Post # 1
So I met my ex from a dating site in December. We were together and in love for 5 months. He broke up with me mid April because of my bitchy issues (he was very sensitive and I tend to say whatever comes to my head without much of a filter)… I promised to be more careful with my words and all that so we got back together a week later or so….2 weeks went by or so, and he broke up with me again because he said he didn’t have the strong feelings for me anymore like he had. He said he wants to, but they aren’t there. He didn’t know why and was very upset by it. Well, that was almost 1.5 months ago and my stupid heart still isn’t healed. This is not like me. I normally bounce back fairly quick (couple weeks) from a failed relationship. My heart feels numb. I am not upset, sad or mad. But the lack of wanting to love again scares me. I am a very loving, emotional person and to not feel anything is so weird…I have been hanging out with different guy friends and such that I would have loved to date in the past….but nobody seems to “do it” for me lately. I have always just gotten over break ups fast. However, the 3 times I got my heart broken in my life, were the hardest to overcome…which definitely makes sense! I don’t know….Anyone else been through this weird numb phase? I am kinda scared I won’t get feeling back in my heart….ugh!
Post # 3
Yes I’ve had the “numb” phase you describe, but we’d been together years and it lasted months and months. You will bounce back and move on. No one forgets the “good” relationships (or at least the good parts). But it doesn’t mean they’re the “right” relationships. When you know, you know.
I wonder whether this new relationship was a “rebound” from your ex fiance? Perhaps you still have those feelings to deal with
Best of luck.
Post # 4
yes, with my ex boyfriend years ago. We were off and on and I just kept going back to him time after time and he kept dumping me cus he just changed his mind. Like i really didn’t know anybetter. If you were to ask me at the time – i’d tell you i only want him. But the fact of the matter was he didn’t want me. And looking back we may have said we loved each other but we weren’t IN love and i didn’t really know what love really was yet. He was the reason I put my profile on match.com. A few months later I had just had a fight with him and I went away for the weekend with some friends and ended up crying and making bets that i was going to be single forever. The next day I got a message on facebook (he saw my profile on match) from the man thats now my fiance. That was nearly 4 years ago. Looking back i’m angry with myself for putting so much time and effort into someone who clearly didn’t want me. But little did i know the pain he was causing me was exactly what was leading me to the man that really did care.
Keep the faith and remember what you want and what you deserve. Just because you are having a hard time getting over someone doesn’t mean you are supposed to be with that person. I was lost pretty much up until the day i met my Fiance.
Post # 5
I think this happes to most people. You just need to focus on yourself, eventually that guy will come around and your heart will spark again and you will no longer feel numb. But until then take the time for yourself 🙂