(Closed) What happened to letting the guy pick out the ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3943 posts
Honey bee

We picked it out together because we wanted to. It’s something I will be wearing for the rest of my life, we both wanted it to be perfect. It did not make the proposal any less exciting and I was still surprised.


Post # 4
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I picked it out. My SO has picked out jewellery for me before, with epic fail results. This was with guidelines too! I’m fussy, I knew he had no idea, and I know he would have spent more money than I was comfortable with. And I’m fussy 🙂

Post # 5
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We picked it out together, but not until after he’d already proposed. He wanted me to have input because I intend to be wearing it for the rest of my life, and don’t want to look at it one day and say, “If this hadn’t come from him, I really would not like it…” Plus, he wanted me to have what I like. 🙂

Post # 6
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m going to guess that back when men used to exclusively pick out their ladies’ jewelry, there were fewer styles to choose from…? Just a hunch. For me, there are many beautiful rings out there, but only ONE that I absolutely drooled over. I’d probably be happy with another style, but he knows that I’m picky. I usually choose the restaurant, the vacation spot, etc – with some input from him. Why would the ring be any different? I’m not going to lie – I’d be disappointed if I wasn’t able to get THAT ring that I want! 🙂

Post # 7
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

My Fiance has picked out jewelry before, and has done a pretty great job. But my engagement ring is something I will wear every single day for the rest of my life, and I love jewelry, wear a lot of jewelry, and have specific tastes. I’m not doubting he would have done fine, but I don’t know if he could have picked something that I love as much as the one I picked for myself. I also don’t really like surprises of that importance and magnitude.

I explained it to him like picking out a guitar for him: he plays guitar a lot, and the guitar I would pick out for him would probably be fine, but would it be the style, tone, color, specs of something he would have picked for himself? Most likely not.

Post # 8
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My now Darling Husband is visually impaired so wanted me to pick the ring as he can’t see the detail and he was stressed about the process and not being able to pick properly. Some people have circumstances where non traditional is the only option. 

Post # 9
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would have been disppointed if my husband had asked me to pick my own ring. I’m glad it was a surprise, but then I don’t really care for jewellery.

Post # 11
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance was going to pick out my ring, but I think he got cold feet just before he ordered it and decided to take me shopping instead.  I ended up choosing a ring that was actually cheaper than the one he had selected.

About a month after we got engaged, he showed me the ring he was going to get and it was beautiful – And very similar to what I actually chose.

If he’d have chosen it himself, it would have been fine – I think he just needed some reassurance. 

Post # 12
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

I picked out my ring with him because we were at the pawn shop together getting movies anyways…. I chose one of the rings there because I loved the design, it was only $89.

Post # 13
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Bostongrl25:  <


I’m also kind of picky, and he knew that too. So we picked out something that I liked together. If he had been the woman, we would have done it the same way, cause he’s just as picky!

Post # 14
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@blueskye: Just wanted to let you know that you weren’t the only one who let their SO pick out their ring. My Darling Husband picked out my ring on his own. The only thing he knew was that I liked round diamonds. Once he picked it out, he took my SIL to see it to make sure he wasn’t choosing something completely hideous :o) But I love that he picked it out on his own, and he was so proud of himself!

Post # 15
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Fiance picked out the ring himself.  He did good.  =)

Post # 16
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My husband totally picked out the ring, but he did take me to look at some jewelry stores to get an idea of what I liked. He wanted to make sure he knew my tastes in rings before he selected one. So, I was still surprised.

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