(Closed) What has made people say, “You’re doing what?!?”

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 137
2 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

My fiance and I are getting married outside in a state park.  We are having a picnic reception.  I’m wearing a short white sundress (no veil) and he is wearing a blue button down and jeans.  We are both going to wear Vibrams (those funky looking toe shoes- mine will be blue.)  Instead of having wedding cake we are going for the most wonderful food I’ve ever had- s’mores.  I am making almost everything myself (except clothes- I can not sew to save my life.)  My family is super concerned about our marriage because they are very traditional and they say “this is no way top start a marriage.”  We say that we may as well start out our marriage as ourselves:)  Have fun girls and make your day reflect you guys!

Post # 138
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Paper flowers and mason jar centerpieces.

Post # 139
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sunday wedding

No alcohol, save for a champagne toast (although we did warn about this beforehand, esp to our friends, and I know some of them brought their own flasks. The Bridesmaid or Best Man was a Sloppy Alcoholic who gave up liquor after I called and screamed at him for over an hour after he ruined DH’s bachelor party two weeks prior. I’m still mad about it. Anyway, our friends know him as well, and completely understood. Really it was just my family from out of state who got huffy about it.)

No dancing (we served a Thanksgiving dinner. No one wanted to move afterwards. And Darling Husband and I aren’t big dancers. It wasn’t missed.)

Cupcakes (They got over their misgivings when they tasted them.)

Mismatched Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. 

No receiving line.

Colored flower girl dress. It was a huge orange tulle tutu, which is what I asked her mother to make. Some people thought she would outshine me. Really?? A 5 year old? I thought she looked fantastic. 

Fake flowers. 

Colored shoes. 

Non-floral centerpieces (Cornucopias filled with fruit and nuts). 

No RSVP cards (and we put an email address right on the invitation to RSVP to.)

A first look + family portraits before the ceremony. Only pretty much all our guests showed up super early, so everyone was standing around watching and taking pictures. I didn’t care in the least. Plus, 

Darling Husband was with me when I bought my dress. This got the most flak. My Mother-In-Law definitely winced, and she’s a total go with the flow new age hippie feminist artist. 

I only agreed to the bouquet/garter toss because Darling Husband *really* wanted to do them. 

ETA: The big one was the 3 month engagement, but I just sort of got side-looks, because everyone expected I was pregnant. 

Post # 140
17 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am totally stealing that mashed potato bar idea.  It would fit our upsacle carnival wedding perfectly!  But now I have to see what to kick off the existing menu… probably what makes most sense is the yukon gold frites with lemon aioli dipping sauce.  HMMM.

As for my whaaaaats… I think people have come to expect a unique wedding from me.  I’ve gotten lots of “what, that’s so awesome!”‘s moreso than “you’re doing whaaaaat?”

The more whaaaaaaat moments have come from the no wedding cake (we’re doing pies), not registering, and no dancing (but we’ll have carnival games, caricature artists, magician, cotton candy and popcorn!)

Post # 141
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Surprisingly everyone has been really supportive of my “weird” decisions. At first they are like “What?” but usually I show them a WB or other blog pic and they come around.

Some of the things:

I am wearing navy blue shoes under my dress.

My dress is actually a bridesmaid dress in white. This is it!

The men are wearing converses with their tuxes (at the insistence of Mr. D)

We are doing cupcakes instead of a big cake

I am handmaking paper flowers due to my severe allergy of pollen (which sucks, because I do love me some real flowers, but I don’t want red swollen eyes all day).

We are also doing a first look and most of our pictures beforehand.

I too am not really wearing a veil…well a birdcage veil, but since I’m the first of my generation to get married on both sides of my family, the females really only remember long frilly veils.

My wedding band is blue sapphires and white diamonds. Apparently none of my elders have caught onto the gemstone craze. They are especially surprised when I tell them that my e-ring is a white sapphire (I don’t like diamonds- its a personal thing).

However, like I said, most of my family has come around and are really supportive 🙂

Post # 142
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Red Hot Chili Peppers music in my ceremony….Def making people say “WHAT”

Post # 143
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@K_alecia: what song??? I love Anthony Keidis, and if you haven’t already, you should read Scar Tissue, great book!

