Post # 1
Hi everyone! I need some feedback please! Our officiant is not religiously affiliated — he is my former boss/good friend to my Fiance and me, and a member of Congress. Is he supposed to wear a suit or a tux? What do “non-religious” officiants usually wear? If he wears a tux, are we supposed to cover the cost of the rental for him? I feel like we should, but wedding costs are adding up FAST!! I would be fine with whatever he wanted to wear (suit or tux), but is there some kind of officiant-fashion etiquette I’m missing? Thanks!
Post # 3
mine wore stone colored khaki pants and a white shirt… and a nut lei – we got married in Hawaii. He asked us what our colors were and said he would just wear something nuetral. I think most non-religious officiants would do the same.
Post # 4
Our officiant was pretty snazzy in a suit and some fancy shoes..
Post # 5
Mine will wear a basic black suit and a gray dressier mock turtleneck – it may sound weird, but when you see it – it works.
Post # 6
If it’s a traditional, formal ceremony setting – definitely a suit.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
Last year at my friends wedding they had a friend marry them. He wore the same tux as the guys but wore a white tie instead of black. It looked pretty sharp.
Post # 8
I’d say that your oficiant’s attire should probably be in line with what the groomsmen are wearing or more formal.
If he’s a member of the U.S. Congress he no doubt already owns plenty of suits and probably a tux, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 9
i agree with the bees…suit is nice. ours wore this:
black suit and tie that matched our wedding colors =)
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
Even our pastor just wore a suit! 🙂
Post # 11
Ours is wearing a black suit.
Post # 12
I think a suit is fine as well :o)
Post # 13
How about a female nonreligious officiant?
I’m thinking cute professional gray dress?
Post # 14
I’m a (female) pro non-religious wedding officiant.. I ask my couples what they want me to wear, and most choose a black or grey suit (depending on their colors, I like to add a splash of color with my jewelry and blouse under my suit), or a black dress.
For the original poster, I’d say a nice suit is probably appropriate.. if you are going to be specific with a tuxedo, it would be a nice gesture to offer to pay for it.
Post # 15
Thanks so much everyone! I think we’re just going to go with a nice suit (and he already has plenty, so it shouldn’t be a problem).
Post # 16
You might just ask the officiant. The officiant will be most definitely honor to wear whatever you would ask them to, well almost everything.