- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I plan on having 3 bridesmaids. They are my closest and dearest friends. They are all special to me in different ways. They all live far from me, and I don’t really have any huge expectations of them as BMs. I live in N.FL, they live in S.FL, Atlanta, and NC. I’ve known one since high school, one since college, and the other since our boys were in 1st grade (about 5-6 years). The one from high school has pretty much named herself Maid/Matron of Honor. I didn’t agree or disagree, I didn’t really think about it or want to hurt her feelings. My Fiance thinks I shouldn’t have her as the Maid/Matron of Honor. We’ve been friends forever, but we don’t talk as much as the other girls. I’ve known her the longest, but we just have one of those relationships where we talk every few months or so but things always pick up where they left off like time hasn’t passed by. She was there when my son was born and had I not had a C-section would have probably been in the delivery room. The one I’ve known the least, I talk to the most. We became friends because our sons were best friends. We spend holidays together and plan camping trips for the boys. We just moved away from Atlanta a year and a half ago. The boys have such a beautiful friendship and of course we are friends, so we like to nurture their friendship as well. My Fiance thinks she should be the Maid/Matron of Honor. But, to not leave out the other one, she dropped everything she was doing and flew up to Atlanta to take care of me when I had surgery. She’s just as awesome. I’m not planning on having anything that distinguishes them. No special dress or anything. I don’t really expect them to do anything other than get a dress and be with me that day. They could all toast me if they want to.
Is there any particular reason to single one out? Should I leave it as it is? Nobody else has said anything? Who knows they may all have assumed they are the Maid/Matron of Honor and just not said anything? Can they all be my MOH? What does a Maid/Matron of Honor do that is so special? My Fiance had it easy, his father is his best man.