I apprecite the thread, because I had the post-wedding blues big time. My fiancee and I had been together two and a half years, and had been engaged for six months when we got married. I planned everything and was obsessed with wedding bee and all that.
One thing I think was hard for me about the couple of days before the wedding was that I couldn’t sleep. I tried, and even took sleeping pills, but would always wake up after 4 hours. In the days before the wedding I had tons of people to see and projects to finish up. I was exhausted all the time and also riding adrenaline, etc. Another factor was that I am just not used to being the center of attention all the time and though I am very social and I loved seeing everyone at the wedding events, I felt really worn out and sapped of energy by the time of the wedding.
The wedding went very well and was really beautiful. No big hitches at all. But I have to be honest and say that I don’t think I felt really relaxed until the very end of the night. I still felt primarily as though I was running an event and making sure everyone else was having a good time — that was my priority, not enjoying myself. (This is my own personality flaw, and I tried hard to let go of it, but I’m just a little too type-A I guess.) But like I said everything came off without a hitch.
Here is when the post-wedding blues hit. I woke up the next day (still only sleeping a few hours because of nervous energy) and just felt COMPLETELY PANICKED. Had I made a mistake? Were we going to get divorced? Was the wedding ok? What had I done? It was as if this weird tidal wave of terror and doubt swept over me. And you have to understand — our relationship was/is great! Nothing had changed! And yet I still felt panic-stricken. I was a weepy wreck the entire day. (My poor husband.)
This basically lasted for about three days. After that, after I got some sleep and got back into my routines, I felt fine. Now it’s been about 3 weeks since our wedding, and I feel great again. I’m so happy to be married to my best friend and partner in crime. But I think the wedding and the leadup were just so emotional and intense and exhausting, that I became a wreck.
OK this is the longest post ever, but the reason I’m writing this is to let other bees know that the post-wedding blues hit me HARD and it didn’t mean that I’d made a mistake or anything. Despite my best efforts to keep myself in good shape for the wedding and everything surrounding it, I wasn’t able to ward off exhaustion and emotional crisis. 🙂
But I’m ok now, and so happy to be married, and so happy it’s over. 🙂 If you’ve felt the same way, please know you’re not alone!