. There’s something about having more than just a name in email that made people want to go above and beyond for us. 

    For both the florist and the photographer we absolutely loved their work and we expressed that to them, a lot, lots of complimenting. Play a bit to people’s ego – you obviously do love their work so stroke their ego and it may help you meet your budget!

    In those face-to-face meetings we kind of said we wanted to work with them so much we guess we’d be willing to make some changes to what we wanted. For example I was willing to not use one type of flower and go for another less expensive option. They could see we wanted them and were willing to make concessions…so they were as well. 

    Our florist in particular – we wanted some sort of arch/arbor for the ceremony and theirs was $250 to use for 30 minutes with nothing on it. Another $300 to decorate it! So we told them we were looking at options to buy one for $150 and have them decorate it, at least we’d get to keep it after…the guy had built such a relationship with us at that point that he didn’t want us going through all that trouble and said they’d find a way to make it work in our budget. Our original quote for bridal party, parent & grandparent flowers (not yet decided ceremony & reception) was $1600. We said that was our budget for everything and we were upset to realize we couldn’t make this work. They didn’t want to see us go so they came back and gave us everything (including reception and a fully decorated arch for the ceremony) for $1650! 

    Maybe be we completely lucked out but everyone we met in person ended up giving us great prices, below what they’d typically charge. 

    One of my girlfriends planning a wedding around the same time was so frustrated to find out vendors would negoiate. She didn’t even try! They paid top dollar for everything and now looks back and says the $$ wasn’t worth it and a lot of that is due to feeling like they took advantage of her…even though she had an absolutely gorgeous wedding. 



    Post # 12
    153 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

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    cisforcaroline:  I should also add we may have had it a little easier getting married in March rather than peak seasons. There’s always the chance someone else will want to book that day/time but they’d probably rather have something set even if slightly less than hold out hoping someone else wants to book them. 

    Post # 13
    3434 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wish we spent less overall. It was a wonderful day and e everything but now that all the fuss has died down, I’d rather have the money as it could hve been put toward long term goals instead of just one day.

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