What "faux pas" have you made?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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2422 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

i didnt invite someone to our wedding that i now wish i had. my husbands mum didnt want her there for whatever reasons, but i still wish id invited her. shes really nice and has been nice to us for a long tome, although we dont see her much. so awkard when we did see her !!!

Post # 64
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not purchasing a gift for someone who invited me to their wedding at the last minute in order to get a gift.

Post # 65
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1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I RSVPd yes to a wedding, went to the ceremony, and didn’t make it to the reception so they had an empty seat and meal. However, it was definitely NOT intended! The ceremony was at 12pm, so a five hour break between ceremony and reception, and I started to get a bad headache mid-ceremony. If the reception had been immediately after I probably could have made it through at least the first bit, but I just started feeling worse until I went to the toilet, threw up and fainted. Turns out I had a migraine (first one ever) and had to go home.

Post # 66
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850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Steampunkbride:  Ha, ha……this made me laugh. I’d say that pouring the neat Gin away at 17 as an inexperienced drinker was probably preferable to downing the whole thing and being sick in the plant pot!!

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I really messed people around at the last wedding. I was with my now ex-bf, and he had an invite to the ceremony and reception. Well, a couple weeks after we got invites we broke up and the couple took the space back.

Then, I met Fiance. We were dead serious from day one, so it wasn’t weird to me to ask if he was allowed to come along. They wavered for a few weeks and then said a month before that he could come to the reception (Totally normal here to only go to the evening). I was pretty happy and it wasn’t until recently that i realised that was pretty rude of me.

Post # 68
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Blushing bee

I had to tell the bride I would ‘arrive late’ for the wedding due to a new night shift. I was vague and didn’t give her a time. I arrived when the dessert buffet was up and looked for my space on the seating list. It wasn’t there. I was quite insulted and didn’t give her the gift I had brought! I feel terrible. I should have been clear when I would arrive and not given her stress.

 

To top it off, it was a large boxed gift of heavy plates. I have figured out from this thread that that is rude! lol. I was a terrible naive young person. 

Post # 69
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@shanbp:  

You can try contacting the registry company.  I had a gift sent with a card but the card wasn’t signed.  I called the company, they had to call the sender to see if it was ok to give me their information.  After they got the ok, they called me back with the information.  It’s worth a try if you haven’t found out yet who purchased the gift. Good luck.

Post # 70
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t think someone should feel guilty about not covering your plate if you don’t have the financial means. When I was a student making less than $10k a year, just attending friends’ weddings was tough money-wise.

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

  • Sent a couple of RSVPs late (but let the bride know another way that I’d be there)
  • Ignored the registry and bought something I thought the couples would like
  • Had the gift shipped directly from the registry website to the couple’s house but brought a card to the wedding (apparently you’re not supposed to do that?)

None of mine are too terrible, I hope!

Post # 72
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102 posts
Blushing bee

Wow now that I’m helping planning my daughters wedding I see all the terrible things I’ve done.  Biggest is not sending RSVP cards. I’m a terrible procrastinator so they would sit on my desk or I just assumed people knew I was going or not. Oops! Also went to a wedding in Chicago and was waaaaaay underdressed. I’m used to weddings here in the Southwest that are more casual. I felt like an idiot. Also, went with a date to a wedding. I didnt know anyone there. Unfortunately I was seated directly next to a champagne fountain. You can imagine how that story ended!

Post # 73
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My biggest faux pas was intentionally not inviting someone with their significant other — the envelope was only addressed to her (a friend of FI’s).

The reason for this was there was a situation that went down which has caused this SO to be absolutely not welcome around us or any of our friends, and we would never allow this guy anywhere near our wedding day.  Our friendship with this girl was falling apart anyway as a result of everything that happened, but we sent her an STD back in January so we had to follow through with an invitation.  We were sure that she would decline — and she did. 

 

Post # 74
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsNewDay:  Don’t feel bad, I just found out on this post that boxed gifts were rude, news to me!  I’m a little bummed, I kinda hoped people would bring presents to my wedding.  It reminds me of being a kid and going to weddings with my parents, I’d go to Macy’s or something with my mom to get the gift and it was the only time she’d pay for wrapping at the store, and it always looked amazing.  I thought wedding wrapping was artwork.  Sad this is no longer a thing 🙁

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I never RSVPed to my friend’s wedding, she had to call me. I told her my mom couldn’t make it because of work, and I asked to bring my fiance instead. Believe me, I simply didn’t know all of that was rude until I really started planning my wedding. I’ve apologized at least 10x to her since then.

My Maid/Matron of Honor told me to give her my guest list for a bridal shower. I requested to make it a wedding shower, to include my fiance in the festivities. I know now that it’s rude to ask for more than what I’m being offered.

I’m putting this line in the invitation: “Please visit our website for directions, registry information, and more!” I didn’t want to, as I didn’t want to outright “ask” for gifts, but where I’m from, it’s actually the norm to send tiny envelopes with a card asking for cash gifts. Seriously. Everyone’s been telling me to include registry cards in the invitation. So mentioning the registry in that one little line is a good compromise.

Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rbabyrolle:  ya I looked on the registry itself and no one had gone specifically “through it”…meaning they prob just looked at the list of what we had and picked up the gifts and went to pay for them without checking it off the actual registry.

Thing is No one actually got us anything from our registry except these 2 pans so they prob didnt think it was a big deal (that anyone else would double buy them lol)

We only got like 4 physical gifts the rest was cash in cards!

argh! lol

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