(Closed) What goes into a MOH speech?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Really you can approach your speech anyway you want. People know you are standing up for the bride and are likely a close, if not closest, friend to her. I wrote my speech with that in mind; bride first, audience second. You can make it funny, serious, teary…whatever works for you. I also tried to keep in mind the wedding my friend was having. It was formal, but not too formal. I also knew I wanted to include both my friend and her Darling Husband so that my speech was appreciated by both the bride and the grooms guests.

Below is my speech. Perhaps it will help?? 

“The trick to maintaining a 20 year friendship is very simple, or at least it is for Amanda and I. We don’t have the same taste in men. Yes, I know…sounds silly but never once did we fight over which one of us so-&-so liked more, because chances are if he liked one the other wasn’t interested and vice versa. Let’s just say when a new “crush” graced the scene both of us usually looked at the other and said “who? Him? You’ve got to be kidding me?”. 

Now, I knew Tim was special before I ever met him. Amanda, as I am sure most of you know, rarely is lost for words and when Tim’s name came up you could bet that the next hour would be devoted to talking about this man, whether I wanted the details or not. So, I was looking forward to my first encounter with this knight who’d single handedly swept my best friend off her feet. I think I heard two words out of Tim that day. I’m pretty sure they were in fact “hello” and “goodbye”. Watching them walk away hand in hand, I couldn’t help but ask “How is this relationship going to work? Amanda is going to eat him alive and spit him out”.  To my surprise and pleasure something completely different occurred. 

Slowly the queen of overshare, the crazy girl dancing all stupid in the middle of the hallway making people laugh and motormouth ‘Modis mellowed. Before my eyes I watched her transform into the softened, beautiful, vibrant and matured woman you see glowing in front of you today. Amanda 2.0 

Tim, on the other hand, now formulates full sentences when I’m around and we’ve actually worked our way up to one or two full length conversations. He’s emerged from his shell a considerable distance and can’t help but form a hypothesis about Amanda rubbing off some of that social butterfly dust on him. 

These two have in essence accomplished what most of us could only hope for in life. They have met the person that compliments them in such an amazing way as to bring out the best in their partner. That, my friends, is love defined. Congratulations you two on finding that.”

 

Post # 4
Member
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I loved the speech my Maid/Matron of Honor gave.  She started with introducing herself, how long we’ve been friends and a few things we used to do together.  Then she started talking about numbers and told everyone to bear with her.  She gave some numbers 17, how long we’ve known each other, 5 14, the date we were engaged, 3 24, the day we’re married, 9 how many years we’ve been together, 18 how old we were when we first met, 2 for us each as individuals, and 1 for our new life together.  Then she gave us 2 Mega Millions lotto tickets with all the numbers on them in hopes that we’d win but if not, we’re both winners for having found each other.  It was really funny and sweet and so us.

Post # 6
Member
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@cirk:  No prob! As I mentioned…I wrote it as if I was talking to my BFF and then made it audience appropriate. I was a Co-Moh (Amanda had 2 Moh & 11 Bm…which was insane). The other girl didn’t even write a speech. She kinda knew what she wanted to say, and she did just that. I wanted a bit more structure, plus I tend to freeze in public speech situations. All this said, at the end of the day I knew I wanted to talk about the bride, the groom and the reason for the wedding, their love. Those are the speeches that mean something and are relevant.

I went to a wedding once when a Bridesmaid or Best Man went off on a tangent about battling testicular cancer for like 5 minutes. It was a little morbid considering the fact he was at a wedding and the story really had nothing to do with either the bride, groom or their relationship. A Bridesmaid or Best Man at another wedding, spoke about how being a lesbian means you get beat up a lot in highschool and that she knew, if she had known the bride back then, she would have won a lot more of those fights? She then went on to talk about how hard it was to be a lesbian in adult life. Time and place appropriate, me thinks not! 

Post # 7
Member
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Oh….Amanda and Tim were married May 29th, 2010.

A week ago they welcomed their first child into the world. They named him Jude. Just thought I’d share that good news…now I’ve shared their story with you. 😉 

She’s also my Maid/Matron of Honor in my wedding. 😀

Post # 9
Member
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@cirk:  I’m sure you’ll do a fantastic job! 

Post # 10
Member
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like you have a great start! @musicalrose: has a great example. Speak to your friend but for the guests (something personal and sweet to her/the couple but enjoyable and intersting to the friends and family). Funny, sweet, crying, are all great. The best speeches come from the heart. Your layout looks like it will hit all the good points and incorporate everyone there while still being special to the bride and groom, I’m sure you’ll do a wonderful job!

The topic ‘What goes into a MOH speech?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors