(Closed) What has your SO done towards wedding planning??? (…or what did he do ;) )

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

A lot.  He handled all the negotiations and communication with the venue and again with the photographer.  I hate negotiating, my method is very simple.  Give me your best price, I will then decide if its worth it at that price point.  End of story.  I have no patience for the back and forth business.  Also, with the photographer, I was away skiing.  He contacted the both of us, but I wasn’t checking any emails.  So Fiance handled it and just called me with the end results to confirm I wanted to book.  Perfect. 

Yesterday I wanted to do a trial run of a centrepiece idea.  He was all over it.  And we found one we like, it needs 2 minor tweeks.  But it was fun to work with him on it.  

I designed the invites an he made a few changes.  

I booked the DJ and the officiant.  But he’s had a say in both.  He does a lot of computer work for everything – gathering emails and addresses from his side, designing the save the date, updating the budget, etc.

I have no complaints except that he’s insisting on a cake and I really wanted donuts.

Post # 18
4097 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

He verbally invited a few people from work. My husband was really dedicated to planning our wedding.

Post # 19
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Nothing! Haha. The only thing he cared about was having a plated menu vs a buffet. Ill ask for his opinion on things before I book, but he always just says whatever you think.

Post # 20
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  DH picked out the groomsmen attire (with my input) and he was involved in all of the decisionmaking except flowers.

He was always ready to listen to me vent/rant/rave and he visited all the venues with me and we made decisions together on venues, food, cake, STD’s, invites, dj, photograph, etc… but yea… the only thing he did completely on his own was order yarmulkes and groomsmen gifts!

I asked him for help on our invites and he did an admirable job placing stamps on the envelopes (we had 2 per invite and he took great care in lining them up so it looked like one stamp). He also ordered yarmulkes and groomsmen gifts on his own, but only because I told him if he wanted them he had to do it himself. I also made him write thank you notes to a few members of his family, only because I didn’t want to get stuck with all of them…

Post # 21
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My Fiance is awesome at budgeting and money, so that’s mostly what he’s working on for our wedding–trying to figure out how much money we need to pay for xyz. He also came with me to look at the venue, and he bought the stamps for our invitations before stamp prices went up.

Post # 22
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Umm, his friend is a cake maker do he had been clear since day one he wants him for the cake. But I’m still designing it lol. And he listens to all my stress and excitement 

Post # 23
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

He wasn’t that involved, meaning, he wasn’t interested in your typical mundane wedding stuff like colors, seating charts, napkins, and flatware etc. I am way more organized than him so he just let me do it…then wrote the checks lol

He also was there for me emotionally, and surprised me with random stuff when I was about to have a nervous breakdown (like a LV bag, nice dinner, movie tix), and he also surprised me with a honeymoon to the Galapagos Islands!  Organization isn’t his thing, but he sure knows how to treat his lil lady 🙂




Post # 24
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  I work during the day during the week and he works evenings right now so he’s been really good about calling potential vendors. We discuss what we want to do together. I will do most of the research. Then I give him lists of people to call and questions to ask since he has more daylight hours to do that. He’s been pretty good that way! And since he is doing that, I get his impression of the possible vendors so he’s having a substantial say in which direction we go with them.

A couple of times though before I started listing my questions, he would forget a bunch on the phone and they would just suggest I call (which he didn’t appreciate haha).


Post # 25
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

he was really involved in booking our photographer, he’s very interested in the menu (not finalized yet) and right now he’s out with friends looking at suits! 

he actually gets annoyed when people say ‘you can just show up!’ because he likes to know what’s going on and have input 🙂

Post # 26
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  My Fiance sewed all of the ribbon we are using for our center pieces. So there is roughly 300 ones he sewed(They go around our flower vases and tea light holders) We were just going to use double sided tape to attach them which looked okay, but he suggested sewing them. So he tried 1 and it looked really good and fit great. So I cut the ribbon and he sewed it. He had to take sewing in school because he couldnt take gym. He really bad asthma So his doctor wouldn’t let him. He took cooking classes as well Because of this. My Fiance has went shopping with me a few times for wedding stuff and suggested a few things and has made a few decisions on things like which looks better. He has also shopped on line for wedding things as well. He would show me things he likef and I may like. He was a bit more involved in the beginning than he us now, but that’s ok because I never expected him to be involved at all! He’s not really the type.

Post # 27
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Barely anything and quite frankly it’s pissing me off. Getting him to even research transportation was a huge deal and he still hasnt booked anything. I’ve been doing everything else alone and he “backseat” plans – I’ll bring up a vendor to book them then he starts critiquing.  /rant

BUT he has surprised me by getting me a new custom replica ering.


Post # 28
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My Fiance started out by saying “whatever you want the wedding is really your thing”.  That has morphed and he’s become pretty involved in a few things.  He’s somewhat responsible for finding our venue (I was going to go with the courtyard downstairs, he was the one who suggested that we look at the terrace upstairs).  We just did our STD magnets and he got super into deisgning a template (with mathematical precision) to help place the photo corners holding the magnets.  He’s also been really into the layout and design of the invites.

Post # 29
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Diamondgurl:  How was it?  My Fiance is DYING to go to the Galapagos Island

Post # 30
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

He made the music list for the DJ. Well, we did it together but he came up with 80% of the songs. 

I would research photographers and he would give his opinion and if he liked them or not. When we both agreed on the same one, is how we knew which photographer to pick. Same with videographer. I researched them, we reviewed their videos and picked one together. 

He emailed our jeweler about his wedding band. 

His personal vows. 

He is doing his attire, a black tux that he bought for a black tie function he had to attend for work that he only wore once a few months ago. What he’s wearing with it, I don’t know. He has great fashion sense so I don’t even ask. He also picked the tux color that he wanted for the groomsmen and made sure they all ordered them in time. 

Lastly, money. He’s paying for the wedding, so he’s been really helpful in that sense. 🙂

Anything else is all me. He could care less about flowers, linens, menu cards, favors, color scheme, decor, etc. 

Post # 31
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My Fiance is pretty involved as a planning partner- with some aspects more than others. He went to culinary school, so he is all about food and he is making our favors. He also cares more about music than I do. And he is commissioning an artist to do our save the dates (those are all him). He goes to bridal fairs, vendor appointments, and does other tasks I ask him to do on monthly to do lists. Last weekend he flew me out (we have an LDR right now) for a surprise wedding planning weekend he planned (cake tastings, vendor appts, venue visit, and he scheduled a dress shopping appt for me and invited my friends- my BF even flew in!).

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