(Closed) What has been the most stressful part of wedding planning?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 17
    10451 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nothing has really been stressful so far, but I imagicut the guest list/FILs will be tough. I want to keep it no more than 170 (so a little less than 100 each), but they have already got 120 people in mind. So… This will be an issue. We don’t have to discuss it yet and they keep changing the list, but hopefully they won’t push too hard. It’s not an issue of money, but space. I don’t want a crowded place.

    Post # 18
    1900 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The fact that I’m having a wedding! I wanted to elope, so now my stress is from…

    1. fiance wanting a proper wedding
    2. fiance’s family wanting a proper wedding
    3. my family telling me I should ignore fiance and his family and do what I want
    4. making an acceptable guestlist (when my family is HUGE and my fiance’s family wants to invite everyone they’ve ever known)
    5. finding a venue that doesn’t suck that will accommodate what will most likely be 100-150 people
    6. figuring out all the details of the ceremony so it won’t suck too much (e.g. location, celebrant, music)

    I hate weddings….

    Post # 19
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You should add groomsmen because ours have been a pain in the ass…lol

    Post # 20
    43 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Deciding not to invite/include my father was by far the toughest decision I have made.

    Post # 22
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The SEATING CHART.  My husband and I fought over this to the point of my bursting into tears at some point LOL.  It’s ridiculous now that I look back on it, but at the time, it was infuriating!

    Post # 23
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    sadly, invitations gave us the most drama! we designed them ourselves and LOVED them… until it came time to print. i could NOT figure out the stupid screenprinter and wasted two days of my life. after i came out of the haze, i told my mom that someone else needed to do it… or i would strangle someone. after that, everything was a breeze!

    Post # 24
    3415 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    For us picking the date has been most difficult. I’be been really picky about the month and my venue type.  I wanted Oct for the month and some kind of rustic lodge for the venue.  Found my dream venue only they don’t do Oct weddings.  They are also really popular and book quickly so while I’m hem-hawing over an alternative date they are booking left and right.  FINALLY we’ve picked a date I can live with and while its not my dream date of early October I can live with late Sept.

    Post # 25
    2424 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    FAMILY. Both sides of the family got really obnoxious with making demands (adding to guestlist, inviting kids) and made threats and such that was just awful. It didn’t matter the day of, and I am over it mostly, but it caused me the most stress!

    Post # 26
    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Day-of logistics… timing, etc. It went just fine the day of, but creating a timeline made my  head swim!

    Post # 27
    4099 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My damn dj won’t call me back!

    Post # 28
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    bridal party and money

    Post # 29
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @BirdofaFeather:  I’m glad I’m not the only one!

    The Save-The-Date Cards and invitations were definitely the most stressful for me.  We designed them ourselves and I decided to DIY letterpress (having no experience) and write out the addredded in calligraphy (also no experience).  For the Save-The-Date Cards, each one had to be “letterpressed” three times (two colors, but originally was planning on three, so I had three plates made), and the invitation suite had four items, each having to be “letterpressed” two times (two colors).  I don’t even want to think about how long it took.  Oh, and I made well over double the amount that was actually needed due to the difficulty and the fact that I can be somewhat of a perfectionist.

    Other than that, the only real stressful thing was the tux rentals, particularly because my husband’s tux didn’t arrive, and when it finally did, it was the wrong size.  Thank goodness they had the right size at a semi nearby location! And thank goodness I didn’t learn about it until after the fact =)

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