- coconutmellie
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
If your in-laws live many hours away from you (monthly visits not being possible), what do they do to bridge the gap and make you feel loved, accepted and validated?
If your in-laws live many hours away from you (monthly visits not being possible), what do they do to bridge the gap and make you feel loved, accepted and validated?
Ohhhhhhhhhhh boy. One never calls us and the other writes emails begging us to come home. Always pleasant.
Ummm nothing, well unless of course you consider them saying rude things and accusing you of “stealing” their son/grandson away…jokingly of course
We used to skype once a week, send cards and email and talk on the phone.
they don’t really do anything. i’ve never even met my husband’s mother! (and weve been married 10 months) but she’s coming to our wedding, so i’ll get to meet her then! My husband’s father however drove to my hometown for thanksgiving and stayed with my parents (my husband and i were there too, of course). so that was nice to have him there, too.
My parents live 14 hours away, and they don’t really do anything to connect with my Fiance. They don’t need to, he knows they like him a lot (or love him maybe?), and we just spend time together when they visit or when we visit them. When they call, they only talk to me, and occasionally ask how he is. This arrangement seems normal and it doesn’t bug him at all!!
Ditto June. Haha. It’s more like what haven’t they done to make me feel like an outsider and I don’t belong.
Good for you gals who have IL’s who actually make an effort to not make your life hell.
My mom facebooks us, haha. And always asks about DH and tells me to tell him hi. She recently made a batch of jam and made sure to include his favorite flavor.
How often do you speak on the phone, generally? Is it through your DH or are these phonecalls directly to you?
By the way, the direction this thread went is really funny.
When we lived far away (Ca to NJ) they spoke to the girls and Fiance mostly I think, but to me too. I never felt left out or anything. I don’t think they are normal future IL’s though.
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