(Closed) What goes into a Jewish ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Jewish
Post # 4
2360 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I posted pretty in depth about my Jewish ceremony on the blog – feel free to peek through and I would be happy to answer any questions that you have – I included my ceremony wording in the blog posts, so hopefully that will help – I am starting with the tisch and bedeken, and then it goes through the ceremony (and reception).  Please feel free to PM me if you have any other questions!

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Post # 5
10 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011


This is probably more of an “interfaith” board-worthy response, but I wouldn’t necessarily say that your ceremony HAS to feel heavily Jewish, even though I think there is often a lot of pressure on interfaith weddings to include all of the specifically Jewish elements and none of the specifically Christian elements (i.e., that mention Jesus).  There are certainly a lot of beautiful Jewish traditions, but you don’t have to include all of them – and there are a lot of beautiful elements to Christian weddings, as well!  Do you want to incorporate Christian elements but don’t know how to, or are you happy to have a very Jewish-feeling ceremony?  What you can do and the balance/feel of the ceremony will also depend very much on who is officiating – will you have a rabbi, a minister, both or neither?

This may be better suited for a separate thread, but happy to provide suggestions on crafting a more balanced ceremony, if that is what you want.  If not, straight Jewish ceremonies are certainly very beautiful and meaningful – as long as it will feel that way to YOU!

Post # 6
1643 posts
Bumble bee

Check out The New Jewish Wedding by Anita Diamant. It’s like Jewish Weddings for Dummies. NOT calling you a dummy lol. Just saying she’s fantastic at explaining things. And there’s a LOT to explain, which is why I’m giving you her name instead of trying to go through everything in one post.

That being said, you’re having an interfaith ceremony, so I would each bring to the table the traditions that are important to you. The ceremony is neither strictly Jewish OR Christian…it’s both. So just choose what you both like the best!

Post # 7
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My hubs and I are interfaith, too (I am Catholic, he is Jewish). I highly recommend “Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating Your Jewish/Christian Ceremony” by Rabbi Devon Lerner. This book is AWESOME, and was an invaluable resource to us in planning our wedding ceremony. I got it on Amazon for like 12 bucks.


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