I’m not wearing a veil

All of our ceremony music is going to be The Beatles, as well as entrance song, cake cutting song and probably first dance song.

I am making fabric flowers, my Future Mother-In-Law looked at me like it was the tackiest thing she ever heard of

Birdcage centerpieces, NO ONE understands that one!

Post # 144
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The things I get “WHAT?!” responses to:

* My mother is not attending the wedding as we are estranged. So no one will be giving me away. Fiance and I will meet each other in the middle of the aisle as a symbol of always meeting each-other half way.

* I plan on wearing a short dress, kind of like this picture of a fellow WB member.

* I will not be wearing a veil of any kind.

* We will not use the traditional “here comes the bride” music.

* My bouquet is made of fabric flowers from Michael’s craft store. This one really seems to bother my Future Mother-In-Law.

Post # 145
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Having at my parent’s acerage was the biggest one…everyone thought I’d get married in a church but I could never see myself doing that. Also, getting married at 4pm instead of the morning…I’m expecting it to go all night so I figured we better start later than LOL

Post # 146
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 @ Bostonsmom – Hard to Concentrate.

It is soooo beautiful. The song gives me chills and gets me weepy when I think about The bridal party all walking down to this song!

I will have to look into that book – thanks! I think Anthony Keidis as awesom too…..all in all RHCP is musical genius to me!

Post # 147
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SoonToBeeMrsD: “My dress is actually a bridesmaid dress in white. This is it!”


i put that in my list of things too, but actually everyone has been supportive of that decision too when they see a picture and are like it only cost what?!  here is my “bridesmaid” wedding gown— mine will be in ivory

Post # 148
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

we are getting married abroad….

we are not having a reception,  just a nice meal in an intimate resaurant by the beach

i am having a brooch bouquet


all these things raised eyebrows and questions…..

Post # 149
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am wearing red shoes ( gotten the response TWICE, that I won’t go through with it and will regret it. I don’t understand it’s just SHOES, I am getting married outside and white would stain, and it’s young and fresh – just like me 🙂 )

My bridesmaids are wearing black , GASP! I guess people in small town ohio think black should only be used in funerals, they don’t see it as chic and classy – sigh.

I am wearing a mermaid gown- ya I was told my father would find it inappropriate that my wedding gown is form fitting. I sure hope not :s O it’s also a sin that I am wearing a chapel length veil and not having a formal ceremony.

I saw screw all the nay sayers who are stuck in 1950.

Post # 150
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You guys are making me laugh…and starve!!!  Potatos, cake, cake balls, I can’t even deal with the food, SO GOOD!  My favourite is when you tell someone something about the wedding and they get really quiet and go, “oh..hmmm”.

– “What do you mean you won’t have a soloist at your wedding????”

– “You HAVE to personally sit with every table and thank them!”

– “So…the favours are JUST the pictures from the photobooth?  No treats?”

– “You mean the photographer you hired does casual shots and no posed shots???”

– No garter (not my thing)

– No flower toss (giving it to FH’s grandparents as they have been married the longest at the wedding) –> “Well….can you toss something?”  How about I toss you????  (crickets).

– “What do mean a limit on 2 mins per speech?  And the entire wedding party can’t give a speech????”

The list continues….

Post # 151
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my VR has people saying WHAAAAT????

my mother in law is having a hissy and thinks its stupid, fine she dont have to go.  Its been almost 20 years lady, i aint going anywhere, get over it…

So this will really freak her out…

As soon as we kiss after we say our vows the DJ knows to put on Fat Boy Slim “Praise You”  and then everyone will get up  (on the stage) and dance with us.

going to have a cheesecake bar instead of wedding cakes (along with cupcakes)

No flowers, no artificial, no real – just paper (I’m starting them already)

My eldest son will play guitar and a song for us on stage before the ceremony, then stand with my husband.

My daughter will walk by herself and also say something

My youngest son will walk me down the aisle, before standing with his dad.

oh,and this time around, I AM getting the great dress.  We kind of settled the first time around, but after 20 years.  We deserve this:) 



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