- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Bees, I’ve been going from feeling angry to hurt to confused to mad at myself on this one.
I’ve had a friend I’ve known basically since birth. She’s a church friend, and we had been close for a long time. When we went away to college, we weren’t quite as close, but when we both moved back home, we remained friendly.
I had gotten engaged before her, and while I didn’t ask her to be a member of our bridal party, I invited her and her boyfriend to our wedding. It never entered my mind to not invite her. Like I said, we weren’t BFF, but we certainly still talked.
She got engaged about a year before my wedding. We started talking more and more. She was interested in wedding planning, how the process was going, where I went to find my dress, all that stuff. She had even asked me where I got my invitations. I had asked her how wedding planning was going, and she told me that they just sent out invitations.
I never got invited. My cousin did (we all go to the same church, but my cousin is a little older), and she said she was surprised she had gotten invited. I figured maybe they were having a smaller wedding.
Well, the wedding happened, and it wasn’t a small affair. I’m feeling a lot of different feelings, but the biggest one is confused. What happened that someone I’ve known forever, someone I’ve been friends with for a long time, didn’t invite me? I’ll be honest, it hurts to see some of the comments on Facebook, about how much fun everyone had. Then, part of me thinks, “Well, why was this person invited, but not me?”, which is the angry side coming out. Part of me is telling me to let it go and suck it up…but it just confuses the tar out of me, since she had been asking me so much about planning, and we’ve known each other since birth.
I guess I also just feel like the odd one out, since nearly everyone else in our church was invited. I want to know, what did I do? Or what happened?