(Closed) What do you wish you/ your FI knew before you/your FI purchased the ring?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My Fiance learned a lot about diamonds on YOUTUBE.  

My ring was purchased at the jeweler’s building.

Post # 33
7767 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010


I never directed my post at YOU, so please do not direct yours at me.  I was simply stating what I know to be true.

Post # 36
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I actually got my ring through Gemvara. I would HIGHLY recommend them. If you see a style you like, but you want to change something about it, they will do that for you (including the size of the diamond/stone, how high the setting is, etc.). You custom make your ring and it really feels like your ring in the end of it… it’s made just for you! Plus, they have very good customer service and people to help you out. You can call, chat with them online, or send them an email. Also, they have a 30 day no hassle return policy. And if you need it resized or it’s not quite right, they will pay for the shipping and handling charges and then fix it for free. Haha! I sound like I should work for them… 😉

Post # 37
174 posts
Blushing bee

I am in the ring shopping stage too (ok, ring selected stage).

I would NOT look at chain stores.

I began looking at local quality stores. 

But then a place called “Diamonds Direct” opened up right down the street from my house.  There are only two branches: Birmingham and somewhere (Charlotte?) in NC. 

They have INCREDIBLE PRICES AND SELECTION.   They DO NOT mark up their diamonds and they will prove it to you.  They sell all the major designers, incl. Tacori and Martin Flyer.

If you live anywhere near either of these stores, I absolutely recommend that you go. 

Post # 38
1295 posts
Bumble bee

I have to second buying online while blue nile is nice you can find a much better deal online just check out pricescope.com  While I’m not engaged yet I’ve learned a lot there.  There are some great vednors there such as http://www.whiteflash.com, http://www.briangavindiamonds.com , http://www.engagementringsdirect.com just to name a few.  If you love antique stones you should check out http://www.jewelsbyericagrace.com.  I hope this helps.

Post # 39
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@CorgiTales: I second everything you said!

I think one of the biggest mistakes when it comes to diamonds is that girls go for size over quality. I would say this is a big no no.  You can get a BEAUTIFUL small diamond, but you can not get a BEAUTIFUL low quality diamond.  One ring retailer that my DH went to tried to convince my DH that he should buy for size over quality. He was shocked that they would say this. Other jewlers told my hubby that is not a good idea at all.

My DH bought from a local store, which I loved. He went to MANY stores (he asked around to find out who other people used) and told them what he was looking for, and what his price range was.  All of those places brought diamonds in for him to look at.  He compared many diamonds with many diamonds. He ended up picking the one that he liked the most, and got a pretty good deal on it, since he had done so much looking around and research (which I didn’t know he was doing at the time). He had the diamond set by the store that brought the diamond in, after he found the diamond.

I would say the key is looking around. Do lots of research. Know what you are looking for. Be willing to look around if you have to.

One thing I love about going through a local store is the service that comes along with that. We go in whenever and they clean my ring and take good care of it. That’s definitely a nice thing about having the place we bought our ring from be local (or within 30 minutes).

Post # 41
3315 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@cbee:  Yes, quality diamonds will increase in value.  However, that does not make them a good investment for individuals (as opposed to jewelers).  The issue is that what you would get for a diamond if you sold it will always be about half the cost to buy the same diamond.  So suppose you buy a diamond for $10,000.  If you tried to sell it the next day, you would get only about $5,000.  Even if the diamond were to go up in value by 10% a year (which would be much more than historical averages), it would be ten years before you could even get back what you paid for it.  If you had instead put the original $10,000 into stocks, or even just a bank savings account, you would have much more than $10,000 at the end of that ten-year period.

You can buy diamonds because you like the look of them, or have a sentimental attachment to them.  However, buying them as an investment is almost always a poor choice.

Post # 42
5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re biased. lol. DH and I bought our rings from Fred Meyer jewelers becausehe is employed with the kroger company and got a discount.

He def. did his research on cut/color quality, and I love what he choose for my e-ring!

Post # 43
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not a fan of diamonds. I hate the industry and I hate the idea of the mining of gold and diamonds. Don’t get me wrong, diamonds are pretty, but De Beers sucks and the mark up in price is crazy. So we went with moissanite. I don’t have to worry about the health and well being of those who are mining them. I don’t have to worry about me contributing to more pollution. Lastly, we didn’t have to take out a loan to get me the bling I wanted.

Post # 44
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@patco: I actually worked in the office a jewelry store for a while and these are my best suggestions for you guys based on what I saw:

 1.) Try to get as close to your dream diamond now if you can (ie: bigger, whiter, clearer, better cut.. whatever it may be) because it is much more expensive to “upgrade” the diamond later on than it is to upgrade the setting. If you already have a nice diamond then you’ll be able to change the setting later on for much less money than buying a bigger, better diamond will cost. Of course, many people prefer to keep their original sets, so this is not necessary by any means.

 2.) Check ahead of time to make sure that there is a matching band for your engagement ring if you’re going to wear a wedding band (and try to order it at the same time you’re getting your Engagement Ring if you’re able to). We had customers come in all the time who couldn’t find matching bands (whether they purchased from us or elsewhere) and it was fairly upsetting for them.

Post # 45
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@patco: I forgot……. my Fiance was given his family’s “heirloom” diamond to use for my ring (he was still in college and had a smaller budget, so it worked perfectly) and he actually ended up having my ring custom made because he couldn’t find anything that was similar to what I’d wanted for his price range.

Often times custom = more expensive, but you should definitely double-check about having custom work done because my setting actually ended up being way less expensive than if he’d gone and purchased something similar at a store. However, creating my band is costing us nearly double what we were planning on spending (yikes!) so definitely ask about that too! haha

Post # 46
3147 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I wish I knew about white sapphires. I had never heard of white sapphires before this month, and if I had known about them, I would have hinted to my Fiance for one of those instead of a diamond.

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