(Closed) What Gifts to bring to a wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What gift do you bring to a wedding?
    Money : (45 votes)
    56 %
    Registry Gift (If there wasn't a Bridal Shower) : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Registry Gift (Regardless if there was or wasn't a Bridal Shower) : (30 votes)
    37 %
    Physical Gift (Non-Monetary) : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I always give a physical gift at the shower and money at the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I gave both .. a physical gift at the wedding and a cash gift in the greeting cards box. The bride didn’t have a shower, but had a bachelorette party that I didn’t bother attending.

    it is also customary in my culture to give money in red packets to newlyweds.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

    either money or something off their registry…the first time i got married we got ONE gift off of our registry…one…and a whole bunch of stuff that was of no use to us..lots of wall hangings and knick knacks…so please get them something they want!

    Post # 6
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I used to always give a registry gift, but now, having gone through it, I’m writing checks!!!

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper

    I never give money, I always give a physical gift to anything I go to… showers, weddings, guest at a friend’s home…

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    physical gift definitely 🙂 unless you know they already have everything they need, then I would give money

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I never give money. In fact, before I came on Weddingbee, I’d never heard of this common knowledge about giving money at the wedding. Honestly, if people are giving you gifts, you should try to be grateful, even if it’s not exactly what you wanted.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee

    In my experience money and physical gifts (registry or non) are all equally acceptable for the wedding. Couples around here (upper Midwest) often have a day-after get-together brunch or luncheon for the family & close friends to watch them open gifts, because physical gifts are very much the norm. Shower gifts are typically smaller kitchen things, towels, etc., while wedding gifts tend to be china and other, bigger registry items.

    Post # 11
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Sometimes I give money and sometimes I give a registry gift.

    Post # 12
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    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I give a physical gift (from the registry) for both usually.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I usually give money just because it’s easier, but I think cash or a gift from the registry is totally acceptable.

    Post # 14
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    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ve never heard of this rule either. Most people around here give either physical gifts or money for weddings, and showers are optional.

    I usually bring physical gifts, personally. I like putting a big, pretty, wrapped box on top of the pile.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think this is a regional thing.  I always give money for weddings.  Before I moved to Maryland, I thought physical gifts (like towels, blenders etc) were for bridal showers.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    It depends. I usually give a registry gift (but I never bring it with me to the wedding, I purchase it online and have it sent to whatever address is specified on the registry). Our wedding is in a few weeks and we are getting a combination of registry gifts and money (and so far, no off-registry gifts…thanks goodness).

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