(Closed) What happened to my perfect marriage?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 92
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1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am so sorry.  I cannot believe the update I just read, truly heartbreaking.

Sadly, you did the right thing, in that you demanded an answer.  You certainly do NOT deserve to be dangled along.  Sadly, his response was that if an immature *ss, whom is too chicken sh*t to work on things with his WIFE.  I am sorry if that is offensive, but certainly we all know you deserve so much more in life.

Your feelings right now are valid.  This will be one of the hardest things you will need to get thru.   However, with time, and support from those that love you most, you will return back to you, or even a better/stronger version of the you today.  Because there is not a whole lot I can say to make it better, I will recommend an amazing book that truly helped me thru a devastating loss.  “Getting Past Your Break-Up. How to turn a devastating loss into the best thing that ever happened to you”.  Save the 5 Languages of Love for the guy who is willing to fight for you every.single.day.

Good luck! 

Post # 93
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1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@TaterSalad:  wow ๐Ÿ™  Why is counseling not an option??  That way you both can go together and figure out what it is, you both must love eachoter to say I DO just 2 months ago, can that much really change??  I think you guys need to try and fight for it…..

A great book is the 5 love languages!!!  my husband and I read it when we did our premarital counseling, it was a lot of fun to read tofether and really opens your eyes to the needs of your partner ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Good Luck, I hope you guys dont quit after just 2 months please try to work on it, afterall they say the 1st year of marriage is the hardest!! 

Post # 95
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7851 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Im so sorry.  As someone who has gone through divorce- I completely understand the shame/embarrassment of having to face people and let them know it did not work out.  And while this sucks now, please please know that it will get better.  When my marriage ended I pretty much thought my world was over.  But here I am 6 years later married and with a new baby.  I wish you every happiness.

Post # 96
Member
5399 posts
Bee Keeper

There seems like more to the story here. I think you will both regret giving up so early without counseling or anything. Good luck!

Post # 97
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Give it a fair shot!!! Love is not sunshine and lollipops all the time. You should know this after 7 1/2 years! It sounds to me like hubby is just overwhelmed… I think y’all can make it with some work. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sorry you are struggling, but there are struggles in any relationship that lasts. And sometimes I think the beauty is in how you come out of those. Good luck! 

Post # 98
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just saw the update. I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™ I didn’t know he was so dead set on it. That’s on him, not you. Good luck, sweetie. No judgement here- and ignore my previous post. That only works if BOTH of you want it to work. He gave up on your marriage without giving it a fair shake. I wish only the best for your future. 

Post # 100
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What an asshole.  I’m sorry, but he is.  Giving up after two measly months of marriage?  Come on.  Man the hell up, guy.  Someone wasn’t taking their vows too seriously. I’m also wondering why the two of you can’t go to counseling.  I apologize if you’ve already mentioned it. 

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