Post # 1
I am invited to a bridal shower this weekend, and I need some opinions on the invitation wording! The bride is originally from where I live, and I am honestly not that close to her or her family (I would be on the grooms side!) so I don’t feelcomfortable asking her or her mother who is hosting the shower. On the invite it Says that as the bride will be traveling to the shower ( it’s a 5 hour flight) we are referred to the brides registry. I originally interpreted this as don’t bring a gift she’d rather you order and she’ll pick it upwhen she gets home. Now I’m having second thoughts! Am I wrong?? Should I be bringing a gift? Would I be rude to email and ask when i’m not that close to them?
Post # 3
Hm, that’s a tough one. Do you know anyone else that was invited? Could you ask the groom? I honestly don’t understand having a shower if it’s not to open gifts…isn’t that mainly the point?
Post # 4
That is really odd wording.
I would assume it means to ship the gifts directly to her house. For the shower, I would buy a card and print a picture of what you bought her with a note that says it’s being delivered.
Post # 5
@Utopia4us: That sounds to me like you should send a gift through the registry rather than bringing one to the shower.
Maybe send the gift and bring a fun card.
Post # 6
I would guess that it means you should order a gift but like you, I wouldn’t be completely sure. I don’t think it would be rude to email at all! You could always spin the email to say something like “Since bride won’t be able to carry lots of gifts back on her flight, do you know if she would prefer to pick up her gift at xxstore she registered atxx or would she rather I it shipped to her home?”
That way there is ample opportunity to both confirm that’s what the invite meant and to clarify where to send the gift. Plus, you can RSVP all at the same time!
Post # 7
Yeah, I think they want people to be mindful of the fact that they won’t be able to take a million gifts back with them…so either buy small items, ship the gift to the house before the shower or buy a gift card from the store they’re registered at.
Post # 8
@CanAmBride: I think I will do this! Good idea, then if I was supposed to bring a present people will know I wasn’t so rude I didn’t buy one! I don’t know anyone else who is going and I realized the bride’s mother did not provide any contact info that I could get in touch with her since it was a an evite so I think I will just stick with this!
Thanks for the reassurance ladies!
Post # 9
@CanAmBride: This is a great idea. Even if everyone else brings and actual present, you will still have a card for her and see her reaction to your gift. And I’m sure she will appreciate it being sent. I’m leaning towards the idea that she wants the gifts sent to her house, and the shower will be more of a party than sitting around watching her open gifts.
Post # 10
Yep, I would take that to mean either have them available for pickup in her hometown, or bring cash.
Post # 11
Yeah, I think it means send the gift to her house. I went to a shower recently with almost the same situation, and no one brought gifts — everything was mailed to the bride’s home. (I asked the hostess, though, just to be sure — I sent a quick email and it was no biggie. Not a bad option if you’re wondering.)