Post # 1
one of my awesome friends has graciously offered to be the DOC for my wedding. since this isn’t her actual full-time job, she won’t necessarily know what to do, so i want to provide her with as much info as possible to help her make sure everything runs smoothly.
here’s what i’ve come up with so far:
– detailed timeline
– name and contact numbers for all bridal party members and vendors
– gratuities for vendors in clearly labelled envelopes (all payments will be taken care of before the day of)
– seating chart, along with instructions for where to put unexpected guests
– sewing kit (although i’m praying for no dress drama!)
am i missing anything? let me know if you have any tips or suggestions! thanks.
Post # 3
Emillee, Congrats on your upcoming wedding. It seems that you pretty much have everything laid out for your friend/DOC. As an amatuer DOC, I also like to have the list of music you’ve given your DJ for spotlight dances (i.e., first dance, father-daughter dance, closing dance). Most DJ’s are always ready, but I like to know what you expect from him/her and make sure he’s all cued up and ready to go at appropriate times. You can include this in the detailed timeline to make it easier and less paper to hold on to. Congrats again!
Post # 4
I did this for a friend, and although I’m not a professional, I’ll let you know what worked for me.
First of all, you are off to a *wonderful* start!!! You’ve got most of it already taken care of. That the sewing kit is a must, but I’d also recommend a full on emergency kit. The knot has a wonderful list that you can start from and most of the stuff can be picked up in a run to Target in their travel toiletries isle. We must have used the scissors I put in there a million times the day of the wedding, and all day long I found myself pulling stuff out of it! Oh and bobby pins, bobby pins, bobby pins! You can never have too many.
Also, I’d give her a very detailed list of the ceremony processional. One of the big things she’s going to need to do is tell Grandma X when to walk down the isle and who needs to escort her.
Also, I would recommend sharing as much about the wedding with her as you can (and she is willing to listen). The more she knows about your vision for the wedding, the more she will be able to improvise if something goes wrong. And I highly recommend having some sit down sessions with her the few weeks before the wedding and then one as close to the wedding as possible to wrap up any lose ends. If you can take her to the facility(ies) that is SO helpful!
Finally, highly recommend that she wear comfortable shoes! She’ll be doing a lot of running around and will be hating life if she wears uncomfortable shoes. Also, as cute as the dress was that I wore, I wish I’d warn pants with pockets or brought a small purse I could carry everything in. I literally had my cell phone on me the ENTIRE day! I didn’t have any pockets and my purse was too big so it is in my hand in every single picture!
Post # 5
You’ll want to burn a CD of any important songs/dances that you want at your wedding as a backup and give it to your DOC.
Our DOC will also be sure to grab my dad and have him ready on the side of the dance floor for the father/daughter dance and get the mic to anyone who wants to make a speech or a toast.