(Closed) What does he call his MIL?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What does your husband call his MIL?


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  • Post # 32
    1262 posts
    Bumble bee

    We’re not married yet but I was wondering that too. I think we’re a “Mr. and Mrs. So & So” family. I was confused at first because his parents are divorced and his dad is remarried so it felt weird since there are two “Mrs. So &Sos” My family is very conservative. My aunt-in-law, who’s been married to my uncle since the beginning of time still calls my grandmother Mrs. So & So…same with my uncle-in-law who’s married to my aunt…and he’s the same age as my grandmother lol.

    Post # 33
    1262 posts
    Bumble bee

    @OctBride-2012:  I was raised that way 🙂 Like I called all of my mother’s friends and friend’s mothers “Miss Her First Name” too lol I’m from Philly so it’s not really a Southern thing but it certainly sounds it when I say it. I think it’s kinda cute, I still want to do it and I’m in my late 20s

    Post # 34
    1073 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @QuirkySocialite:  I am originally from the south but I’ve noticed that a lot of people here in MD (whre my DH grew up) do this.  🙂

    Post # 35
    764 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m not married but calling his parents “Mom” and “Dad” would be super creepy and weird to me.  If they were my parents, then he & I would be siblings and that is disgusting. 

    Post # 36
    2127 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    He calls my parents by their first names & I call his parents by their first names :].  My parents call their in-laws [my grandparents] by first name too, unless directly speaking to us kids like, “Oh Grandma called & says hi!”

    Post # 37
    2354 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We both call our ILs by their first names. I only have one mom and one dad. I called them Mrs. and Mr. when I was just dating their son, but as we got close it’s escalated to first name basis. I won’t expect them to call me ‘daughter’, so I won’t call them mom&dad after marriage. 

    My mom alternates between calling her Mother-In-Law mom and her first name. She never called her Father-In-Law dad though. My dad calls his ILs by their first names. 


    Post # 38
    2894 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My fiance calls my mother Sister Lastname (as we are members of the same Christian denomination) but as they have no particular closeness or friendship, he didn’t find it appropriate to call her anything more familiar. I call his mom by her first name. That’s the way she introduced herself to me and my fiance incidentally calls his OWN mother by her first name.

    Post # 39
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have thought and thought about this and I honestly can’t recall a time when DH has had to get mom’s attention or call her something in her presence. He usually refers to her as “Kryren’s mom” or “Your mom”. When he’s around her he usually just usues pronouns to refer back to her.

    I call his mom by her first name if the need arises but I think I’ve only had to do that once or twice in the nearly 10 years we’ve been together. It’s usually “DH’s mom” “My MIL” or “Your Mom”. Odd.


    Post # 40
    7384 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t know anyone who doesn’t call their in-laws mom and dad, tbh. Everyone in my family AND FI’s family calls their in-laws some variation of that (unless they’re estranged). 

    I call my Future Mother-In-Law “mama,” Future Father-In-Law “dad,” and his wife by her first name. Same with our grandparents (everyone is grandma/grandpa), aunts, uncles, etc.

    Post # 41
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    DH calls my mom and step-dad by their first names, and I call his parents by their first names. He does call my grandparents the same things I do (i.e. “Grandma”), and when his grandpa was alive I called him the same thing the rest of the grandkids did. 

    My in-laws actually kind of wanted me to call them “Mom” and “Dad”, but I was totally weirded out by the idea. It may be a geographical thing…they’re from New England, and I’m from the Southeast. It has never felt weird to call our grandparents their “nicknames” that the other grandkids call them, for whatever reason. 

    Post # 42
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    We actually talk about this fairly regularly – I don’t know if he actually calls her *ANYTHING* to her face. Since he’s usually talking to her directly, he doesn’t use her name or anything. Every now and then when pointing this out, he’ll mention her name.

    Usually it’s “Your mom,” when he’s talking to me.

    For what it’s worth, I call my mother-in-law by her first name. I probably called her “Mrs” for the first year or so we were dating, until she asked me not to. I was just taught that was proper etiquette – they would tell me when it was time to call them something else.

    Post # 43
    2336 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    He calls my mom both her first name and mom sometimes.  I always call his mom her first name.

    Post # 44
    6303 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    He calls my mom and stepmom both by their first names. Likewise, I call his mom by her first name. I could see myself calling my Mother-In-Law “mom” eventually. Hopefully soon we’ll just be able to call them “grandma”..haha.

    Post # 45
    5708 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We call each other’s mom’s by their first name. Grandparents are different, but parents are on a first name basis. I would find it weird to hear him say “mom.”

    Post # 46
    2181 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @Bellagiobride:  I think that definitely makes sense in your situation. I feel weird about calling my friends’ parents by their first names because I’ve known them since we were kids. But for SO, his parents met in grad school so they were adults at the time, so I’m not quite sure what the reasoning is.

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