Post # 1
A couple of days ago my boyfriend and I talked about what we love about each other and what we don’t like that much. It was a fun and easy conversation, nothing serious, but I’m still thinking a bit about it. He said about me:
– That I’m very affectionate, in every way: I take care of him, make him feel important and show him how much I love him, and I’m very touchy feely
– That we have so many topics to talk about, common interests and just connect on a special level
– My looks (of course.. lol)
– That I make him happy (Ok, this was sweet)
When he said those things I was like ‘What about my intelligence? And don’t you think I’m funny?’. Haha, I know those are typical questions, but I really do think i’m smart and funny and I’ve often heard it from friends or even people I just met. I know I’m not perfect (I’m really stubborn for example, I’m also pretty emotional, too impulsive, chaotic and sometimes lazy), but I always thought that two of my biggest values are being smart and being funny, and not hearing those two things from him confused me. His answers: He does think I’m intelligent, but not super intelligent (but he also said he doesn’t think he is super intelligent, while I actually do think he is really smart) and he doesn’t think I’m that funny and he wouldn’t describe me as a hilarious girl.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t need confirmation from him.. and I also didn’t start a fight about it haha. But I have to admit that I do feel a bit disappointed about him not finding me very funny or smart.
What about you girls? Have you ever had a conversation like this? What did your partner say he loves (and dislikes) about you?
Post # 2
Ironically, my husband has told me he thinks I am one of the funniest girls he’s ever met (its usually unintentional. I try to be dignified but am EXTREMELY clumsy)
He’s also said I’m beautiful and interesting. It made me glow when he told me! But then he followed it with – “But you have THE most horrifically short fuse and your temper is terrifying enough to stop the devil so…yeah.”
Ah well. Easy come, easy go.
Post # 3
dalia88 : but you didn’t say what he doesn’t like about you? Omitting to say funny/intelligent isn’t really like saying he dislikes your intelligence/funniness ☺️
Post # 4
My husband really hates it whenever try to sing. He tells me one reason he loves me is I have a big heart. And a wicked sense of humor.
Post # 5
-my sense of humor
-I’m not affectionate
-I see the world very “black and white,” with little “gray area”
-I’m an introvert
Post # 6
He likes a lot about me. My drive, ambition, focus and leadership in my career, intelligence, the way I snort when I laugh, that I’m “classy” in his words, my sarcasm/dry humor, my smile, butt, that our definition of fun is a new restaraunt and then a show at home with some wine or beer, list goes on (according to him). But the things he dislikes are:
1. I’m messy.
2. I have insomnia and a horrific sleep schedule.
3. I don’t like Christmas movies or music except for one day a year (he prefers it from thanksgiving on…)
4. I don’t like pets.
5. No cartoons until I’m a mama bear.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
My Fiance loves that I’m cool under pressure and very logical, that I’m driven and sarcastic, super organised and weird
he dislikes that I’m cool under pressure, he claims he can never win an argument with me. Poor sod
Post # 8
dalia88 : Our photographer does a write up and she asked us what we like about each other and what drew us towards one another…and I actually had the same thoughts as you. I have a masters degree from Georgetown…my intelligence has always been what people comment on and honestly, I like that. I’ve never been big on caring if people like the way I look, I care that they think I have a brain. I honestly can’t even remember what he said other than I’m extremely passionate about everything I do. I was stuck on the fact he apparently doesn’t find me smart…
Post # 9
annelise210516 : He said he doesn’t like that I’m kinda messy/chaotic, that I’m too dramatic sometimes and that I’m really stubborn. No complaints here haha.
Post # 10
whoami : Ya, I personally think intelligence and humor is so important! That’s two things I really love about my bf and two of the main reasons I fell in love with him. I also don’t really care about compliments about my looks (they will fade anyways), but I value my own intelligence and humor so I was- like you- kinda disappointed that he didn’t point it out.
Post # 11
dalia88 : We might be the same person. I know mine doesn’t like the exact same things about me haha.
Post # 12
cincybee110516 : hold the phone – you dislike PETS!!!
Post # 13
My husband really likes my intelligence and he thinks I’m hilarious, he steals my jokes all the time. He also likes my cooking and how I take care of him.
The only thing that he doesn’t really like about me is that I often lack confidence and can be pretty negative about myself and situations that I’m in.