Post # 1
What is your dad wearing if you aren’t doing tuxes? Is he matching the groom/men, or is that weird? Maybe a similar suit but different tie?
My groom is wearing a navy suit and light green tie.
Groomsmen will be in khakis and navy blazers and same tie as the groom.
I think a black suit for dad would be too dark and wouldn’t fit. And I don’t think he necessarily wants to match the groom or groomsmen. One alternative that goes with this attire would be a tan suit (although I have never seen my dad in a tan suit before!). Is it better to match the groomsmen or the groom??
Post # 3
@NavyBride2013: My dad wore khaki pants, a white express shirt, & a tie & boutonniere that matched the grooms 🙂 It was very nice because he matched the bridal party somewhat, but not exactly because he didn’t wear the khaki vest that the groom/groomsmen wore.
I think that, or an all tan suit would be reall nice on your dad! (my groom has an all tan suit from express & it is downright spiffy!)
Post # 4
@NavyBride2013: We had navy blue suits too! My dad ended up wearing a blue suit, it wasn’t navy but more of a dark medium blue. You’d be surprised how many colors of blue suits there are!!
Post # 5
I would have your father match your FI but with a different tie. I think a blazer and khaki pants would be too casual for the father of the bride.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here… lol
This is an easier Question for a Formal Wedding… in which case the Dads tend to match or dress similarly to the Men in the Bridal Party (Groom, Groomsmen, Ushers)
When things are more laid back, then the choices are more open…
The smartest thing is if a Dad matches “the formality” versus the actual clothing choices.
What you have described here sounds as if it is an Informal Daytime Event…
In which case
(a) No one can ever go wrong with a Dark Suit
(b) Light Coloured Trousers and a Dark Blazer
(c) A Summer Suit (tan would be an appropriate colour)
If it is an Evening Event… then a Dark Suit would be the best choice.
Hope this helps,
NOTE – FOGs can usually go more on the casual side than a FOB… FOBs are far more front & centre… and in a lot more Photographs.
Post # 7
My dad didn’t wear a tux. He just wore a nice suit. Truthfully, I didn’t care what he wore — what was more important was that he was there.
Post # 8
@This Time Round: Thanks! I love the etiquette perspective!! We are doing a wedding that spans day and night (Catholic ceremony at 2pm and reception outside on the water at 5pm). It is in San Diego in October, so we are going with a nautical/preppy feel (hence the khakis and blazers). Lots of navy and white stripes, lanterns, etc. It is definitely more of a laid back, coastal feel. Our attire is officially being referred to as “coastal cocktail.” I like your point that the FOB should err on the formal side, versus FOG. I think I will probably suggest he wear a navy suit and a tie that coordinates with but doesn’t exactly match the wedding party.
Post # 9
@Hyperventilate: I agree! haha! But he is sending me emails telling me he doesn’t know what to wear…I can tell he is stressing over this, so I want to give him some guidance!
Post # 10
@NavyBride2013: Tell him what my mom told my dad — Go down to a suit shop and ask them to make him look nice for his daughter’s wedding.
The assistants took very good care of my dad. He looked sharp!
Post # 11
@NavyBride2013: I think if the groom is wearing a suit, your Dad should wear either a suit or a blazer and dress pants.
I would definitely have him wear a different tie than the groom, maybe even a different color shirt. A pale blue shirt would look great.
Post # 12
My groom and groomspeople wore charcoal pinstriped suits; the dads wore black suits, since they were the best investment for re-wearing!
In your case, I think a navy suit with a different tie would work well. If your mom knows what she’s wearing, his tie could be chosen to coordinate with her outfit too! In our case, my dad’s tie was a tonal range of purple stripes — the eggplant was the main tone for our wedding, but the magenta stripes coordinated subtly with my mom’s outfit.
Post # 13
My bridal party didn’t wear tuxes.
Groom – black suit, red shirt, black tie
Groomsmen – black pants, black shirt, red tie
FOG – Navy suit, white shirt, navy tie
Stepfather of the Bride – Black suit, white shirt, navy tie
Father of the Bride – Grey suit, white shirt, silver tie.
They looked great.
Post # 14
FI and his guys are wearing latte suits. My dad asked if he can wear a gray suit. I just do not care what he wears as long as it’s a suit so I told him to go for it.
Post # 15
All the men wore gray suits (different gray suits, whatever they had). The groomsmen and groom wore white shirts with blue ties (different blue ties, whatever they wanted). The fathers wore gray suits, with whatever they wanted. I think my dad wore a gray shirt, blue tie… My FIL wore something like that too…
Post # 16
all of the groomsmen and the groom will be wearing the same dark grey suits with vests, and matching ties. My dad will be wearing a dark grey suit of a different style and a different color tie. I didn’t really care what he wore to be honest. same goes for my FIL…he can wear whatever he feels good in