Post # 1
Bees, looking for some fun advice from all the married ladies out there! I love my husband to death and we have an amazing relationship, but we seem to have trouble finding things to do for fun. He works a very demanding job- 50 hours/week, some late nights, some weekends. I work a pretty regualr 40-50 hour work week with few weekends. We are both “work-a-holics” in that we can’t sit still- even when we’re home we’re either working on a project, doing stuff around the house, cleaning, cooking, etc. Our routine is that when we come home from work (I get home first) I exercise for an hour, then cook dinner. We eat when he gets home, clean up, and then watch TV/relax for the night. Weekend wind up being most of the same- housework all day, relaxing at night. We do see both families on one weekend day which takes up most of the day. We rarely do things for “fun” because we can’t think of anything to do. We’ll occasionally go out to dinner, but don’t love to- we both love to cook and feel like we make better food at home. My husband dislikes day trips, shopping, etc. (things that I would enjoy) and I feel a bit uncomfortable asking him to do things. He doesn’t really enjoy going to sporting events (would rather watch it on TV). We’re both very very practical- which is a good thing but can be bad! We don’t really have many friends and don’t enjoy going out partying.
So my question is- what things do you/your husband enjoy doing together for fun?
Post # 2
Now that it’s summer, we do a lot of gardening together. We’re both pretty into our veggie garden. We take our dogs for long walks, which gives us about an hour to unplug and chat every night. If there’s a local event, like a weekly outdoor concert we might check that out. Our town has a live theatre company, so we go watch the new show every month…weekends we might go to the movies. We both like camping and weekend trips, so we do a lot of that as well. Winter we’ll play board games pretty often.
Post # 3
We were just talking about this, here is our list:
-Walks: we got on a nightly walk and talk about our day
-Cooking/Baking: we don’t really love cooking, but it’s something we do together
-Excerise: we both love yoga and random stuff at our gym.
-Exploring local State Parks: We both enjoy walking around in the outdoors, so we do try to make it out to a big state park at least a few times over the summer
-Traveling: We have recently taken a couple big trips, but we also like to do weekend getaways and camping
-Playing board games together
-Going out to local tap rooms for beer
Post # 4
We tend to meet up with friends for food and drinks pretty often. Depending on the day we’ll cook and have people over or go to a friend’s for a BBQ and drinks. We love trying out new bars and restaurants in our city with different friends or just us two.
On the nights we stay in we like to quickly tidy the flat together, then light some candles and watch some Netflix.
We love walking around and exploring so we’ll do that in our city on a Saturday or Sunday, just pick an area and walk around, maybe find a flower market, stop for a cocktail etc. We also love weekend away to explore, so we tend to do a European city break one weekend out of every two months.
Post # 5
All of these ideas sound fun! Wish I could get my DH to go on walks. I’m a huge walker; it’s what I do daily for exercise. He won’t go with me- he says it’s pointless! lol
Post # 6
Aside from the usual cleaning that everyone has to do, we enjoy being outdoors. We go to parks and have breakfast or lunch outside. We go on walks with our daughter. We camp once or twice a year.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2017 - State Park
In the summer we go to the beach every weekend we have available. It’s our favorite place and favorite thing to do.
I garden. He loves local racing and will go to the track about once a week. We both like projects around the house and will create them even if we have nothing to do. I’ll get furniture super cheap at yard sales or whatever and refinish it, usually I’ll give it away when I’m done.
In the winter we don’t do much other than projects around the house. It’s a lot of tv watching. Every fall we make a list of things we want to do in the winter. We usually hit about 20 things and accomplish like 5. But it’s a lot of day trips – cities, particular restaurants we want to try especially if they’re far away, tubing, particular baking or cooking projects, etc.
Its great to find things to do together. But it’s also great to find things to do individually especially if you have something you’d like to explore that’s he’s not as interested in.
Post # 8
My hubby is really into boardgames and he got me invovled in it too. Once a week he meets up with his friends and on that day I go to yoga and once a week we go together to a boardgame night – it’s a lot of fun, very social.
Now that it’s warm we also ride our bikes more often.
Jigsaw puzzles is also something we enjoy doing together.
He’s the more outgoing social one and hates sitting at home so even on the days we don’t have any plans we at least have a walk around the block.
Post # 9
You mentionend you both enjoy cooking…maybe you guys could take a fun cooking class together??? Do you think your DH would be up for something like that?
Post # 10
We walk our dog together, go to the pool or beach. We live in Orlando, and have annual passes to Disney and Universal, so we typically do that 1-2 times a month. We both enjoy music, so we go to concerts sometimes. We have checked out some of the local touristy things to do around here or will just go to a local farmers market or art show and walk around when the weather is nice. Sometimes I just wander over to groupon and find something that is cheap and looks fun. He also enjoys poker and I don’t hate it, so sometimes we will sit down late at night and play against each other with music playing and just talk and enjoy our time together.
Post # 11
That would be a good idea, but he’s actually a chef! lol.
Post # 12
we go hiking, play board games, do puzzles, talk about the news or new books we’ve read, get tipsy and do living room karaoke from Youtube (pre-pregnancy, but it was fun!), browse yard sales, play with the dog, or go out to dinner/movie/show. We somehow even manage to make house projects fun and teach ourselves new skills.
Post # 13
Learn something together, we did a ski course at our local indoor slope which was great. We then started ballroom dancing lessons to get some wedding first dance prep in and have kept going. There’s a reason couples hook up on Strictly (the UKs dancing with the stars), its nice to look into your husbands eyes for an hour 🙂 we’re not very good and the youngest by 20 years but it makes us feel better if we veg on the sofa the rest of the week.
Someone else mentioned jigsaws and we also did one the other week for the first time! We thought itd be a bit lame but all the visitors to our house wanted to help too and we enjoyed it.
Post # 14
We have been trying to organize a dance class together for months, just waiting for the cycle to come up. Is there a class you could take together, or a new hobby? Learn a language or do something artistic?
If he doesn’t like walking for exercise, you could try walking somewhere with a goal. We try to pick a new neighborhood once every couple weekends and go explore it and then find a new place there for dinner/drinks.
Is there a house/apartment project you might like to do together? Painting a room, or something more ambitious like a building project.
What about somewhere that has a membership you could get together – museum/amusement park/gallery/national park/athletic center?
Post # 15
Thank you! I can’t see him getting into a new hobby. He’s just the type that has to do things with a purpose- if not, he finds it a waste of time. We spent the last 2 months (weekends only) building ourselves a shed in the backyard- which is not necessarily my thing, but I helped and learned from him.
I think I need practical ideas/house projects lol.