(Closed) What etiquette faux pas have you committed before joining the Bee?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@crystalrae:  My Fiance proposed to me the night before my cousins wedding! He didn’t think it was bad because we weren’t involved in the wedding at all, but I still cringe when I think about it. I feel like i should have waited to announce it till the next week!

Post # 4
Member
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t send a gift when I don’t go to the wedding. I would send a gift if it was someone I was really close to and was sad I couldn’t go to their wedding, but all the weddings I’ve declined I haven’t been THAT close to the people.

I understand you’re supposed to send a gift when you receive a wedding invitation. I just don’t agree with that. So I don’t.

Post # 5
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@crystalrae:  Well I guess it’s debatable if I did anything really bad, but before the bee I bought gifts that weren’t on the registry (but nothing like a toaster or whatever), and I might have asked a few too many questions about ladies’ diamonds (just because I am obsessed). Oh and I am most likely guilty for calling dainty looking rings ‘cute’ (not in a bitchy way) – I will definitely not be doing that again!!

I am sure some more will come to mind lol…

Post # 6
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3585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@NAvery:  Completely untrue.

Miss Manners says “don’t fall victirm to wedding gift extortion”  when you are sent an invitation.

A wedding invitation is not an invoice.

Post # 8
Member
2213 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@crystalrae:  I asked to bring my SO to a wedding (at least, I think I only did it once!  Eep!), when he wasn’t explicitly invited!  Now I feel like such an asshole for having done that.

Post # 10
Member
3585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@crystalrae:  Once I RSVP’s “yes” and forgot to attend. This is really the ultimate wedding sin. There is no excuse.

Fortunatley it was a somewhat casual wedding. But still–no excuse.

I called up the bride, apologized profusely, and wrote a nice sized check for a gift. But really there is no excuse.

Since that fauxpas I’ve restored my balance in the wedding karma world by attending two back-to-back fmaily weddings where there was NO FRICKIN’ ALCOHOL, both Saturday night ‘dos. And I suffered miserably for it.

Post # 11
Member
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@DomesticDiva:  THat reminds me of how my Fiance brought me to a wedding of a friend of his that I didn’t know and brought up months later that he didn’t know if i had been invited or not!

My cousin wasn’t mad she was super excited for me and couldn’t wait to see the ring! I think I was just embarassed when I read on here how you are supposed to give people months of their own time to shine! I wanted to call her up and be like I wasn’t trying to steal your spotlight!!

Post # 12
Member
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

In my early 20s, if someone sent me a wedding invitation, and I didn’t want to go, I just ignored it. If I didn’t feel like going the day of, I just didn’t, and if I did,a lot of times I didn’t bring a gift.

I feel horrible about this now, and I know full well that if there is any justice in the world, I’ll end up with half my guests not showing, and half again not bringing even  a card with them.

Post # 13
Member
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am also guilty of RSVPing (to a shower) and not showing up.  Pre-bee.. I didnt even think about how rude it was… Now I cringe when I think about that.

Post # 14
Member
504 posts
Busy bee

Once when I was young I wore a light beige colored dress to a wedding and another time I didn’t RSVP.

I would NEVER do that now. Never!

Edited to add

When I first started posting here, I thougt STD meant Sexually Transmitted Disease

Post # 15
Member
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had never written a thank-you note in my life until my bridal shower. No one in my family ever taught that we were supposed to do that! I look back at my graduation parties and just cringe over all the gifts I never sent a thank you for…

Post # 16
Member
1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am hanging my head in shame.  I’ve been THAT girl at a wedding who drinks too much during the cocktail hour and talked a little too loudly during a toast or a dance.  THAT GIRL.  

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