(Closed) What does a Christian Officiant say?

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

A lot of people write their own ceremonies! Check out books from the library and keep searching online.  Indiebride.com has a lot of threads on ceremonies and vows. You will be fine.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Typically a ceremony script should include these things (but if you don’t like something its definitly okay to leave it out or change it)

Welcome to the wedding of _____

Declaration of intent (This is where the officiant ask you and Fiance Do you want to be married/be with this women etc, and you and Fiance respond Yes or I will)

ceremony readings, special song, prayer

Vows (The actual promises you and Fiance make to each other)

Rings (a short statement about the rings are a symbol of …..)

Any other blessings or ceremonies like unity candles etc.  

Presentation of the bride and groom to the guests (I know pronounce you….)

You can google each section of the ceremony and get all kinds of ideas for what wording you want to use exactly. Hope this helps a little.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Good luck! I think doing a search could get your ideas going. Also try youtube, there might be some cool videos!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

In order to have a legal marriage, you need the declaration of intent (do you….? i do) and vows. other than that, you can have or not have anything you want. The Knot actually has a selection of vows from different faits/traditions/secular approaches that are a nice starting point. For instance, we are doing the secular humanist vows with a slight language change. For our friend/officiant, we wanted to make it as easy as possible on her so we just found vows and two readings and worked them together so she doesn’t have to write a speech in addition to talking front of a ton of people.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Hubby and i had a traditional christian wedding ceremony here were our vow’s

TRADITIONAL VOWS

 Groom, do you desire this day, before God and these witnesses, to enter into a marriage covenant with Bride.  If so, answer “I do”.

 I, Groom, take you Bride, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part. As God is my witness, I give you my promise.

 Bride, do you desire this day, before God and these witnesses, to enter into a marriage covenant with Groom.  If so, answer “I do”.

 I, Bride, take you Groom, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part. As God is my witness, I give you my promise.

And the ceremony went like this,

Wedding Ceremony Order

  1. Seating of grandmothers/mothers
  2. Processional (audience seated after)
  3. Giving of the Bride (parents standing)
  4. Thanks to parents
  5. Prayer- Dad
  6. Scripture
  7. Encouragement/Message
  8. God’s Knot (instead of unity candle or sand)
  9. Vows/Rings
  10. Declaration/Prayer of Blessing
  11. Pronouncement (husband and wife)/Kiss
  12. Introduction of couple
  13. Recessional

But thats just what we did. hope this helps 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

@JoJoDahling:  I’m not a huge knot fan either, but we did find helpful ceremony stuff and vows there. If you’re looking for traditional, they have that covered. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance & have a Pastor performing our ceremony, but Fiance is not at all religious, so he didn’t want to use the example that the pastor emailed us; so I wrote our own.  My ceremony includes 1 Cor 13:4-7.  If you would like to see that, I will PM it to you.

This is the example:

 MATRIMONY

At the day and time appointed for the solemnization of matrimony, the persons to be married—having been qualified according to law and by careful counsel and guidance by the minister—standing together, facing the minister, the man to the minister’s left and the woman to the right, the minister shall address the congregation as follows:

DEARLY BELOVED: We are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the presence of these witnesses, to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is an honorable estate, instituted of God in the time of man’s innocency, signifying unto us the mystical union that exists between Christ and His Church. This holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with His presence and first miracle that He wrought, in Cana of Galilee, and St. Paul commended as being honorable among all men. It is, therefore, not to be entered into unadvisedly, but reverently, discreetly, and in the fear of God. Into this holy estate these persons present now come to be joined.

 Addressing the couple to be married, the minister shall say:

_______________ and _______________, I require and charge you both as you stand in the presence of God, to remember that the commitment to marriage is a commitment to permanence. It is the intent of God that your marriage will be for life, and that only death will separate you. If the vows you exchange today be kept without violation, and if you seek always to know and do the will of God, your lives will be blessed with His presence, and your home will abide in peace.

Following the charge the minister shall say unto the man:

_______________, will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live?

Response: I will. 

Then shall the minister say unto the woman:

_______________, will you have this man to be your wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love, honor, and keep him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live?

Response: I will.

Then the minister shall ask:

Who gives this woman to be married to this man?

Response (by the father, or whoever gives the bride in marriage): I do. 

Facing each other and joining right hands, the couple shall then exchange the following vows: 

The man shall repeat after the minister: 

I, ____________, take you, ____________, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better–for worse, for richer–for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge you my faith.

 The woman shall repeat after the minister:

I, ____________, take you, ____________, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better–for worse, for richer– for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge you my faith.

If desired, a ring ceremony may be inserted at this point. The minister receives the ring from the groomsman and, in turn, passes it to the groom. As he then places it upon the bride’s finger, he shall repeat, after the minister:

This ring I give you as a token of my love and as a pledge of my constant fidelity. 

Repeat for double ring ceremony.

The couple then shall kneel as the minister offers the following, or an extemporaneous prayer:

O Eternal God, Creator and Preserver of all mankind, Giver of all spiritual grace, the Author of everlasting life, send Your blessing upon these Your servants, this man and this woman, whom we now bless in Your name; that as Isaac and Rebekah lived faithfully together, so these persons may surely perform and keep the vow and covenant made between them this hour and may ever remain in love and peace together, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. 

Then shall the minister say: 

Forasmuch as this man and woman have consented together in holy wedlock, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, and have declared the same by joining of hands, I pronounce that they are husband and wife together, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Those whom God has joined together let not man put asunder. Amen. 

The minister shall then add this blessing:

God, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, bless, preserve, and keep you; the Lord mercifully with His favor look upon you, and fill you with all spiritual benediction and grace. May you so live together in this life that in the world to come you may have life everlasting.

 The minister may then conclude with an extemporaneous prayer and/or benediction. (429.7)

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