(Closed) What first attracted you to your SO/BF/HB etc?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What first attracted you to your other half?
    Eyes : (16 votes)
    10 %
    Smile : (9 votes)
    6 %
    Bottom : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Sense of mystery : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Personality : (88 votes)
    56 %
    Hair : (0 votes)
    Clothes : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Other (pleace explain below) : (35 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2755 posts
    Sugar bee

    He had a really great smile and was wickedly funny. And just adorable! He reminds me a lot of Jack Black/Seth Rogan, which is my go-to for celebrity crushes. Also, he has amazing hands πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    First it was the pure fact that he was behind the bar… something about that is just hot… then when he sat down I noticed that he was actually cute… But what really got me was the fact that he was so easy to talk to.  I felt like I knew him my whole life after talking to him for an hour… and I didn’t want the night to end. πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    On our first date, he was so nervous and I found that endearing. Once he became comfortable he had the sweetest personality and talking to him became so natural. I knew on the first date this was someone I could see myself really getting to know and 4 years later, he’s still a surprise at times!!

    Post # 6
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    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I met my Fiance while he was working at a pub and I came in for dinner.  He has this really different tattoo on his calf – I noticed it because he was wearing shorts, and it really attracted my attention. Still one of the things I find most adorable about him.

    And then he came and sat next to me to take my food order, and I kind of swooned.  I don’t usually get flustered and girly, but he was just really cute.

     

    Post # 7
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    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Met my Fiance at pharmacy school (yep, we’re both going to nerd it up as pharmacists) but what really attracted me to him is that he a) is brilliant b) is suuuuper handsome, but also c) that he’s really easy to relate to on every single level. I have to say that I voted for first noticing his smile. He has an amaaaaaazing smile and that really is the first thing that caught my eye. It’s kind cute in that we were both very much attracted to one another, but each of us thought that the other was way out of our league. Somehow we managed to interact more and began our journey together. Sooo happy πŸ™‚

    Btw, great thread!

    Post # 8
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    5220 posts
    Bee Keeper

    he has the most adorable dimple that I noticed right away when I first saw him smile…and he had a  5 o’clock shadow going on that I’m such a sucker for

    Post # 9
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    11419 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Darling Husband and I are of like faith, and each of us had some very significant requirements for a potential future mate.  (That’s why, despite having had several other opportunities to marry when I was younger, I was still single when I met DH! πŸ™‚

    As a strong Christian, I wanted a FH who is an even stronger Christian, a man who absolutely loves God more than he loves me and who puts his relationship with God first in His life. He had to be a person of honesty, integrity, and character — someone who does the right thing, even when no one is looking. He needed to have healthy, balanced relationships with his family and friends.  He needed to love people in general, as well as children, and to be sensitive and kind to others. Because I have two degrees, and my career is in communications, I really hoped to marry someone who is intelligent and articulate, someone who is a great communicator with both the spoken and written word. I also love, love, love to laugh, and I am constantly engaging in word play, so I really wanted a FH who has a very strong sense of humor and who could make me laugh even during difficult times. And, obviously, I had to be extremely attracted to him on all levels — spiritually, emotionally and physically! πŸ™‚

    Darling Husband and I lived in different states and met on eHarmony, which I think offers some great filtering mechanisms to help its clients “weed out” candidates with whom they would not really be compatible.  When I was first “matched” with Darling Husband, and he initiated communication with me, I thought he was a nice, attractive, Christian guy whose profile seemed to be consistent with the type of person I was hoping to find, so I decided to respond to his communications. Our initial, written eHarmony communications didn’t result in a major spark; however, they served to help confirm, at each stage, that my now Darling Husband was definitely worth getting to know better. It was during our first, very long phone call that I felt the first true connection, and, even then, I began to realize that this could actually BE something special. I not only LOVED the SOUND of his amazing voice, but also I loved the content of his conversation.  In the span of that first, two-hour call, we definitely saw that the path appeared to be clear ahead of us to pursue getting to know each other more. We obviously continued to connect by phone, texts, and, eventually, in person.  By our second date, which took place a little more than two months after we were “matched,” we both knew that this could really be “it!” And it was!

