- 2 months ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Divorced 27 year old here. I recently started dating at 35 year old, who has one child from a previous marriage, and things seem to be going well. To give you a timeline, this is where we’re at…
Date 1: Nice dinner, golf, arcade, and bowling with flowers.
Date 2: Beer drinking and axe throwing. Something fun!
Date 3: Movies
Date 4: He invited me over to his home and cooked for me, then we watched a movie on the couch – however, we started kissing and things started heating up after the movie. He picked me up and took me to the kitchen and sat me on the countertop where he asked if he could touch my upper body and I told him to take me to the bedroom, where his response to me was that he “wants to round the bases” before going straight in to full blown intimacy.
Okay, no big deal, we cooled off and he said I looked disappointed. Which I was, because I obviously find him very attractive, but I still want to see him regardless.
Date 5: *In progress* He is coming over tomorrow morning and wants to goto the gym with me. No biggie (although I dread him seeing me look rough), but he wants to take a shower at my place afterwards and then goto Dave & Busters and eat wings.
I guess my surprise is …. there seems to be no interest in intimacy with me. He has already made the comment to me two days ago on the phone (we talk everyday after work) that he wants me to fall in love with him and he’s afraid that sex will ruin things between us right now. He has made the comment before that I scare him because I have all my stuff together (i.e., a good career, no children, my own place, my own car) and that I’m not like the women he’s used to dating. As I mentioned above, we talk everyday on the phone and he has even popped by my place of work just to give me a kiss and tell me “hello” at the end of his workshift.
My question is… do you think he’s genuinely interested in taking me seriously? Or is this just a distraction/ploy for him to avoid sex while maybe he sees other people?
I’ve never been so confused on how to read someone that I really like.