Post # 1
Ok, I’m a waiting bee and none of my friends have really gotten married yet, so I’m not completely familiar with this. But it seems like brides choose a song for every element of the wedding: the bridal party coming down the aisle, the bride entering, leaving, entering the reception, the first dance, the cake cutting, garter toss, bouquet toss, father/daughter, mother/son dance, etc. Some of it I’ve heard of- such as the first dance or the bride coming down the aisle getting a special song, but I never realized you needed to choose a song to enter he reception to or to cut the cake to. So, couple of questions:
Which elements did you choose a special song for? Did you just let whatever was playing continue playing for the other elements, or did you cut the music? For he engaged bees- what are you planning? (I’m not limiting these questions to maied bees!)
What did you do if the song lasted longer than whatever was going on? For instance, if you chose a 4-minute song for a one-minute walk down the aisle, what did you do? Let it keep playing? Have it fade out? Use computer software to cut out some extra parts of the song?
ETA: I’m sorry if this is a dumb question, but I’m completely unfamiliar with music traditions of weddings. The people I do know who are married eloped, so I’ve never had any kind of experience with this.
Post # 3
We had a song for
*processional – some people use one song for the bridesmaids and then switch it when the bride comes down. We just did one song
*signing – we played a song when we signed our certificate
*recessional – we played a certain song for our walk back up the aisle
*entrance – we played one song for our bridal party, and us. Some people use 2 or 3 different songs
*our first dance
we didn’t have cake cutting or bouquet toss etc but most people pick special songs for those too.
we had all these songs on an iPod and we had our band leader take care of that. During rehearsal you will figure out all the timing for that etc. our band leader taking care of the iPod just knew when to start it, stop it, or fade it out, we just told him what songs for what event
Post # 4
- song for groom walking downn aisle
- song for groomsmen walking down aisle
- song for bridesmaids walking down aisle
- song for ring bearer and flower girl walking down aisle
- song for bride walking down aisle
- same song for everyone walking back up the aisle
- same song for all entering into reception
- song for first dance
- song for mommy and son dance (bride/son)
- song for groom and mother dance
- surprise dance for my grandparents 30th anniversary
- song for cake cutting
- same song for garter and bouquet toss
- and we had an exit song but we ended up not really doing a dance and leaving… lol
Our aisle was really really long and used up a good part of the songs of people walking sown the aisle but also our officiant played the songs on violin so she faded one into the next. As far as the enterance song… we made it perfectly to the dance floor at the end of the song somehow LOL. We danced the entire way through our first dance, special family dances. After we cut the cake we had to stand there for photos so that actually took the whole song as well and the garter and bouquet toss took a few minutes because we did them back to back so they took the whole song. I don’t know if we got lucky or just had a really good DJ? lol
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
@ForeverBirds: I am big on music so choosing the music was really important to me! Here are the songs I specifically chose:
- Processional Song for Bridal Party (Walking Down the Aisle)
- Processional Song for the Bride (Walking Down the Aisle)
- Recessional Song (Exiting the Ceremony)
- Bridal Party & Bride/Groom Reception Entrance Song
- I gave the DJ a general idea of the artists/type of music I wanted to hear during dinner
- First Dance
- Father/Daughter Dance
- Mother/Son Dance
- Cake Cutting
- Garter Toss
- Bouquet Toss
- Farewell/Last Dance Song
I also gave the DJ a list of songs that I’d like to hear during the reception, which he used as a guideline for what to play. It turned out great! Surprisingly, the recessional song ended up being the most memorable and every time I hear it, I think of our wedding 🙂
Post # 6
I have to comment to check back on this!! Thanks Bees 🙂
Post # 7
Agh! I completely forgot about this thread! It’s finals week, so I’ve been kinda scatterbrained lately. I woke up this morning freaking out because I thought I missed muy psychology exam and it’s not till early next week! I will be back later to read through these comments and reply to them!
Post # 8
Pretty much my entire life I’ve been dreaming about all of the songs I will have played at my wedding, so I will have designated songs for every detail plus lists of songs for the dj to play during cocktail hour, dinner, etc. My main ones are:
Reception Entrance (1 for bridal party, 1 for just us)
Our First Dance
Our Last Dance
The hardest part is now after all these years of picking out the songs by myself, convincing Fiance to agree to all of them. There’s a chance that he and the groomsmen will have their own processional song….. think, Superman…. oh gosh. 😉
Post # 9
@RockStar33: I didn’t think about timing being figured out during rehearsal and some things taking longer than you think. Idk, it just seems to me like the bride walking down the aisle should take like 45 seconds, and how many songs are that short? Lol. But then, i’ve neer actually been to a wedding, so that’s why I was curious.
@HappilyEverAfter54: The surprise dance for your grandparents made me smile. 🙂
@jny1179: My SO would probably choose some kind of screamo song if I let him choose what song he and the groomsmen came in to. But he’s been interested so far- he chose what song he wants me to come down the aisle to. 🙂
Post # 10
I am planning the wedding right now.
We will have one song for the processional, and a separate song for the bride coming in.
We will have a special song during communion that is very sentimental to us.
Post # 11
@ForeverBirds: If I left it completely up to my Fiance, he would have nothing but WWE entrance theme songs playing all night….. hahaha
Post # 12
@ForeverBirds: well when you think about it, you can start your walk when the song starts… once you get to the start of the aisle, you can pause for a second(which i did, my Justice of the Peace had my husband facing away while i walked up to the aisle, then i stopped for a few seconds and my Justice of the Peace then turned my husband around to see me), then you walk to the other end of the aisle, then it will take a few seconds for your husband to greet whoever is walking you, shake hands, hug, etc, then you can totally just stand up there with your husband for a few more seconds just to take it all in.
There is lots you can do to take up the time of a song.
Post # 13
We’re super religious/traditional, so the only special customized song we’ll have is for the bridal party/our entrance. We can’t change anything in the ceremony, and we won’t be having any dances at the reception.
Post # 14
Family entry (we had our families walk down the aisle after everyone was seated and before the processional started)
Signing of the Registry (Marriage Certificate)
Recessional (we actually picked about 2 or 3 songs because it’s tradition for everyone to follow the bride and groom out of the church)
Garter and Bouquet
We didn’t have a dance, so we didn’t have to worry about a first dance song or anything. We did self DJ the reception for background music – I made seperate lists for
And everyone really enjoyed it – apparently, they all expected since there was no dance that they’d be bored out of their trees and not have any background music.
Post # 15
@RockStar33: All of this is definitely true, just not something I’ve ever had to think about before. It’s amazing how much you learn even as a waiting bee asking questions!
Post # 16
we are pretty much planning all the music for our wedding:
- a couple songs for before the ceremony while guests are being seated
- a song for when the parents and bridal party walk down the aisle
- a song for bride walking down aisle
- same song for everyone walking back up the aisle
- a couple songs to play during the receiving line
- a song for all entering into reception
- all the songs for during dinner
- song for first couples dance
- song for the father/daughter dance
- song for groom/mother dance
- song for the anniversary dance
- song for cake cutting