(Closed) What exactly is offensive about the word “cute”?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be offended if someone referred to your ering as cute?
    yes : (121 votes)
    58 %
    no : (89 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Hi!  To me, I think it could feel a bit like a backhanded size insult.  My ring is classic and elegant, dammit!  Hahaha.

    I’ve never had anyone call it cute, but I can imagine that people might be offended just because it sort of implies that it’s little or inconsequential.

    ETA: if your friends know you well and know that you call everything cute, they probably wouldn’t get upset.  I’m still not even sure that I’d get upset myself!

    Post # 4
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted no.  Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.   Anyways, I think it’d be worse if someone said “kind of cute”.   Cute in our society has become a “well, it could be better or worse..” type of word.  It’s how people perceive and use it.

    Post # 5
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It just depends.  I can imagine my sister, for instance, saying that in a derogatory way- it is more about context and tone than words really.

    Post # 6
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    people call it “cute” all the time. Yes, it’s small. Get over it.

     

    …voted Not offended.

    Post # 7
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    To me, it’s more about tone.  “Oh my god that is super cute!” as opposed to “oh…that’s cute.”

    To be fair, my best friend ALWAYS gushes over things with the word “cute” involved, so I might have developed an immunity to it haha.

    Post # 8
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    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am a waiting bee, so my opinion doesn’t have too much weight. But I think “cute” sounds rude, when used in a condescending way. I’m sure most people would love a friend who is beaming, excited and squeals that their ring is “super cute,” right?

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Personally, I dont really care what anyone says about my ring.  But I can see how “cute” could be upsetting.  I usually use the word for little things – minature things of normally bigger items are “cute”, babies are cute, puppies (small dogs) are cute, kittens are cute.  If I use the word cute on a ring, it probably means I had nothing else nicer to say.  Disclaimer: I’ve also never actually called a ring cute.

    Post # 10
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    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Cute is not my first choice to describe my ring but I wouldn’t be offended! I think people associate cute with small and that is why they are bothered by it. But not necessarily. A friend of mine ring band is almost a bow shape and I think that is cute and had nothing to do with the size of her diamond. I’ve never had anyone refer to my engagement ring as cute but had someone refer to my 3000 sqft home as cute. Which I found strange but figured she must not have a way with words!

    Post # 11
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It wouldn’t offend me… but it is kind of a backhanded compliment.

    Post # 12
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    11168 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Okay, so I JUST had an experience with this last night so this is fresh for me.

    My e-ring has never been referred to as cute. In fact most women come up to and go ga-ga over it so last night while looking at gemstone rings the lady behind the counter referred to my ring as “cute.” I was a bit shocked and wasn’t quite sure how to take it as I don’t know her personally and I couldn’t read into her tone or inflection at all. She quickly followed up her comment by recommeding a larger sapphire ring stating that I “apparently like bolder jewelry”…I was also wearing a large dangling turquoise necklace. I eventually left the counter mulling it over (gemstone ring and the comment).

    In the end I am not offended by the word cute, I was just a bit surprised and unsure what exactly it means and I think those that use cute might be just an unsure how to respond…so cute is the best option.

    Post # 13
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    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it depends on the tone they say ‘cute’ in..

    Post # 14
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t really care but I think “cute” is typically a word reserved for little girls… like oh your ring is cute could imply small / childlike. 

     

    I use cute a lot when talking about clothes and stuff so it wouldn’t really bother me,  but I would expect that no one would refer to a 2 carat diamond as “cute”

    Post # 15
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    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @Rouquine: definitely agree with you about that definition of cute, almost implying that it ‘could be better, but its nice.’

    Someone asked me if my ring was  “promise ring” lol…go F yourself after I slap you silly!

    Post # 16
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    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It depends entirely on who is saying it and how they say it.  By itself, I don’t find it offensive.  But, if said by a snarky individual with a tone that is intended to make you feel bad, it can be offensive.  I really don’t care what others think of my ring, I love it so call it whatever you want. 🙂

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