(Closed) What Guest Attire Are You Hoping for/Choosing?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
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    Cocktail Attire

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    Black Tie

  • Post # 2
    9443 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would never tell my guests how to dress unless it was a truly black tie event. I assume that my guests know how to dress themselves, they do it every other day. Our wedding is fairly formal but if someone shows up in jeans I doubt I’ll even notice it and I know I won’t care. Even if you put a dress code on your invitations, it doesn’t mean people will follow it. This is just one of those things that doesn’t seem worth stressing about.

    Post # 3
    464 posts
    Helper bee

    it is not proper etiquette to put the dress code on invitations… most adults realize a wedding is a formal event and they can look up the venue and see how fancy/casual it is and use their own judgement.

    Post # 4
    30388 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We didn’t include a dress code. Guests can make an educated guess about appropriate level of formality by looking at the invitation, and noting the time and location.

    Post # 5
    3527 posts
    Sugar bee

    You don’t get to pick attire for your guests, and I couldn’t have cared less if someone showd up in jeans to my wedding- in fact, many people did, since my family are not very fancy people. 

    Post # 6
    1279 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I’m hoping for formal. I’m having a traditional church ceremony and a nice banquet hall reception. It’s November so I’m not really worried about my guests not dressing the part. I’d never put it on my invitations though lol.

    Post # 7
    1819 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m gonna let you know that you will likely get hundreds of responses like pps. That adults know how to dress and putting dress codes on the invite is rude and tacky. However, I disagree. I see how people dress on a daily basis and its disgusting. People think wearing see through leggings are appropriate for work, and that not ripped jeans are formal wear. Its too much for me. I say put your dress code on your invite and talk to people to make sure they are on the right page. Not everyone is going to know what cocktail attire means, which is why talking to them is best or even putting some details on your website if you have one. I’ll be honest, I wouldn’t know what you want exactly by cocktail attire. I’d throw on a cute knee lenght dress and shoes and call it a day but who know if that is what YOU think of when you envision cocktail attire. Should people know this? Sure, but we as a society don’t and there are so many opinions out there it can get confusing to someone trying to figure it out. 

    Put what you want on you invite and talk to your guests. And brace yourself for all the rest of the comments that follow. Good luck.

    Post # 9
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    You don’t tell your guests how to dress. They will be able to tell how formal your wedding is from the tone set by your invitations, website, etc. 

    Most adults know how to dress themselves. Even if they don’t, most know to ask. And if they show up in jeans, then you accept them graciously because they traveled all the way to Paris to celebrate your wedding….

    Post # 10
    30388 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    babygrandmabee:  The only Bee who used the words rude or tacky was you.

    You mentioned that people don’t know proper etiquette re social attire. This is one site where brides can get assistance with that, but only if people can give (and receive) honest advice.

    Post # 11
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I did not specify attire. From experience with both our families, I know that 95% Will come dressed for the ocassion, and the remaining 5% wouldn’t come dressed appropriately even if we did specify a dress code.


    Post # 12
    2343 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I guess we’re aiming for cocktail attire – we aren’t expecting tuxedos and formal gowns, but a suit (or even trousers and a button up) and cocktail dress would be appropriate. We aren’t putting a dress code on our invitations – we’re pretty sure our guests will know how to dress. The only time I have ever received an invitation with a dress code is when it’s been a dress up event, black tie or a certain colour has been requested.

    Post # 13
    1786 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    babygrandmabee:  +1

    I couldn’t agree with you more. Some things just need to be put in black and white for certain guests to understand.

    Post # 14
    994 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    It always surprises me that people have friends and family that can’t figure out how to dress for a wedding so they need a dress code. I didn’t specify a dress code and not one single person showed up in jeans. And I’ve been to tons of weddings and never seen a dress code yet somehow everyone manages to dress appropriately. Sorry, I just don’t believe it’s actually a problend like it’s made out to be by so many on this site. 

    Post # 15
    6532 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If someone used their money and time to fly nine thousand miles to come to my destination wedding, I don’t think I’d be too likely to nag them about their attire. Just saying. It’s already asking a lot of them just to expect them to turn up. Don’t be a jerk and demand certain attire in the bargain. Appreciate what they are already doing to attend your wedding.

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