(Closed) What happens if you pass away wearing your e-ring/wedding band?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@JustLove25:  I would hope you would tell your family what you would prefer. My grandmothers were valuable, we removed them and kept them, though in her final days she might not have been wearing them (being in the hospital a lot, etc). My great-grandmothers were stolen off her fingers in the hosptal post-mortem before family arrived– a reason why I never wear any jewelry there, even if I’m going for a quick scan and don’t expect to be there long. I like the idea of giving them down the line… to me it’s more romantic for my ring to be given to my granddaughter than buried with me.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You’d probably have to have something in your will that states you want to be buried with them, or that if you want to be cremated that they be placed in the urn. Or entrust them to a family member. I’m passing mine to my daughters.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@love108:  Ditto.  We kept the diamond but she was buried in her band. 

 

ETA:  That is absolutely terrible about the post mortem theft!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do people still rob graves?

I’m passing both of my e-rings down to my daughter. My second ring is a sapphire which is her birth stone. I hope she loves it as much as I do. Hopefully no one robs my grave and I can be buried with my wedding band or Mr. Biscuit can keep it close to his heart. He’s cheesy like that 😉

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 1994

My rings each are specially designated for nieces, as I have no children.  My stepson will get other items.  Since I was married on July 4th I do have an anniversary ring that is ruby diamond sapphire.  That ring will go to my niece who was born on Flag Day, another red white and blue day, so I found that to be fitting.  My newest 1.57 cw goes to my sister’s daughter and the other jewelry I have I’ll probably draw straws to see who I leave what to …. or when they get older (currently only 4 and 2 1/2) to see if either of them make comments or favor certain pieces over others.  I will not be buried or burned with any jewels…. I’m also about the history and heirlooms. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I hope to have a daughter to pass these down to one day.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldn’t want to be buried with any of my jewelry for fear of graverobbers.  

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just recently had my will re-done to make sure my wedding set stays with my soon to be husband. I’m sure when/if we have children I will change it to reflect it going to my daughter if I have one. I don’t want to be buried with it, I can’t take it with me!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

To me, burying them in a waste. I, at least, know what it feels like not really being able to afford (or SO afford) a ring, and being able to inherit a family heirloom, which is super special, or use a family stone, is really priceless! Future generations should be able to wear them in your memory!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would think your family would make that call if you hadn’t specified anything ahead of time. Personally, I wouldn’t want to be buried with mine (even though my plan is to be cremated). While super romantic, it seems like a waste to me. I’d rather leave my rings to future generations or let Darling Husband keep them (assuming I passed before him). 

As for the whole hospital thing, I don’t trust anything of value there. I was worried about Darling Husband keeping his wedding band with him when he was in the hospital a few months ago but he refused to take it off (aww). 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have actually never thought of this…I don’t really want children so that’s out. So, I guess I would be burried in them.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsElopement:  No niceces, nephews, friends, even? Just an interesting thought. I guess even if I didn’t have kids, I’d still want someone to be able to enjoy them 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To each their own.  I’d want to pass on my jewelry.

My brother received my grandmother’s ring, and used it for the center of a three stone ring for his wife (past, present, future they called it).  He proposed in college, so otherwise he might not have been able to get her much of a ring.  My aunt actually received the ring after both grandparents passed, and my mom sweet talked her into giving it to my brother after he got engaged (he proposed with his college ring he got his third year, just as my parents had done) rather than having her pass it on to my cousin.

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