Post # 1
What first attracted you to your significant other… I’m not talking so much about the looks, but rather, what quality do they possess that really attracted you to them?
How do you feel about that quality now? Is it still one of the things that you are crazy for or does it bring up other issues.
I’ll give you an example from my own life. I was incredibly attracted to my fiance’s steadiness. He never got too high or too low, and he never faltered (both in his interest to me and his commitment to keeping his word with other people around him). That quality was SO compelling to me, because I hadn’t really found that in a guy I’d dated before.
Now, however, I see that this quality has a slight unintended downside… Though he is very loving, he has a predictable quality that is endearing, but sometimes lacks spontaneity.
I just wondered if other people’s experience was similar– the things that are most attractive usually come at a price (though luckily the price is usually small)!
Post # 3
We knew each other for many years before we started dating, and I only didn’t pursue my early crush on him due to perceived lack of interest (though it turns out he was totally interested and instead just extremely shy). I think what attracted me initially was how easy going and genuinely friendly/outgoing he is (which is part of why I’d never have guessed the shy thing). I know that might sound a little generic, but it’s a little more specific. Basically everyone who’s ever met him really likes him, and I think it’s b/c he has that sort of intangible quality that someone who is just genuinely and thoroughly a good and caring person exudes. I don’t think I’d ever met someone who is also so super smart and successful that has that quality…so couple that with the fact that we share tons of other interests (hiking, climbing, airplanes, mountains, water…yeah, I know, one is not like the others) and you can see how I got hooked:)
The downside is that he’s extremely non-confrontational which can make it very difficult to work out problems b/c he would rather not go through the uncomfortableness of expressing negative feelings. One good thing about htis (I come from a family that says everything) is that it’s taught me how to express negative feelings in a much more constructive way.
Post # 4
What initially attracted me was his absolute sweetness & kindness to people he encounters, whether it’s his family, a server in a restaurant, someone who’s car is brokedown on the side of the road, or a homeless person looking for some change (whom he will promptly hand at least a $5.00 bill).
I still adore this kind, positive outlook he has about others, and although for a while, I used to be alarmed to see him hand out help (money or otherwise) to a complete stranger, I now find myself being more "in that positive light" & more willing to help others too.
Post # 5
We new eachother in passing from work but we both were in a relationship when he started and other then saying hello or what’s up, we didn’t really talk.
Then the moment that I know was ment to be happened and a bunch of us from work went out to happy hour and by the end of the evening it was him, another co-worker and me hanging out, taking, laughing.
He was so attentive and funny. Very respectful, which I really loved. He made me laugh non-stop and yet he was able to talk about interesting things.
Now that we have been together for going on three years he still makes me laugh and he still is attentive and funny.
Post # 6
Well, I was initially attracted to him because he has red hair and green eyes. I’d say that’s the reason we initially began talking. Obviously I found lots of other things to like but I looooved his hair right off the bat.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Initially, yes, it was appearance. But, we also were both in same (high school!) choir, so we had a common interest in — and passion for — music we could build upon.
Post # 8
We had an absolutely hilarious conversation together the night we first met. I had actually had my eye on another guy that night so wasn’t really thinking about him intially as a potential. But later on when I saw my now Fiance chatting up some other girls I got wicked jealous, remembered how funny he was, and jumped back in there! He was so fun and easy to talk to and we just clicked immediately. We were inseperable the rest of the night.
… It didn’t hurt that he was super cute and had curlyish salt and pepper hair and beautiful green eyes either 🙂
Post # 9
I was automatically attracted to his smile physically and more so his sense of personality! He was so funny, always smiling and laughing with other people! He still makes me laugh at the silliest things today! I love it!
Post # 10
I loved his intelligence. This is still very good because he uses it to impress the hell out of his bosses and get ahead. Sometimes, however, it makes me feel a little less intelligent!
Post # 11
I could always sense his gentle spirit. He’s a tough guy on the outside (hunts, drives a pickup truck, owns a motorcycle), but on the inside, he’s a big softie. 🙂 Just what a girl like me has always needed.
On the other hand, him being a "feeler" rather than a "thinker" (In the Myers-Briggs personality-type sense) — just like me — means that we can get in fights rather easily if one of us says something that inadvertently hurts the other. I just try to be careful to tell him calmly that he’s hurt me when this happens and he immediately responds with concern rather than getting mad that I’m acting irrationally. He’s slowly learning to do the same. It’s hard though, because I don’t think he’s spent as much time analyzing his own gut-level reactions as I have my own.
Post # 12
well, we met online, so I will admit I am somewhat superficial and was attracted to him because he has GORGEOUS eyes. Once I met him however, I admire his strength and "fight". He truly is my hero in many ways and I am sooooo blessed to have met him and still cannot believe I get to be his wife…
Post # 13
I saw him at the end of the table at a dinner party and had to talk to him. After we started talking I didn’t talk to anyone else the whole night. He was just the most incredible person and still is. I’m amaze everyday that he choose me to be his wife.
Post # 14
personality wise it was his intelligence and that he was so well spoken, but the VERY first thing was definitely his curly hair and blue eyes!
Post # 15
I loved his confidence and how fun he was to spend time with!
When I met him he was kind of a fun-party-type kinda guy and after 10 min of knowing him I said “One day you will meet someone that will change you and you will settle down with her!” and he said no way! Later while were dancing he said “Don’t go falling in love with me now!” It was so arrogant and cocky but who knew that both of what we said that night would come true!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
When I firsst met Fiance, he was playing the guitar and that was enough for me to swoon. Keep in mind, I had just graduated from high school and ‘musicians’ always seem to be ‘in’ when you’ve just turned 18.
But, regardless, his talent really really impressed me and I just wanted to know more.