    Post # 10
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ooh! I’ll play. 

    In short, it was his personality. My husband (IMO) is very handsome, but that, coupled with his self confidence was actually a turn off at first… but his personality, coupled with his self confidence is what sealed the deal. Full story below. πŸ™‚

     

    I was teaching in Turkey for the summer (I lived with a family and taught their 8 year old daughter English) and my student and I would go to a pool at a local sports club many times a week. On our first visit, my student’s father said “See that guy up there, standing with the towel over his shoulder and posed like a Knight? If you ever have a problem in the pool, he can help you.”  My now-husband was working at the pool, and was the handsome, confident, striding around the place swim teacher.  That image was kinda a turnoff for me, to be honest, and his “knight” comment wasn’t helping.

    Over the course of the 6 weeks that I was there, however, I fell for him. Hard.  He was *fantastic* with the children at the pool.  I am a teacher, and children are one of my very most favorite things in the world, and it was *clear* that the same went for him too.  The kids would trail him around the place all day every day. He would throw them up into the air like a father.  He was patient and smiley, funny, and charming.  

    We could hardly communicate with each other at all in the beginning, but we persevered.  Human interpreters, electronic translators, dictionaries, body language (hehehe), etc. got us through. 

    Fast forward a year and a half later… He’s been living in the USA for more than a year and we are happily married. πŸ™‚

     

    To those of you that actually got through all of this. Thanks. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 11
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    11419 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @multinational: Great story! So glad things worked out so well despite the initial language barrier! And how cool to have an eight-year-old matchmaker, lol! πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
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    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    He’s and old school gentleman.  I LOVE that!

    Post # 13
    Member
    518 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I have to share!!!!

    I was a senior in High School and I got a part time job at a shoe store.  The first day I went in for training (this is an old-school store which still measures feet and actually hand picks the shoes out of the back stock room so it actually involved training!) I was in the boss’s office watching a video by myself and this…guy…for lack of better terms pops his head in and says hello.  Or at least I think he said hello because all I could see was the most GORGEOUS SET OF BRIGHT BLUE EYES I’d ever seen.  Eventually I noticed the man they were attached to was a very handsome man.

    I started working and he was a full time employee so I got to see him most days I worked.  He seemed nice, but I assumed he was way out of my league.  He was 8 years older than me and very mature in faith (we are both STRONG Christians who have a lot of fun while still following Christ) and he just blew me away.  He did test me, quite a few times by bringing up hard topics.  I was still immature in my faith, but I feel like I held my ground and was able to show him what I believed.  I didn’t like this at first, but then I realized that he was all I ever wanted.  We’ve been together ever since.

    Turns out, he was only working at the shoe store until he could go back to college.  We left for college at the same time, but our schools were only 20 mins apart.  I just KNEW when he got out of our small hometown he’d find someone older, prettier, better than me…but we, by only a god-given miracle, have been together ever since.  My goodness I love him πŸ˜‰

    But seriously…those EYES!

    Post # 14
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    His way with words! My Fiance is definitely the most handsome man I’ve ever dated and that definitely had something to do with why I first flirted with him, but what made me actually want to be with him was the way he spoke. Even from our first interaction. Because of all the books he has read on cultures (especially eastern religions) his tone and pace of speaking is unlike anyone else I’ve ever met. His voice can still make me melt after 3 years πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @multinational: I think that is so sweet! Its like a storybook where at first you thought “pfft showoff” and then fell in love. Plus it being cross cultural- I’d read it!

    Post # 16
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    243 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    How easy it was for us to talk. We were both pretty shy people but we had NO problem talking for hours. πŸ™‚

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