What else can I do to help my friend with depession?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Debsy :  Knowing that she has disclosed her medication and efforts to get help with you, I don’t think it would be inappropriate to offer to help her with scheduling an appointment with a therapist. Sometimes just having someone willing to make a phone call or do a little research for you can help when you feel parayzed or overhwlemed with how to start.

It’s wonderful that you can be there for your friend but it sounds like you are both aware that it’s not a replacement for professional help.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
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As somebody who’s suffered from depression several times, I wanted nothing more than for everybody to piss off and leave me alone. In reality, and as much as I didn’t like it at the time, I needed people to keep on at me.

The reality is you can’t force somebody with depression to do anything about it and the individual has to be ready, but you can encourage and cajole and nag for the counselling appointment to be set up. I think most importantly make sure that she knows you’re there for her and that it’s OK for her to be depressed, but you’re willing to help however you can when she’s ready.

I will add that at no point was I ever suicidal, and that may change things slightly but I don’t know. I had.. “observations” about how X could happen, but there was zero intent.

Post # 5
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Newbee

I struggled with depression a few years ago after an emotionally abusive relationship. I went to therapy and it helped, and I’m still healing, but what REALLY helped was the fact that while I didn’t have a lot of friends (I prefer it that way), I have only a few close ones, and they were always there for me, along with my new (at the time) bf and a couple of my professors (I’m in a smaller field where I work closely with a lot of people). 

Mostly I was honest with my friends about how I felt and I developed a support system as I worked to feel better. A couple of them walked with me to therapy appointments on occasion (I am in college and the counseling center is walking distance from classes). My boyfriend held me when I cried and EVERY NIGHT when I fell asleep, and he loved to cheer me up with good jokes and my favorite music when I wanted him to. I am doing much better now, but he still loves to make me laugh! 

Having dealt with this, I can say you’re already doing a lot for her by being there. You’re great simply by just caring for her and coming on here for advice. Ask her how you can help more with counseling-going to therapy can be an ordeal if you do it alone. Basically-offer her a shoulder, your honest opinions, and a way to talk about feeling better. That’s what helped me the most. 

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