Post # 1
Ok, if you read my last thread Can I tell her no? (http://boards.weddingbee.com/message.php?id=2256619#axzz2sN0kXTyk), you’ll know that my cousin is getting married but didn’t ask me to be one of her bridesmaids but instead asked me to be the guest book attendant… I’m a married woman so I felt that being her guest book attendant was a bit demeaning on her part.. So I told her no (in a very polite way) and her response was that she understood and that she hopes I’ll still take part in bridesmaids things (which I probably won’t because that’d be awkward).
Well, I found out that the reason she didn’t ask me to be one of her bridesmaids is because if she asked me, she’d have to ask our other cousin who is a good bit overweight and she didn’t want her to “ruin” the appearance of her bridal party! She and my (overweight) cousin were both in my wedding and I never even thought twice about anyone’s weight… I chose my bridesmaids because I love them and am closest to them.. Not because of how they look. I’m a bit outraged that she would so shallow to not put her in her wedding because of looks. Anyone else go through this??
Post # 3
@dreamer1288: wow – that sounds like a wedding party you don’t want to be in anyways. There will probably be an awful lot of rules about being in that one.
Post # 4
This is disgusting! I’d never speak to that shallow B**CH again let alone have anything to do with her guest book LOL!
Post # 6
@dreamer1288: she sounds mean, and I think you dodged a bullet. I was the biggest bridesmaid in my friends wedding, and the bride did not care at all. I actually said something along the lines of “I’m going to lose a few more lbs before the wedding!” And she said “What? Why? You’re fine!”
On the other hand, I have a friend who was made to cry because she didn’t fit in the dress the bride had picked. The bride made her feel horrible about it. She wishes she had just dropped out of the wedding, as they’re not even friends now.
Weddings bring out the best and worst in people!
Post # 7
@dreamer1288: You’ve learned a sad truth about a character deficiency in your cousin. She’s shallow. It’s unfortunate.
Post # 8
You are completely right… Weddings do bring out the worst and best in people… You definitely see people’s true colors.
Post # 9
I have actually thought to myself how grateful I am to NOT be in her wedding… I don’t want to spend a year of my life hearing crap from her and her just as shallow bridesmaids. I have better things to do with my time!!
Post # 10
@dreamer1288: That is rude and hurtful! I think you dodged a bullet by not being in her wedding. If she is already being so shallow and uptight about the “look” of her wedding can you imagine what kind of monster she will be as the wedding date gets closer and closer?
Weddings really do bring out the crazy in some people.
Post # 11
Weddings can definitely bring out the worst in people and, in the case of your cousin, highlight their negative traits in a really awful way. If this is truly how your cousin feels, then I think it’s best you aren’t in that wedding. I could not put up with someone like that.
I’ve always been very, very curvy. It’s just the way I was made. I’m very short, but have a big butt and DDD breasts, so I always look a little rounder that most girls. I’ve been in five weddings now. Four brides made me feel awesome, picked okay(ish) dresses and never gave my weight a second thought (as far as I know). The fifth bride, picked a dress that was backless, so wearing a bra was not an option. All of the other A and B cup bridesmaids were fine, but I had to perform voodoo magic on the dress. She picked a dress that didn’t come in my size without a $150 surcharge and basically bullied me into losing weight. I can’t express enough that I love the way I look. My SO LOVES the way I look, but she didn’t want me to stand out so much from the other girls she chose, to which I asked her why she even chose me. Weddings make people crazy, but it also alerted me to how shallow she could be. Needless to say, she will not be in my wedding.
Post # 12
@dreamer1288: Oh, that’s just horrible!! Although, if you *were* one of her bridesmaids, you could show up on the big day with a massive fake tattoo and an pink and green mohawk. Oh, yes, and several huge fake zits. Big yellow fake wax teeth. LOL Oh, my bad.
Post # 13
@dreamer1288: wow…..shallow much…geez. :/
Post # 14
@dreamer1288: I cannot stand it when brides use their bridal party as props! They’re human beings, not just objects that look good in photos!
Post # 15
I agree! When I look at my photos, I don’t see accessories… I see the women I care about and love and feel honored to have had them stand by me on my special day. I LOVE seeing their faces in my photos! It makes me so happy. Not a single regret.
Post # 16
@dreamer1288: That’s terrible! But if you didn’t hear it directly from her, be careful with how seriously you take it, you know?