Really you can approach your speech anyway you want. People know you are standing up for the bride and are likely a close, if not closest, friend to her. I wrote my speech with that in mind; bride first, audience second. You can make it funny, serious, teary…whatever works for you. I also tried to keep in mind the wedding my friend was having. It was formal, but not too formal. I also knew I wanted to include both my friend and her Darling Husband so that my speech was appreciated by both the bride and the grooms guests.
Below is my speech. Perhaps it will help??
“The trick to maintaining a 20 year friendship is very simple, or at least it is for Amanda and I. We don’t have the same taste in men. Yes, I know…sounds silly but never once did we fight over which one of us so-&-so liked more, because chances are if he liked one the other wasn’t interested and vice versa. Let’s just say when a new “crush” graced the scene both of us usually looked at the other and said “who? Him? You’ve got to be kidding me?”.
Now, I knew Tim was special before I ever met him. Amanda, as I am sure most of you know, rarely is lost for words and when Tim’s name came up you could bet that the next hour would be devoted to talking about this man, whether I wanted the details or not. So, I was looking forward to my first encounter with this knight who’d single handedly swept my best friend off her feet. I think I heard two words out of Tim that day. I’m pretty sure they were in fact “hello” and “goodbye”. Watching them walk away hand in hand, I couldn’t help but ask “How is this relationship going to work? Amanda is going to eat him alive and spit him out”. To my surprise and pleasure something completely different occurred.
Slowly the queen of overshare, the crazy girl dancing all stupid in the middle of the hallway making people laugh and motormouth ‘Modis mellowed. Before my eyes I watched her transform into the softened, beautiful, vibrant and matured woman you see glowing in front of you today. Amanda 2.0
Tim, on the other hand, now formulates full sentences when I’m around and we’ve actually worked our way up to one or two full length conversations. He’s emerged from his shell a considerable distance and can’t help but form a hypothesis about Amanda rubbing off some of that social butterfly dust on him.
These two have in essence accomplished what most of us could only hope for in life. They have met the person that compliments them in such an amazing way as to bring out the best in their partner. That, my friends, is love defined. Congratulations you two on finding that.”