(Closed) What does the idea of an engagement ring mean to you?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
1348 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with PP’s that the ring does not make the engagement, to me it’s a gift showing dedication to the relationship, I 110% plan on getting my SO  an equivalent watch (something that will last a lifetime).

Post # 18
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just a celebratory gift, has nothing to do with our relationship or commitment.

Post # 19
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

To me it’s a symbol of a promise of honesty, friendship, love, loyalty and fidelity. It’s a promise that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and no one else. If you want that symbol to be a diamond chip set in silver, fine. If you want it to be a watch, fine (I’m getting a watch for BF as a symbol of my promise to him, btw). If you want it to be earings, great. If you want it to be a big fat rock set in platinum (and can easily afford it) fine.

Post # 20
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think of my engagement ring as my golden ticket to marriage.  We always discussed marriage, and were together for 3 years 11 months when he proposed.  I never doubted that he was the one for a second, just was waiting for my golden ticket to finally plan the wedding we had been discussing for so long!  My Fiance now talks in actual terms of our kids (when we have them) etc, when before he’d say “when we hopefully have kids” and that sort of thing.  I feel like my ring a symbol and very meaningful outward symbol that I am in a different stage now! We might as well be married already, he’s buying us a house at the moment now, but it’s beyond amazing to finally have the ring and the excitement of engagement!  I do think it matters to have a ring, and to have a ring you both chose together…seeing this beautiful ring when your man proposes is beyond wonderful, it just makes it real in my eyes!

Post # 21
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, it’s a social signifier. We are both somewhat young (in grad school) and though we have already lived together for a couple of years (and been together for almost four) I feel that our families, moreso mine, are still not taking our committment to each other as seriously as we do. Engagement is just the next step for us, as we feel we would like to be out of school before marriage, and that won’t be for a while yet – so I just want the validation, I guess, of being “serious enough” in everyone else’s eyes…boy it’s hard to admit that.

Also, SO will be moving to another city to begin another degree while I finish one up where we currently live. We’ll be LD for at least 8 months, and that will be really hard for us after having lived together. Having that physical sign of our promise to each other would mean so much, yes, even if it’s a diamond chip in silver, I couldn’t care less as long as it’s on “that” finger 🙂

Post # 22
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The ring is extremely important, it is a sign of commitment. After the proposal and the ring, the marriage comes,then a house and kids We are in a committed relationship, but the ring would be the first day of the rest of my life. My clock has been ticking for years, and I want nothing more than to be a mother and settle down in a house with my *Hubby, kids and puppy*

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