(Closed) What do you WISH your bridesmaids did on your wedding day?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wish my bridesmaids/groomsmen had decorated our car for us! 

Post # 4
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

During photos really play the stylist to the bride AND groom.  My girls were there making sure I looked perfect but my Darling Husband hair got blown to the side a little bit showing his hairline which he is self conscious of.  So perfectly good pictures of us he cannot stand because of his hair!  Nothing Photoshop can’t handle but it would of been nice for someone to help him out on the day of.

Post # 5
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wish my bridesmaids had of stayed with me while I was getting dressed.

My MOH’s Boyfriend or Best Friend arrived just as I was getting into my dress, so she left to help him check into their room for the night.  My other bridesmaid (my SIL) daughter was having a meltdown, so she had to tend to her.  I kind of wish she had of taken her to my brother and said “Deal with this!” and came back to me.

At one point, I was standing, all alone, in my dressing room.  My mom walked in and I broke down into tears.

So, my advice, don’t leave your bride alone, during crunch time.

Post # 6
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My bridesmaids were brilliant so I have some suggestions of things they DID do that you should do:

– Take the bride’s mobile and answer it so she doesn’t have to handle any calls from suppliers.

– Write a list of contacts (best man, etc) so you don’t have to find a number in a strange phone if it’s needed.

– Tell the bride she looks gorgeous. My Maid/Matron of Honor said: “You’re going to knock that man out.” It was really sweet of her and it made me feel great.

– Find out where the biggest toilet cubicle is so you know where to take the bride when she needs to go!

Post # 7
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m commenting on this for future reference 🙂 

Post # 8
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ohh, good topic.  Subscribing.  Also, would like to know what good things BMs did that were helpful.  Will create a spinoff topic. 

Post # 9
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a great post, subscribing to it

Post # 10
5474 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My bridesmaids were amazing 🙂  One of them brought an emergency kit (nail file, clear polish, dental floss, those little finger-toothbrush thingys, needle & thread, straws, I dunno- a bunch of handy dandy stuff) and it was in a cute zipper pouch.  My sister/MOH helped steam my dress one last time, another Bridesmaid or Best Man helped stitch my bustle to the hooks (it kept coming undone and was driving my crazy), they all helped each other with hair and make-up, SIL who was also a Bridesmaid or Best Man kind of helped steer her mom out of my way (she can be a bit overbearing, but she’s nice & means well).  My mom, step-mom, and a handful of BMs also helped get me into my dress- it was definitely a team effort!

The BMs also helped be the go-between since I didn’t want to see MrDane before the wedding.  I had my vows & had forgotten to give them to the officiant- I didn’t want to be pulling them out of my bra during the ceremony!  So one of my BMs took them to him for me 🙂

The only thing I would have changed is that two of my BMs got shit face wasted, falling down drunk.  It happens.  I wasn’t mad at all, they looked silly, not me, but I would have liked for them to at least be coherent and more upright.

Post # 11
3263 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

As a bridesmaid in a wedding next year this is helpful.


Post # 12
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

These aren’t wedding day responsibilities, but I think one great thing one of my bridesmaids has been doing is scheduling girl time. I’m so in over my head with wedding planning, and she’s trying to make sure I take time to just hang out and destress. The same bridesmaid has also stepped in and volunteered to go to vendor appointments when my fiance can’t make it.

Another one of my bridesmaids has been amazing simply because she’s elated I’m getting married and shows her excitement for the wedding any change she gets. It’s like having a wedding cheerleader.

Post # 14
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Noticed that my veil was caught before the photos.

Been on time and remembered everything.

Reacted when something needed doing instead of standing there looking blank.

Held my dress up out of the rain instead of my mum doing it.

Not asked dumb questions when I was rushing to get dressed.

Mine were pretty unhelpful!!


Post # 15
3942 posts
Honey bee

Good thread! subscribing

Post # 16
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My bridesmaids were awesome! I think the above-and-beyonds were that one made me a sandwich for lunch while we were all getting our hair and makeup done — good to keep the bride fed! And another drank with me. I know it sounds dumb, but there I was on my wedding day, nervous as twenty hells, so I wanted a glass of white wine. And you know that awkward moment when you’re like “man, I could use a drink” and all your friends look at you in horror because it’s not even noon and you suddenly feel like an alcoholic? That didn’t happen. Bridesmaid already had the bottle open and made sure I stuck to my own plan of wine-water-wine-water all day so I didn’t get all drunk and dehydrated before the ceremony. I really appreciated that!

And of course, they helped with my hoop skirt drama, which first involved cutting off the bottom tier of it, and then crawling under my dress to help me safety-pin the waistband. Ah, they were the best!

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