MemberIf your in-laws live many hours away from you (monthly visits not being possible), what do they do to bridge the gap and make you feel loved, accepted and validated?
MemberOhhhhhhhhhhh boy. One never calls us and the other writes emails begging us to come home. Always pleasant.
MemberUmmm nothing, well unless of course you consider them saying rude things and accusing you of “stealing” their son/grandson away…jokingly of course 
MemberWe used to skype once a week, send cards and email and talk on the phone.
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Memberthey don’t really do anything. i’ve never even met my husband’s mother! (and weve been married 10 months) but she’s coming to our wedding, so i’ll get to meet her then! My husband’s father however drove to my hometown for thanksgiving and stayed with my parents (my husband and i were there too, of course). so that was nice to have him there, too.
MemberMy parents live 14 hours away, and they don’t really do anything to connect with my Fiance. They don’t need to, he knows they like him a lot (or love him maybe?), and we just spend time together when they visit or when we visit them. When they call, they only talk to me, and occasionally ask how he is. This arrangement seems normal and it doesn’t bug him at all!!
Member@MrsPinkPeony: Ohhhhhhh you have me laughing outloud. I always wonder if his family sits up there thinking what a b I am because he moved away to be with me.
MemberDitto June. Haha. It’s more like what haven’t they done to make me feel like an outsider and I don’t belong.
Good for you gals who have IL’s who actually make an effort to not make your life hell.
MemberMy mom facebooks us, haha. And always asks about Darling Husband and tells me to tell him hi. She recently made a batch of jam and made sure to include his favorite flavor.
Member@OttawaBride2011: My parent’s are the exact same way with Darling Husband and my ILs are the exact same way with me! They don’t need to be calling / emailing consistently for me to know that they love me and are so excited to have me as a part of the family (same with my parents towards DH). It’s so blatently obvious whenever we do get to spend time with them that they feel that way! I don’t need to communicate with them consistently to know that!
MemberHow often do you speak on the phone, generally? Is it through your Darling Husband or are these phonecalls directly to you?
MemberBy the way, the direction this thread went is really funny.
MemberWhen we lived far away (Ca to NJ) they spoke to the girls and Fiance mostly I think, but to me too. I never felt left out or anything. I don’t think they are normal future IL’s though.
Member@coconutmellie:they mostly talk to fi, but probably every other week his mom thinks of a question that she has to ask me so he’ll pass the phone or she’ll email me directly. i’m not much of a phone talker, so i like that they mostly go through him!
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