Post # 31
So today I asked to my husband about what is love feelings and how he knows if he in love. He pretty much give the same answer that he gave years ago.. He said he knows he loves the girl when it more than physical, when he find himself have ’emotional attachment’ to her. He will always ‘Protect’ her, always protect the girl he loves.. He will never do anything to hurt her, never do anything to make her sad. When she feels grief he also feel grief.
He said he loves the girl when he knows the meaning of waiting. When he find himself keep ‘wait’ for her, wait and wait.. Love is never selfish. He knows he loves her when he keep putting in the ‘effort’ to make it work, even if that means him doing most of the work.. He knows he loves her when it not only the sex, but he wants to use his lips kissing her all over–Haha, this probably a joke from him. But pretty much those reasons sum up how DH knows when he in love.
As much as I love to find faults keep picking on my poor husband. But one thing I have to agree with him is ‘waiting’, for a guy to keep wait and wait for the girl, that have to be love.. Men are not good at waiting, that’s just how their brain works. Men usually don’t have the patience to keep waiting for one girl, unless he really really love her.
And my husband said this: Get the guy to developed the ’emotional attachment’ to the girl first, then he will find it extremely difficult to leave her. Not the physical sex, but the emotional attachment… He said If it just purely physical sex, then he will always Win. But If he find himself emotionally attached to her, then he will always Lose everytime no matter what… I’m not a man so I don’t know how accurate this is, but that what DH said so it coming from a man viewpoint, lol
Post # 32
Since I have been in love with my Fiance, I have always felt safe, secure, supported and accepted. To me this is love. We love each other wholly and completely, and through this make each other better people. It isn’t always perfect, but a secure love makes for a really special relationship together.
Post # 33
For me there are two defining moments:
– A time when I thought he might be unsafe during a biking event and it dawned on me how much I care about his wellbeing and how empty life would be without him.
– Actually during the same biking event, we stayed in a hotel the night before and the air-con was broke in our room. We were both struggling to get to sleep and all I cared about was him getting to sleep, as I knew how much the event meant to him and that he needed sleep. That moment I heard him fall asleep was the biggest relief and I realised I didnt care less if I got a wink of sleep all night, all that mattered was him. For me this was particularly prominent since I’m a fairly selfish person overall.
These are just two examples that stand out to me as moments where I realised how much I love him.
Post # 34
Nothing like I expected. It’s not fireworks or excitement It can be but you can have that with lust also. It’s when he does or says something which would make me so mad if it was anyone else but my heart softens to him. When I am tired, happy, sad I want to cuddle with him/laugh with him more than anyone else. I was so independent before I met him and loved nights in alone. He’s the first person in 30 years that didn’t make me crave space.
Post # 35
I no his the one becose i am myself with him all the time. I dont feel like I need to say this or that, to look pretty or be funny. I feel a bit like child free to do whatever I want and not think if its ok.
Post # 36
Comfort, safety, and respect. No matter what happens in life, we will tackle it together. We laugh about stupid stuff and hold each other during tough times. We agree on finances, how to raise our kids, and what it means to get married. We will always stand by each other and keep each other in check.
Post # 37
Thank you. I’m glad you found your true partner!