Post # 1
I think it’s so interesting how different “real” weddings are outside of the blogworld. I’ve been moving along with all of my plans, and have kind of shocked by people’s reactions to stuff that seems totally normal in the blogosphere but is almost rebellious outside of it!
I’m still confident and happy with all of my decision, I am just a little surprised by how few people (myself included) have been to weddings with non-traditional aspects vs. how many non-traditional weddings we see online!
The two main things that have elicited the scrunched up face and “really . . . . ?” from most people, are my colored shoes and lack of cake (having a dessert buffet complete with smores, a chocolate fountain and brownies). Once I tell them a little bit more about it, people get it and think it’s neat, but those two things have started the most conversation!
I know so many of you girls are going a little outside of the lines when it comes to your weddings. What things that you’re doing have gotten a “You’re doing what?!?” response from people?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Wearing cork loubs
Having a club-circuit dj
Kraft paper runners
Our whole engagement shoot
Need I go on? :p I think I just live to ruffle the feathers a little bit.
Post # 4
Really, colored shoes? I can’t believe some people think that’s surprising!
We’re getting the stunned reactions from
-a non-church wedding
-I’m making the cake (hopefully)
-not having an open bar (beer, wine and signature drinks seem okay to me, but some people think it’s cheap I guess.)
and I’m sure there will be more when people start hearing our details (i.e., I’m wearing colored shoes as well, we’re not planning to spend the night before the wedding apart, we’re planning on doing family style dinner, etc.)
I’m still deciding whether or not to wear a traditional veil. I love birdcages, but I think everyone will go insane when they hear that. I might do the old ceremony/reception swap.
Post # 5
I get it about having hot pink shoes all the time!
I guess non-wedding fanatics don’t know how big of a trend it is LOL
Post # 6
not serving dinner. our ceremony started at 8 pm. the cocktail (open bar) and hors duerves (heavy, with several displays and passed food) reception went from 830 to midnight. even though it was on the invite and website, people were still shocked (and some offended) about no dinner.
the colored shoes
no veil (grandma threw a fit)
the 9 BMs/14 GMs (only about 125 guests)
the outdoor wedding (catholic family)
no flower girls or ring bearers
no sisters, neices, nephews in wedding
no bouquet or garter toss
the list goes on and on…in the end, hubby and i had a blast. *most* of the guests had a blast. shove their opinions. its your wedding
Post # 7
no children at the wedding or reception (but they are so cute!!! umm…. no they arent…)
my wedding colors of brown, green, ivory and antique gold (ummm really? isnt that kind of “dark?” ugh.)
fit and flare dress (but you look so cute in the poofy one!!! …. yes which is why im not getting it…)
uneven bridal party – AND 12 attendants for our 120 guest wedding (*gasp* THATS SO…. TACKY!!!!)
renting a party limo bus for the bridal party
i shudder to think what will happen when i tell them i want a bluegrass band for the cocktail party….
Post # 8
All you ladies have wonderful ideas!
Some of them sound a lot like what I am doing..
I have yet to announce all the plans I’ve made on my own because I am still ‘waiting’.
Both of our families know it’s coming soon and we’ve already set a date, but I’ve kept the details to myself.
My grandma is not happy we aren’t having it in a church, so I can just imagine what they all will think when I reveal the rest of the plans including a hog roast reception and growing my own flowers..
I do not fret, as being the eldest grandchild, I have generally been able to steer things to go “my way”.
Wish me luck 🙂
Post # 9
Yup, I got it for the colored shoes too! Some old ladies at the dress alterations shop said, “She has PINK shoes?! What does THAT mean?!” I just laughed.
Some people don’t like that we’re not paying to get everyone wasted all night. (We’re either doing drink tickets or free beer and wine for a couple of hrs) I could care less.
The only thing my Fiance wanted for the wedding was karaoke, so I’m having our DJ do karaoke for the last hour or so of the reception. If people don’t like it they can leave early 🙂
We’re not having it in a church.
Post # 10
– having a short gown
– making my veil
– having colored shoes (turquoise!)
– not having a religious ceremony / not getting married in a church / asking a friend to officiante
– not having expensive tacky favors
Post # 11
not wanting a fondant cake
Post # 12
Oh just about everything 🙂
The biggest was definitely that I made my own cake. Absolutely everyone thought that was a horribly bad idea. It turned out so amazingly awesome!
One of my friends gave me the hardest time about having potted plants for centerpieces because apparently dirt was going to leap from the pot into her plate.
My seamstress seemed very very dubious about me wearing yellow shoes.
My aunt didn’t think I should make my veil and thought I would regret not decorating the church and reception with miles and miles of tulle.
There was certainly more. In my case everyone was still very supportive, while making it completely clear they thought I was utterly insane. 🙂
Post # 13
It does seem silly that we get such hissy fits on our choices.
* Colored Shoes
* No “real” cake instead Cupcakes!
* No Veil
*No Bouquet Toss
* Keeping all my piercings in!(Big one!)
*Paying for it myself.. (Really b/c I am going to force my parents into financial strain. No thanks)
*Music Selection.. (But you can’t walk down the aisle to a song from a video game. Watch me!)
Post # 14
i’m having a very non traditional wedding that people seem to be fine with. short dress, nonmatching bridesmaids dresses, no dancing, most people aren’t invited to the reception, no bouquet toss/garter toss, etc. nobody seems to care. but the one thing people do comment on is the cake! we’re having croquembouche instead, and all we hear is “you can’t have a wedding without wedding cake!” well we are!
Post # 15
We’re doing a cha-cha for our first dance and everyone that knows is having a fit about it, including people I didn’t think would even care. The thing is I keep telling everyone is that its not some scripted/choreographed soulless dance (like lots of those youtube phenomenons). I have been a passionate dancer since 15, and one of Fiance and my first dates was at a salsa club, so it just fits with us. I’m not some bridezilla forcing my Fiance to cha-cha! FI’s half Brazilian (not that that’s an indication of his cha-cha skills…haha I think the dance is Cuban) and loves to dance with me, and we have really good rhythm when we dance fast dances, so it just made sense. I like the cheeriness of it! Goodness, so sue me, lame brownosers.
One of my girlfriends who is NOT a bm because I thought she was too flighty/not close enough with me even said something to the effect of “if only we ALL could be good dancers” and rolled her eyes. Excuse me? It’s not a talent show. Its a wedding. I get it. My wedding isn’t going to be like that horrendous American Idol-esque wedding on Bridezillas with that bride Kristen. Now shut up and just deal with our sexy moves, hahaha.
Whew, sorry for the mini-rant.
Hmm what else ?
I guess the only other thing that made my grandparents weirded out was my colored shoes, my bacon chocolate favors, and my hairstyle (not formal at all).
Post # 16
i think it’s amusing, their reactions, but i’m not budging.
– no photographer (my sister is still in shock, this coming from the girl who spent $8k on a package and has yet to get all her photos because they couldn’t decide from the proofs – fyi her 5 year anniversary is this friday) my friends who have been married and have had all these crazy photographers, videographers, etc…i’ve never once seen their photo albums any of the times i’ve hung out at their house. why pay for something that gets wrapped in tissue paper and stays in a box?
– no dj/mc. my friends spins. i don’t need to pay a stranger to harass my family and friends – that’s what i’m for! lol
– no flower centerpieces. i’m leaning towards ostrich feathers. the mock ups i’ve done are pretty damn awesome if i do say so myself. i have some time so i’m not rushing in doing them.
– i’m sure as i go further along in my planning i’m going to definately be getting more comments but Fiance and myself are paying for it so no one can really have an opinion, or at least one that i’m going to listen to!