(Closed) What happens if decide NOT to invite someone I sent a STD to?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you can un-invite her without looking super catty. I would still invite her and hope she didn’t show. lol 


Plus, who knows, maybe she’s not paying for the trip she’s going on? 

Post # 4
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Im so totally laid back about this stuff so I vote that if you don’t want to you don’t have to. Etiquette says otherwise I believe. Just make sure you are okay with the friendship ending, because I would presume that would occur.

Post # 5
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I say you still have to invite her if you sent a STD.  If she’s really not that great of a friend anymore and doesn’t care enough, she won’t come.

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

You mean besides the etiquette gods smiting you?

I would think if you’ve drifted apart, the people in question have felt it too, and may not even be expecting one. I personally don’t feel like this rule applies to people you’ve had a change of relationship to, but more like if you decide all of a sudden that it’s so much cheaper to have a 100 person wedding, rather than a 300.

Post # 7
3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I say you only invite who you want to. I had a few people I gave STD’s too and they ended up being pretty shady in the end. I will not be inviting them after all.

Post # 8
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you have to do what is right for you. You are probably going to get a few reponses to this question stating that etiquette-wise, you are obligated to invite her. But I think, considering that there are 10-15 invitations reserved for dear friends, not family members, you have to invite who is truly and deeply important to you and your Fiance. And she doesn’t sound like is all that important in your life anymore, so I don’t think she deserves an invitation at this point. And it’s better that you found out before the wedding, than later when you might have wasted an invitation on someone who wasn’t so deserving of one. It would be different if you were having a 150+ person wedding.

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