(Closed) what does getting married mean to you?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess to me it’s a binding of the commitment that we have made to each other.  I waited 33 years to find that guy that was right for me – that I love unconditionally and who feels the same about me.  I do feel that it’s a forever thing, but also that it’s a legal thing.  I want the world to see legally what he means to me.  I’m proud to call him my husband and to have him call me his wife.

In the grand scheme of things, probably not much has changed since we got married, but there is that tiny undefinable something that makes life just that much better knowing that he and I are married.  I can’t imagine my life without him and I don’t even want to try.  

He’s my best friend, my lover, my rock, and my husband all rolled up in one.  

My husband wasn’t as sure about the marriage thing at first because of the culture he grew up in.  It is very popular to just get a partnership with your SO then get officially married, so getting his mind around the legalities of marriage vs just living together or a partnership was a bit of a challenge for him.  He worried about the what-ifs and the stigma’s that go with one of them happening.  

It took him a bit of time to realize that he already considered me his wife and why not make it legal.  Since then, he’s never looked back and is glad that he finally did ask me to marry him.  Both of us consider marriage to be a forever thing.

 

I’m not sure how much sense my post makes since I’m writing it on very little sleep…. lol

Post # 4
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7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

What a difficult question! I suppose it is the public commitment which appeals to me. It is the sanction which your friends and family give you when you declare your marriage vows. The social contract. Certainly I would never have children without marriage… I think that it really makes you part of the community who witness your vows, and it takes a community to raise a child.

Does that make any sense?

Post # 5
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147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My FI’s cousin put it best…We’re deciding to do life together, rather than separately.  We’re each others protectors, caregivers, supporters, biggest fans, and most importantly best friends.  This is our vow to always remember this and put those things above all else in our relationship and our lives.

Post # 6
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s a promise to love and be there for each other always. It means being together. We’ll be getting married (eventually…when he asks! gah! so impatient!) so that we CAN be together (stupid border…*mutter mutter curse*) because we love eachother and he’s HOME to me, that’s how I feel with him, they way you should feel at home, safe, loved, and happier than anywhere else on earth.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For us, it’s not actually about commitment. I know he’s been 100% totally committed to me without a ring. 

I think really it’s more taking a step to plan for the future together as a family unit, emotionally and legally. We discuss the future differently since deciding to get married. A lot more practical things – legal, medical, etc – are addressed now, too. Don’t get me wrong, the emotional significance is there.. but I can’t think of a better way to describe it, since it’s not like we love each other any more now that we’re engaged, etc.

Post # 10
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

For me it is simple: I will soon *choose* for this person (FI) to be a part of my family. emotionally, spiritually and legally and he will *choose* the same with me. Yes, the obvious ones still stand.. like the commitment and love and all of that. But I am choosing this person to enter my family and be my partner in life and love. 

Post # 12
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@tenacity:  I’m in Montreal and he’s in Miami, I think it’s something like 1600 miles 🙁 I’m moving back in with my parents and looking for a second job to save up, he already moved back with his mom and brother to finish school and is working so hard but won’t be able to save much until after graduation since he’s already working, has a full-time, unpaid clinical practice to do plus classes. I get to see him again 4 weeks during his spring break and I can’t wait! Hopefully I’ll get to see him again before December. It’s the waiting and not know when we’ll see each other that’s the hardest. Trying my best to hang in and be brave.

Post # 13
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

@atlante: Thanks! It is kind of my wedding mantra. It is one of the only times you can choose to be related to someone. And if I am choosing for some guy to join me in my life and family…he better be the s**t! LOL

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We should really be able to “like” posts here! So tempted all time too!

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