Post # 1
Hi, Just wondering how many people are struggling to find something that feels like them and suits their character and personality. I’m by heart a frou-frou pink princess kind of girl yet found that a simple (plain and a bit boring) A-line dress looked best on me…but it isn’t me!! It look fabulous but it doesn’t represent who I am and what I’m like in any way…anyone else struggling with this??
Post # 3
I tend to like more contemporary things but for my dress I really, really wanted something lace and a-line. I ended up with a dress that was neither lace nor a-line. It took me quite awhile to come to terms with this!
Post # 4
I know – its really tough when you have clear ideas and then find something you would never even consider looks pretty decent. I tried on a simple dress because I was asked to just to try it out and it looked much better than I thought but completely not what I’d ever select or choose to wear for my special day…but I had to admit it looked good…it’s such a frustrating dillema!
Post # 5
Don’t give up until you find something that fits both! There’s non-boring a-lines out there!
Post # 6
I wanted a more dramatic dress, mermaid/fit and flare with a dramatic skirt (VW White bias flange dress, VW Gemma, etc.), but they really didn’t look that great on me (to which I said, “WTF!!”). I ended up with a soft, flowy sheath dress that looked amazing and was very flattering.
Post # 7
I’m a big fan of Vera Wang’s too – there’s a few in the White collection I like but I’m from the UK 🙁
Post # 8
Mine is super flattering, but it suits my personality even better! So I voted to go with the dress you love!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
Keep looking! You will be able to find a simple-ish a-line that still makes you feel frou-frou princess! Seriously, you will.
That said, I found a dress that matched my personality. I think it is pretty flattering, but maybe doesn’t have the “wow” shock factor of the princess ball gowns i tried on… And couldn’t wait to rip off.
Post # 10
I think personality trumps shape. To an extent tho. My dress was flattering (in my opinion) but no where near as flattering as other gowns I tried on. But in the end those more flattering gowns didnt pack the punch my dress did.
I think you can choose a dress that looks good on you that is more your style instead of picking a less you gown that fits your body better. You will know if a gown is awful on you and usually those ones get thrown out anyay.
Post # 11
I went for personality, but I think you need a balance. If your dream dress doesn’t look good on you then I think you need to reconsider your choice, or at least try and find a compromise. If I had tried on massive poofy ball gowns and found them to be really flattering then I still wouldn’t have gotten one because its just not me. But it would have gotten me looking at for example natural waist alines Instead.
I also think that there’s so many options out there in terms of silhouettes, waistlines and necklines that you’re always going to be able to find something that meets both criteria.
Post # 12
@princessarielbelle: I’m horrendously pale and definitely not a shrinking violet. I keep having brief moments where I think I made a mistake and should have got a traditional dress but the truth is they look awful on me and couldn’t be further from my personality. Instead I have a pink (not blush, actually pink) short at the front, long train at the back wedding dress that whilst it isn’t traditional is definitely something you could only wear at a wedding and makes me feel like a perfect princess. I’m usually far from a pink girl but I wanted something completely different that people will remember.
Post # 13
Wait until you find a shape that has the details that fit your personality!
I wanted a mermaid and while “picture shopping” I made myself zero in on that shape and did not see anything else.
I asked my fiancé to give an opinion with some things that he likes and or really likes (he made sure he was attentive to my feelings when responding) and the conclusions was he doesn’t care for the gowns that have that strong mermaid shape (super tight then has a crazy flair). I asked him why just so I could see another point of view and maybe to help make a decision for me and he said, “it looks like two different dresses because of the tight fit at the top and the ball gown all the way down at the calves)
I still like the mermaid style but this allowed me to look outside of the box as I was fixated on that style and I realized, there are so many gowns available out there! I can find something that has the shape I want, only a little more subtle, and I could focus on what exactly I want in the details.
I found a modified A-line, created a sweetheart neckline and have a full train to create that silhouette when bustled. Sorry so long lol, just experienced the same thing and hope this has helped!!! Lots and Lots of luck 🙂
Post # 14
That sounds lovely!! What’s the make/designer. How did you cope with your family? Were they expecting something more traditional?
Post # 15
How many have you tried on?? I tried on FORTY SEVEN dresses until I found the one that both fitted my shape AND personality.
There were so many dresses that were beautiful, but they just weren’t ME. so I looked and looked and looked and found it!
There were some dresses that I liked the look of, and thought I’d go for – but they didn’t look right. And just because I liked the look of a dress didn’t mean I was going to buy it if it didn’t look good! I wouldn’t do that with any other clothes – why would I do it with my wedding dress! 🙂
Post # 16
Thank you – it does really help. I guess I still have to keep looking and find a mid-point between my dramatic flair and an A-line shape that suits. I like Terry Fox, Vera Wang White collection, blush pink dresses, ones with a little marie antoinette feel…it’s difficult to even FIND this kind of dress in a traditional bridal shop – so I’m doing a lot of hunting around online!
Going to a bridal outlet shop helped a little to show that a more traditional, simple white dress did look good – it’s just tough. My fiance wants to see me in bridal white in something simple and flattering and I want it to be the most stylised most original dress of my dreams (whilst fitting my budget!)