Encore Bride here… and someone over 50… so I’ve seen a lot of life.
At first glance it would say… he wants to maintain a friendship with you.
I tho am one that doesn’t believe that men and women can truly be platonic friends… which many Bees have given me a hard time about.
BUT I will tell you WHY I believe this statement to be true
First… Women don’t think or feel like men. We assume that because WE CAN be platonic friends with men that they can do so also. False.
Two… If you ask a guy (maybe your Hubby2B) this question, then more than likely he’ll tell you that when a guy is hanging out with a woman on an ongoing basis it is because in some way he is interested in her. Her is fascinated by her wit, charm, grace, looks, whatever. And is secretly hoping that someday she’ll notice him… really notice him.
IF the woman has a man in her life now… he somehow envisions that she might not in the future…
He will rarely fall on his sword and proclaim his love / lust / fascination for her… as he feels that would be too embarrassing… if she was to reject him (Men HATE rejectioin).
So much better to live in the fantasy of hope & wishful thinking
As I said, I am over 50. These are things I have learned thru my lifetime… either by being in the situation, see others in the situation, or by having conversations with more mature men (the 40+) crowd after I was Divorced & Single.
PLUS then you add in the multitude of posts here on WBee where Women who thought they could have longterm platonic relationships with men, only to sometime down the road have them go bad… really really bad, when the truth comes out (as it usually does)… and either a Friendship is ruined or a Marriage… and it can get truly ugly.
So what am I really saying…
This man may have another woman in his life… but it is clearly you he dreams of being with.
He is just reconciled with what is now because of the circumstances he finds himself & yourself in
You Engaged… him with the Baby’s Mamma.
Personally, I’d find a way to distance yourself even more from him… for the sake of your upcoming Marriage, and the shreds of a friendship you have in tact… Past Loves are great things… but they should be safely tucked away in the past IMO
Hope this helps,