(Closed) What do your stepchildren call you?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Both of my future step-sons are older 25 & 20. The 25 year old calls me by my first name and the 20 year old calls me “mom dukes”…LOL 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

My SO and I had this conversation the other night.  His son (4) has called me by my name as long as he’s been able to talk.  SO and his ex wife share custody, so she is Mom, and I am “Flutter”.  I would never ask a child to call me anything other than what he’s comfortable calling me.  Once the engagement is official, we will talk with him more about it, but we’re going to tell him that he’s SUPER special because he has a Mommy AND a Daddy AND a Flutter…and nobody else in the WORLD has a Mommy AND a Flutter!  As he gets older, if he wants to call me something else, he can.  But the choice will rest solely with him.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

From the perspective of a perpetual stepchild (I have had three different step-moms), starting at age 10, I have always called them by their first name.  I am particularly close with my current stepmom, and sometimes we joke and I call her my step-monster.  Anyway, it’s always been first names for me!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My stepson (5 years old) calls me by my first name. It’s really cute though because when he talks about me to other people I’m “my Bakerella” like everyone else in the world has a Bakerella, but his is the most important. He’s called me mommy by accident a couple times, but he’s also done that to Darling Husband 😉 If he ever wants to change it up he certainly can as long as it’s something endearing 😉

My nephews have a little nickname for me that’s similar to my name and when the older one calls me by my full name I get so sad. I hate it! I think I’ll insist on being the short form forever!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My stepson is going to be 13 this year and he calls me Miss Jessica.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

It’s always a bit awkard when dealing with kids that age.  SO was sort of playing a game with him one night and was like, “Do you love me?”  “Yes.”  “What about Nanna.  You love Nanna?”  “Yes.”  And Papa?”  “Yes.”  “And Flutter?”  “No.”  LoL…he’s still warming up to me, but I’m going to let him take it as his own pace.  They’re learning about family at schoool, and SO was going through family.  He asked his son if I was family and he said, “No.”  SO tried to correct him and say, “She IS family.”  I talked to him about it later because I’m *technically* not family.  Once the engagement is “official”, we’ll be including him in the wedding planning.  And I’m pushing for a bounce house at the reception… 😉

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My future step-son calls me by my first name. He always has and this doesn’t bother me at all. We’ve never tried to push him to call me “mom” or anything similar to that. He used to spend equal time with both sets of parents, but as we recently moved we’ve had less time with him. He is four.

Our situation is a little frustrating, however, because his biological mother recently remarried and despite our ongoing conversations she has been pushing the little one to call her new husband “dad.” She does not allow him to call me “mom.” This gets confusing because he wonders why he has two dads, but not two moms.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SoontobeMrsA:

Oh yes, you call all your elders Miss/Mr First Name. My FH’s brother is remarried and his four kids all call their stepmother, his wife, Miss Suzanna. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My soon to be stepsons have always called my by my first name (3 & 6). They have a mom, she’s very involved in their lives (we only get the boys ever other weekend). I do NOT want to be their mom, I will be there for them, support them, help them, love them, but I will never be their mom, which I’m totally satisfied with. They don’t need to be confused any more than they already are.

Their mother is kind of crazy, so I try to keep my role in their lives quite simple.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mrs.peters.to.be:

Ugh, I feel bad for your Fiance. I think it’s totally wrong for parents to allow or expect their children to call a stepparent Mom or Dad if their REAL Mom or Dad is in their life. It’s not only confusing, but it’s disrespectful to the REAL mom and dad!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Mine calls me “bonus.”  As in bonus mom and I call her my bonus daughter.  She came with Fiance as a bonus. Wink She is 18.

As a side note:  I read pp cringing at the idea of young children calling adults by their first names.  I don’t know if it’s the region where I grew up or my family but that’s a big no no for me. They either insert Ms/Mr or even Aunt/Uncle, depending on who, before the first name.

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