(Closed) What dress I want and what dress looks good are two different things?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did your dress more suit you shape or your personality?



  • Post # 3
    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I tend to like more contemporary things but for my dress I really, really wanted something lace and a-line. I ended up with a dress that was neither lace nor a-line. It took me quite awhile to come to terms with this! 

    Post # 5
    3518 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Don’t give up until you find something that fits both! There’s non-boring a-lines out there!

    Post # 6
    7384 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Shape, definitely.

    I wanted a more dramatic dress, mermaid/fit and flare with a dramatic skirt (VW White bias flange dress, VW Gemma, etc.), but they really didn’t look that great on me (to which I said, “WTF!!”). I ended up with a soft, flowy sheath dress that looked amazing and was very flattering.

    Post # 8
    8700 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Mine is super flattering, but it suits my personality even better! So I voted to go with the dress you love!


    Post # 9
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    Keep looking! You will be able to find a simple-ish a-line that still makes you feel frou-frou princess! Seriously, you will. 

    That said, I found a dress that matched my personality. I think it is pretty flattering, but maybe doesn’t have the “wow” shock factor of the princess ball gowns i tried on… And couldn’t wait to rip off. 

    Post # 10
    3501 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think personality trumps shape.  To an extent tho.  My dress was flattering (in my opinion) but no where near as flattering as other gowns I tried on.  But in the end those more flattering gowns didnt pack the punch my dress did.

    I think you can choose a dress that looks good on you that is more your style instead of picking a less you gown that fits your body better.  You will know if a gown is awful on you and usually those ones get thrown out anyay.

    Post # 11
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I went for personality, but I think you need a balance. If your dream dress doesn’t look good on you then I think you need to reconsider your choice, or at least try and find a compromise. If I had tried on massive poofy ball gowns and found them to be really flattering then I still wouldn’t have gotten one because its just not me. But it would have gotten me looking at for example natural waist alines Instead.

    I also think that there’s so many options out there in terms of silhouettes, waistlines and necklines that you’re always going to be able to find something that meets both criteria.

    Post # 12
    10 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @princessarielbelle:  I’m horrendously pale and definitely not a shrinking violet. I keep having brief moments where I think I made a mistake and should have got a traditional dress but the truth is they look awful on me and couldn’t be further from my personality. Instead I have a pink (not blush, actually pink) short at the front, long train at the back wedding dress that whilst it isn’t traditional is definitely something you could only wear at a wedding and makes me feel like a perfect princess. I’m usually far from a pink girl but I wanted something completely different that people will remember.

    Post # 13
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Wait until you find a shape that has the details that fit your personality!

    I wanted a mermaid and while “picture shopping” I made myself zero in on that shape and did not see anything else.

     I asked my fiancé to give an opinion with some things that he likes and or really likes (he made sure he was attentive to my feelings when responding) and the conclusions was he doesn’t care for the gowns that have that strong mermaid shape (super tight then has a crazy flair). I asked him why just so I could see another point of view and maybe to help make a decision for me and he said, “it looks like two different dresses because of the tight fit at the top and the ball gown all the way down at the calves)

    I still like the mermaid style but this allowed me to look outside of the box as I was fixated on that style and I realized, there are so many gowns available out there! I can find something that has the shape I want, only a little more subtle, and I could focus on what exactly I want in the details.

     I found a modified A-line, created a sweetheart neckline and have a full train to create that silhouette when bustled. Sorry so long lol, just experienced the same thing and hope this has helped!!! Lots and Lots of luck 🙂

    Post # 15
    656 posts
    Busy bee

    How many have you tried on?? I tried on FORTY SEVEN dresses until I found the one that both fitted my shape AND personality.

    There were so many dresses that were beautiful, but they just weren’t ME. so I looked and looked and looked and found it!

    There were some dresses that I liked the look of, and thought I’d go for – but they didn’t look right. And just because I liked the look of a dress didn’t mean I was going to buy it if it didn’t look good! I wouldn’t do that with any other clothes – why would I do it with my wedding dress! 🙂

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