(Closed) What does it feel like?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ll be honest, it’s very painful the first time! And there will most likely be a lot of blood the first time, because he will probably pop your cherry.


Post # 4
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It really depends on a whole lot of factors! Your body, your husband’s, how comfortable/nervous you are, etc.

I think I’m one of the few people where it only hurt a little bit, but it was overall pretty enjoyable. We did ease into though with lots of foreplay for months, which I’m sure helped. Also, I suspect that my hymen broke sometime in childhood.

Post # 5
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Don’t scare her! It’s different for everyone. I had ZERO pain and I didn’t bleed.  My first was probably about 5″ and it was absolutely no problem. My Fiance on the other hand… he made me feel like a virgin!

There’s not really any way to describe it… but you’re in for a treat! If it does hurt at first, you’ll get over it soon.


Post # 6
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ForeverBlessed:  Wait! Don’t freak the poor girl out. Yes, it could hurt and there may be blood. However, I didn’t find my first time painful, and there was no blood. I think it’s different for everyone. At the same time, while it wasn’t painful, it definitely wasn’t “wow” either. It took awhile to get comfortable and to figure out what I liked/didn’t like and then communicate that to my partner (and I waited until Darling Husband, and I was 24.)

Post # 7
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

It depends on the woman. It’s different for everyone.  For me it hurt A LOT, I didn’t cry or anything, it just really hurt and I kept asking him to stop so I could get used to it.  It takes a couple of times before it feels good. And it feels REALLY good when it’s with someone you love 🙂

Post # 8
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hah it’s different for everyone. For me, sure it hurt, but it was nothing TERRIBLE. Just uncomfortable at first. Also, from how my friends talked, I was expecting like, a river of blood, but really I bled just a bit, nothing awful. Some people don’t bleed at all.

Post # 9
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There was no pain or blood for me, it wasn’t especially enjoyable but it didn’t hurt.

Post # 10
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FluffysMama:  I just lost my virginity 9 months ago to my husband and I will admit it hurt. There are muscles that are being stretch for the first time. It took 3 weeks for me to enjoy sex. My husband’s penis could not fit all the way in for 2 weeks. On our honeymoon we did foreplay, oral sex, and used lube and it still hurt.

Sex when first started is trial and error. You have to discover what you like position wise. It takes patience, kindness, and understanding as sappy as it sounds.

Don’t worry, it will eventually feel great. I love making love to my husband.

Post # 11
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It wasn’t painful and there wasn’t any bleeding for me the first time either. Honestly, it’s not going to feel AMAZING for a while. I remember my first time thinking “That was it?!” It’s not like the movies and there won’t be a big O 😉  Just try to relax and have fun, and in time, it’ll keep getting better!

Post # 12
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It really hurt, and I bled alot.

Post # 13
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

I really think it’s different for everyone.  My first time didn’t hurt, and I didn’t bleed, but my best friend didn’t enjoy her first time at all.  So many factors go into it. I think lots of foreplay and relaxing (and maybe even lube and wine Smile ) are must-haves for the first time though.

Post # 14
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My experience wasn’t the greatest, it was with an ex-boyfriend and he was older and more experienced then I was. The whole thing was just really weird. He was on the slightly larger side, so yeah it hurt. I did not bleed, but it hurt. He didn’t take his time…. I don’t really remember anything positive from that event. He became very obsessive over me after, I told him that I was interested in someone else, this wasn’t going to work and he said, “No you are mine, you belong to me.” Not the best guy to have for your first time, that is for sure. Your first time is going to be with someone you really love, so your experience will be better.


Post # 15
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It hurt and there was a lot of blood.

I’d make sure to have extra KY on deck.

Post # 16
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think its different for everyone. I think it’s good not to set to many high expectations. Go slow and take your time. I did have blood and a bit of stinging but nothing crazy or dramatic.

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