Post # 1
So…I *just* got engaged and in between being excited (which really I am), I am having a whole lotta dread. Why? I hate shopping (1 of the 10 reasons why I am eloping). I particularly hate dress shopping.
<br />That said…I want to wear a dress (not necessarily a wedding dress, but if it could be bridalish…and long, huzzah!). I just can’t seem to identify what I should be looking for. Particularly for my body type.
Frankly, as a T-shirt and jeans gal, I have rarely found a dress that actually *looks* good AND photographs well on me. I consider it a curse. I’ve spent some time trying to understand my body-type (sz = 4/6, bra = 34 C/D, 5’5, and fairly broad shoulders), and still have no idea how to describe it. Triangle (I have the shoulders for it)? Hourglass (possibly)? Pear (To quote Shakira: my hips don’t lie — they are definitely semi-truck wide.)?
Somehow in almost all dresses I always look like I have exaggerated proportions (i.e. even bigger boobs, even bigger hips, and even bigger shoulders). Definitely disappointing.
The only rule I know to follow with my “whatever-the-damn-body-shape-is” is I have to stick to v-necks. Or something with some V-like pattern (incidentatlly, I love this dress especially on her). I would hope to have a bit of a pattern on the dress as well, or something to help create a vertical line (and add some height to me, because I will not be wearing heals). Something simple and classic is also a preference.
Frankly, this is the one (and only) dress I’ve ever found that looks good on me (and I wear it alot at work during the winter, and if I can’t find anything, I will probably elope in it):
This is a dress that I tried to like…but honestly, my boobs look like Helga the Titan’s in this thing….not to mention the flair on the hips was less flirty and more matronly on me (I think)…
Post # 2
Honestly, I think that you are seeing something completely different when you look in the mirror than the rest of the world sees when they look at you. You don’t look particularly Helga-ish or semi-truck-wide to me.
Post # 3
you have a beautiful figure! show it off 🙂
Post # 4
I think you have a beautiful shape, and a sheath or fit-and-flare would look great on you 🙂
Post # 6
goldfishnmuskie: this is tagged under full-figured? A size 4/6 is not, is not, is not full-figured.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2015 - Firehouse Restaurant
Your figure is beautiful and I would show it off if I were you. My hips are much larger than my waist and I’m showing them off in a fit and flare gown. Why hide it? It took me years to get used to my larger hips but now I embrace them it’s what makes you a women.
Post # 8
You have a beautiful shape. If your shoulders are your widest point, you just have to be careful with necklines: avoid halters, straight strapless (sweetheart seems to be fine), and off-the-shoulder dresses that cut you off at the widest point.
As PP have said, a mermaid will probably work to add some length, as will avoiding horizontal ruching. Other than that, try on some dresses and choose one that you love.
Post # 9
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Post # 10
goldfishnmuskie: I agree with PP that your perception of yourself is entirely different from what others see. That being said, I certainly understand bad body image, and I’d suggest something more a-line since you are body conscious.
Post # 11
goldfishnmuskie: Your hips are not semi-truck wide and you are not full figured. If you were for ex a 4 on top and an 8 on bottom, you’d be a pear. It doesn’t look like that to me…you look pretty straight up and down.
I think you look like a rectangle shape. Maybe you could look up what would flatter your real body shape?
Post # 12
I think you just have to try every shape on, take pictures, & then come back & ask us. It’s so difficult to tell otherwise. I’m a tall-ish slender girl with a slightly athletic build & everyone wanted to put me in a more fitted gown bc they said I have the perfect body for it. However, I personally feel like they made me look too straight up & down. For more fitted gowns do really well on girls that have curves in their hips where the waist goes in & then comes out curving around the hips…more like an hour glass. Well I don’t have that. Yes my waist is smaller than my hips, but not enough where a thick wedding dress actually shows it. They just didn’t work well on my body. I wanted them to, but they didn’t. Now, a drop waist ball gown gave me that hour glass appearance, and I loved that. So it’s honestly very difficult to tell until you actually see the dress on you.
Post # 13
Uhhhh “full-figured”? I’m with ClaudiaKishi on this one.
Post # 14
goldfishnmuskie: I can’t tell if you have body dysmorphic disorder, or if you are fishing for compliments. If you Sincerely believe the things you are saying, you need counseling, not fashion advice.
Post # 15
I agree with franklymydearidont – I think if anything you may be a rectangle shape, as it doesn’t look to me that you have an overly defined waist compared to your hips. I definitely don’t think you are a pear shape, put it that way.
I would suggest looking at a-lines, as I think they’re the best choice for a girl who doesn’t like wearing dresses, as they’re not overly fussy or dramatic and they’re guaranteed to make you look skinny. They’ll also make you look taller. if you choose an a-line with some kind of fullness in the skirt, they’ll also balance out your top half.
You could also look at a-lines with a slightly dropped waist, or those with a slimmer fit that are more like sheaths.
There’s no reason why you can’t try on mermaids or really fitted dresses, but in my opinion those dresses look better on girls with really obvious curves.
It’s possible that your relatively straight waistline is what’s making you not like dresses – a dress that looks good on curvier girls might just sort of hang there on you, and if that dress doesn’t define your waist in some way it’s going to make you look larger. On the other hand, bridal dresses are not like your normal kind of dress and the good ones have all kind of tricks to make you look awesome. So when you try them on, you may be completely surprised!