(Closed) What do your far away in-laws do to bridge the distance?

• deetroitwhat
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

Ohhhhhhhhhhh boy.  One never calls us and the other writes emails begging us to come home.  Always pleasant.

• MrsPinkPeony
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2011

Ummm nothing, well unless of course you consider them saying rude things and accusing you of “stealing” their son/grandson away…jokingly of course

• Belle2Be
• 10 years ago

We used to skype once a week, send cards and email and talk on the phone.

• kitzy
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2011

frequent phone calls, emails, and occasional visits

• rlsh86
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: January 2011

they don’t really do anything.  i’ve never even met my husband’s mother!  (and weve been married 10 months)  but she’s coming to our wedding, so i’ll get to meet her then! My husband’s father however drove to my hometown for thanksgiving and stayed with my parents (my husband and i were there too, of course).  so that was nice to have him there, too.

• OttawaBride2011
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2011

My parents live 14 hours away, and they don’t really do anything to connect with my Fiance. They don’t need to, he knows they like him a lot (or love him maybe?), and we just spend time together when they visit or when we visit them. When they call, they only talk to me, and occasionally ask how he is. This arrangement seems normal and it doesn’t bug him at all!!

• deetroitwhat
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPinkPeony: Ohhhhhhh you have me laughing outloud. I always wonder if his family sits up there thinking what a b I am because he moved away to be with me.

• nyebride
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: December 1969

Ditto June.  Haha.  It’s more like what haven’t they done to make me feel like an outsider and I don’t belong. 

Good for you gals who have IL’s who actually make an effort to not make your life hell.

• ejs4y8
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2009

My mom facebooks us, haha. And always asks about DH and tells me to tell him hi. She recently made a batch of jam and made sure to include his favorite flavor.

• Mrs.KMM
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

@OttawaBride2011: My parent’s are the exact same way with DH and my ILs are the exact same way with me!  They don’t need to be calling / emailing consistently for me to know that they love me and are so excited to have me as a part of the family (same with my parents towards DH).  It’s so blatently obvious whenever we do get to spend time with them that they feel that way!  I don’t need to communicate with them consistently to know that!

• Belle2Be
• 10 years ago

When we lived far away (Ca to NJ) they spoke to the girls and Fiance mostly I think, but to me too. I never felt left out or anything. I don’t think they are normal future IL’s though.

• kitzy
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2011

@coconutmellie:they mostly talk to fi, but probably every other week his mom thinks of a question that she has to ask me so he’ll pass the phone or she’ll email me directly. i’m not much of a phone talker, so i like that they mostly go through him!